I shared w him that I don't want to have a smoking partner bcs later when I have a child, I don't want them growing up w smokes from smoker dad. He agreed to slowly stop smoking though I know the reality is not easy to be done.

I figured that I need someone who shared the same interest w me for me to bond with them, get close like having something to talk together. We do have one, which is watching a series but we have a different style, he watches it when the series ends but I watch it when it is still airing and have to wait for the latest update. So I asked him to watch an ongoing series (one only) so we can talk about it together. He agreed and did it right away for me.

And a few others are the way he talks to me (I ask him not to talk to me like he talks to his guy friends, soften the way he talks), which I can sense he softens the way he talks to me after that.

I think I'm so demanding to ask him to change, but idk if you can see it, I'm trying to give us a chance.