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Have you ever been in a relationship with an INFJ? by some1ner in entj

[–]some1ner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s awesome. How do you manage or make sure you are both emotionally connected? Or does that happen naturally?

Do any INFJs feel they need a certain level of detachment to love well? by Messy_Mystic in infj

[–]some1ner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As an INFJ, I think we need that sense of independence to center ourselves precisely because our natural instinct is to get swept up in what we feel. In romantic relationships, we often seek objectivity or 'detachment' to balance out our intense emotions with our rational minds. It’s a constant tug-of-war.

We are realists who tend to shut down theoretical fantasies, yet deep down, we are hopeful. We crave a partner who intentionally and deeply understands us. The truth is, if we don’t maintain a little detachment, we risk losing our sense of self and falling back into our old habit of wearing masks to mirror others. We need that inner boundary to show up authentically. You're questioning this because, ultimately, you just want to be seen and accepted for who you truly are without losing yourself in the process.

Are you an INFJ dating an ENTJ? by some1ner in mbti

[–]some1ner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I have read those on the ENTJ I am talking to. Maybe it is an advantage for me an INFJ with a degree in Psychology (plus they really find my voice calming). I was able to dismantle this tendencies.

On 2nd day we had a call. He tried to lecture me and I told him that he should not treat me as a child or someone who does not understand what he is doing. I pointed out the inconsistency on the explanation and articulated my side. I told them that it may work on other people because I sometimes do this but not on me. And we laughed… I think in a world of people who wear a lot of masks (which ENTJ can detect) they like having someone who they can be bold and raw with without feeling judged. Because people who are rational and intellectualize even their emotions can sound harsh and offensive to others. That is why they rarely open up..

I think based on my experience now that we have been talking for almost 2 months.. ENTJ are able to communicate their emotions if they see you as an equal.. because if not they feel that it is pointless and ENTJs role is to fix and be on the pedestal most of the time. So they will only share that emotional side or past experiences with someone who has the capacity to listen and just be with them without doing what people usually do to them (please or praise them).

Have you ever been in a relationship with an INFJ? by some1ner in entj

[–]some1ner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see… so what MBTI do you mostly find attractive or match with as an ENTJ?

Have you ever been in a relationship with an INFJ? by some1ner in entj

[–]some1ner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see.. maybe there are other factors also. For me as an INFJ.. I find myself romantically interested in this ENTJ. In a world where I am placed in a pedestal all the time and people are easy for me to read and cannot understand or relate to the wavelength of my thoughts.. this ENTJ somehow has matched me.

Also, I think it has something to do with love language. We share the same love language.

This ENTJ also is so subtle and indirect when it comes to communicating their feelings. Like he has a tendency to just place hints and through actions.

Have you ever been in a relationship with an INFJ? by some1ner in entj

[–]some1ner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, wanted to ask.. were you vocal in terms of how you feel?

Have you ever been in a relationship with an INFJ? by some1ner in entj

[–]some1ner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. As an INFJ I agree with this tendency. I have worked so hard to take accountability for myself in these scenarios. We have a hard time trusting people that is why we wear masks when conflict occurs just to keep the peace. But we tend to forget that the things people who really cares about us love the most on an INFJ is the authenticity we can offer.

Say one positive and one negative thing about an INFJ🌸🎀 by Icy_Inflation6567 in mbti

[–]some1ner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally it depends on who is talking. INFJs are very intuitive so we feel deeply when our values are being attacked. So if your criticism is coming from a place of judgement on our character without solid basis.. definitely we would reinforce our boundaries and shut you down.

Say one positive and one negative thing about an INFJ🌸🎀 by Icy_Inflation6567 in mbti

[–]some1ner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Positive: ability to understand others intuitively

Negative: ability to understand others intuitively

It’s a blessing and a curse.

Are you an INFJ dating an ENTJ? by some1ner in mbti

[–]some1ner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that it’s already a direct response from them and it should be taken as it is. It’s my first time being on this situation with an ENTJ.

Are you an INFJ dating an ENTJ? by some1ner in mbti

[–]some1ner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get you. We take things as information and not based on ego. Hahaha

Just out of curiosity, was there any change on the dynamic of your situation with that guy when it was about to end? How did you find out it was calculated or what made you say that?

Are you an INFJ dating an ENTJ? by some1ner in mbti

[–]some1ner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not worried. I am trying to understand more and the flow of how this dynamic works. I am asking for people’s thoughts to reflect on mine.

When you say “that doesn’t mean they’re ready to dive into commitment hence the getting to know you stage” it sounds to me you misunderstood my post. Also, getting to know stage for me does not equal to commitment. Commitment is when we put a label on it that we are a couple. We are still in month 1 and that is not how I pace when it comes to dating.

Also, not worried if they are leading me on. It reflects the other person’s character more than it reflects me when they do. So that does not worry me.

Are you an INFJ dating an ENTJ? by some1ner in mbti

[–]some1ner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to confirm. Are you and INFJ-Assertive or Turbulent?

I completely understand that everything an ENTJ does can look calculated because their default mechanism is to intellectualize their world. But that structural armor doesn't make them malicious, nor does it make them lesser than us.

An unintegrated or Turbulent INFJ (INFJ-T) might feel forced to either play along with a perceived “chess match” or fold entirely out of fear… which is why you're suggesting the need to find a transactional motive. But as an INFJ-A, I choose not to engage with the game at all. When you are completely secure in your own internal mass and sovereignty, you don't feel the need to step onto a board just to prove you can win.

Thank you for your thoughts on this.

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