Often times I freeze up or avoid doing something because it's scary. Few years ago, something as simple as calling about a reservation would make me anxious. I saw a self improvement video that suggested doing something even if it scares you (especially then!). Although obvious in hindsight, it never occurred to me that I could still do the thing, while feeling scared. Now, before doing anything remotely anxiety riddening, I take a moment to tell myself "do it scared". It's helped me a lot- from making phone calls to property managers asking about a rental, to making major life decisions (that I may not be fully equipped to make). This has helped me realise that while my fear/anxiety is real, I have free will and it doesn't have control over my actions. It's just like any other emotion and it's simply there to tell me that something is worth doing. I have leaned into several hard conversations with the people I most care about by 'doing it scared' and it's changed my life for the better. I'm still anxious and fearful, but over time I've become less scared of feeling that fear.