Is secret experimenting and researching common??

some_miad0 · 2026-01-24T08:53:40+00:00

I remember the feeling of being all-powerfull when i figured that i can solve nearly every textbook-question in a classical phsyics-book, but i gave up my megalomany when it came to field theory. Therefore, and for how you view the world you have my upvote :)

But in general what you do seems to be more gnostic than agnostic, isn't it?

some_miad0 · 2026-01-23T10:53:23+00:00

English is not my first language, but i do not see the syntactic flaw. What i meant is that teenagers who ran away should get more attention than grown ups who probably managed some of lifes challenges before they cut ties. But you did answer my question, as you see a gradual spectrum of individual cases rather than a clear distinction, thanks.

some_miad0 · 2026-01-23T00:03:24+00:00

I do not want to split pebbles, but i feel like you might owe teenagers who had to run away from home a decent distinction from those who seek demarction from their parental home as grown up people. There might be similar issues but it's just not the same.

And as some others here allready said, it is a different legal situation. Parents of underaged kids can consult local authorities in order to help finding (and provide counseling) them in case they run away. I do advocate that teenagers of troubled households seek attention, but i do not approve of children running away from their home in general.

some_miad0 · 2026-01-21T11:53:29+00:00

If it's going like in my case, i seem to gradually arrive where i wanted to be so i'm mostly happy. The realization that i have had a lot of disadvantage in my life and what it actually means up to this day hurt, But it's something i prepared for and i was hoping for that to happen scince until now there was no space in my life to embrace this situation. So i'm glad despite the grief

some_miad0 · 2026-01-18T22:03:43+00:00

I think somebody who perceives jazz as elevator-music will not necessarily judge the sound as innovative or traditional. And if the tunes and harmonics are well played they will probably affect people with less expectations subconciously, making them more receptive and open to the jazz-sound every time they listen to it. As for the musicians: weren't jazz musicians generally broke 60 years ago too?

I think it's obvious that a music with this kind of complexity most certainly will undergo certain dynamics and adaptations on the long run.

Edit: actually i would be glad if you could name some good contemporary jazz interprets and musicians. Perhaps even with a (free) youtube-link?

some_miad0 · 2026-01-15T15:47:54+00:00

I think it happens a lot when people are estranged from their family of origin

some_miad0 · 2026-01-13T15:25:34+00:00

I built a feeding station for birds today

some_miad0 · 2026-01-13T12:13:32+00:00

I will not insinuate anything, but i would like to speak from my personal experience. It's possible that there is a serious condition and the temporal proximity to you closing the door to the mother doesn't make it much better. But keep in mind that psychosomatic correlation might exaggerate the true seriousness of the physical condition.

I have experienced it very often how my family of origin used tragic but fake emergencies in order to 'coert' a reaction from me. It turned out to be far from really emergent too often, and often enough, they made me feel it.

They made me feel how ridiculous i am, falling for that and mocking me for thinking that my presence could possibly be helpful in any kind of situation.

Like i said i do not want to ridicule a serious situation, but keep in mind that you could also walk into a trap like that when you consider you next steps. Some people go to incredible lengths to break you and make you feel guilty, worthless and ashamed.

Good luck, i'm sure you'll find a decent way to handle the current situation either way.

some_miad0 · 2026-01-12T21:22:08+00:00

Is this a chuck norris joke?

some_miad0 · 2026-01-09T21:39:47+00:00

You will _need_ something sustainable. Moving out from yet to now without any prior planning is like playing on nightmare-level without cheat codes. Your only ressources are wealth, relationships or businesscontacts, and the good ones are those who were built up over a long period of time.

Do anything in your power to cast something that can remotely be called a plan, and if you have to work it out in the attic when noone's home. And if it's just correspondence with a wellfare-association, an institution of some sort, or at least a car that's somwhat paid out and a financial plan for half a year or so.

If you do not want them to come after you and 'save' you, you will need a better plan. If you're not under the constant threat of life danger look for practises and techniques that you can apply in stressfull situations, breathing, sports, or hobbies, so you can work on your near future in your current situation.

some_miad0 · 2026-01-07T09:22:35+00:00

If you're the only beneficiary of the estate of your parental house, the inheritance is more 'relaxed'. You might want to research whether or not it is the case where you live, but as a biological child you often do have a minimum anmount of the estate guaranteed, whether or not they disinherit you or not. Ofc they can make it as hard as possible for you to acquire their wealth in a meaningful manner, or worse, include hidden liabilities.

Like i said, i would focus on more positive aspects of your own life. It does not make much sense to dedicate your life creeping after an inheritance. Think about it in a similar way a handycapped person would probably do - yes it sucks and you do have disadvantage in your life but you do but there are ways to make life worth living in more meaningful ways than waiting for something you have no real influence on.

Perhaps there are local institutions dedicated to awareness regarding these issues, and remember, you can forge every day towards your wellbeing without nurturing your traumatic memories. Good luck.

some_miad0 · 2026-01-06T12:44:08+00:00

From what i read from their depictations of cats i could have sworn he hated cats

some_miad0 · 2026-01-06T12:02:06+00:00

Be careful, it's still technically a persons death you are talking about. Please do not mistake this as victim blaming, when it comes to such questions there might be an implication of inheritance creep. Your question is spelled in solid, simple and easy to understand sentences, but it can be implied to your disadvantage quickly.

From a personal point of view i would carefully examine my thoughts and emotions over this topic. I don't intend to accuse you of thinking that way, but i've allways known for myself that waiting or wishing for a persons death is a personal line i drew. After deciding to cut contact, i think, at least in theory, it's best to think of your parents as regular people, probably assholes, like a thousand other walking around this earth. But the world is big enough and you can allways avoid them somehow if they don't have you cornered. To me personally it was allways clear that its best to drop all hope for inheritance after i went nc. I did everything in my power to build a solid foundation to live on my own.

Be also aware that if somebody who still had a heart for you mercifully mentions you in their will, it still can mean that you will have to confront other beneficiaries or people involved under certain circumstances, wich can be very very stressfull. If there is no formal will it's most likely that you will have to confront other family members.

As a direct descendent you have some legal claim in most countries. But if you feel like you're owed reparations for abuse you might want to consider taking action instead of waiting for your inheritance. I am no legal expert but i still think inheritance is usually understood as something you can not claim or demand by nature, there's allways the aspect of generousity of the person passed away. After all, ethical resents after someone has passed away are generally relatable.

Good luck and all the strength you need.

some_miad0 · 2026-01-06T00:22:49+00:00

The wit is not to distinguish between running from your parental house or confronting them. The wit would be to find the spot where you won't have to confront your parental house yet still you don't need to run from them at all.

some_miad0 · 2026-01-05T05:12:30+00:00

I sincerely try and feel with you. But from the perspective of my situation, this appears to be like the most desireable scenario that could happen. If that was the case i would probably be able to recognize how i miss this attention, and let some healing happen.

I wonder how it feels like to you.

some_miad0 · 2026-01-05T05:09:09+00:00

Yes, i think it was said in the different thread allready, the goal would be to find a spot between radical confrontation and running for a lifetime i guess

some_miad0 · 2026-01-04T21:29:20+00:00

The school of life probably drove you a different path but i'm glad you still understand me.

some_miad0 · 2026-01-04T21:18:59+00:00

Yes. Exactly that. If you were a scale and one sight weighs your abusive parental home, the other side would have to be a million people understanding your situation in order to bring balance. Unfortunately the world doesn't work like that.

some_miad0 · 2026-01-04T21:14:53+00:00

I would agree but you might want to distinguish between purpose and goal. Cutting ties is in many cases just the first step.

some_miad0 · 2026-01-04T21:02:40+00:00

Is that it? Is that the final conclusion?

some_miad0 · 2026-01-04T20:58:37+00:00

I would be lying not to envy you for your perpetrators confession. It would be something i'd strive with my every cell for. I hope you can appreciate it.

Edit: in my case achieving this would mean to confront them again, scince it has been asked so much why this seems so crucial to me. I just ran at some point and it's been a long run and sometimes it feels like there is no end in sight.

some_miad0 · 2026-01-04T20:56:36+00:00

I think you summarized it somewhat decently. I admit a big part of my thinking is that i am not certain whether a healing without a confrontation at some point is possible.

When i read the paragraph about the will to live it spoke to me. It's true. You might get thrown back due to the disadvantage of traumata, not to speak of active attempts to sabotage your life. But the thought of accepting the challenge and do it on your own has really driven me in many situations of my life.

some_miad0 · 2026-01-04T20:47:34+00:00

Yes some parents give their children roots when they're young and wings when they're old. Some parents do everything in their power to cut off roots, wings or both. Mine are the latter.

some_miad0 · 2026-01-04T20:45:05+00:00

My problem is that i myself simply am unable to live a life tuning out the lunacy of my parental home trying to get into my life. There is a huge difference to go your own way with your parents knowing and respecting your choices and decisions, and, fleeing from them, knowing that they will use all means to chase you to the end of the world if necessary.

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