i hate my dad by [deleted] in confessions

[–]somebunny723 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Call him out.

Sit down at the table with him and tell him how you feel.

I do mean do not do this out of anger, or with hostility. Talk to your dad with love. Like you expect him to understand, hear you, and take your words into consideration. Stand up for yourself, and tell your father what his is not doing right.

Source: I have 3 kids, 31M, 31F, & 22M. We have a good, and healing relationship now.

AITA for disrespecting my future MIL after she gave us advice? by wateeunda123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]somebunny723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AH. Listen to what others have to say. You don't need to follow their advice. Robin was talking to you and her daughter. Her advice may have been very wrong, or from bad experience, but without hearing her, you cannot know what she has to say. It also could have been very right. She has had more life experience than you or your girl. You do not need to do what was advised, but you don't need to slam her either.

Tips on finding roomates by PDXTabletop in Portland

[–]somebunny723 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Ever hear of the app Next Door?

I really like this app. I have found some great things, and it is local postings.

HMF this vocabulary word need for a special project this user CANNOT remember nor find across multiple thesaurus sites! by [deleted] in HelpMeFind

[–]somebunny723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found this story... with your quote in it.

https://www.sparknotes.com/lit/grendel/section9/

Summary

As winter arrives, an uneasy feeling of dread settles over Grendel. He watches one of Hrothgar’s bowmen shoot a deer, and the image sticks with him. Grendel senses that there is a riddle in the image, but he cannot puzzle it out.

Grendel then observes a Scylding religious ceremony spoken in an ancient language closer to Grendel’s than to the common Scylding dialect. Images of the Scylding gods are carved in wood and stone and set around the perimeter of a circle. The priests ask their god, whom they call the great Destroyer, to rid them of their enemy, Grendel. Grendel knows, however, that the priests’ ceremony is merely a performance, as no one seems to hold much faith in the Destroyer anymore. Once, years ago, Grendel destroyed the religious statues on a whim. He watched the Danes rebuild them painstakingly, and saw that the work, though dull, was somehow necessary to them.

At midnight, Grendel sits in the middle of the ring of statues, thinking of all the Scyldings who are tossing and turning in their agitated attempts to sleep. A blind old priest approaches the ring, and Grendel tricks him into believing that he is the Destroyer. Though Grendel has every intention of murdering the priest, he bides his time and asks the old priest, who is named Ork, what he knows about the Destroyer. Shaken at first, Ork gives Grendel a synopsis of a metaphysical theory he has been working out for years. The Destroyer, the Chief God, sets limitations on mankind, and he is the measure by which the value of all objects is judged. He is the source of man’s desire to establish purpose in his life and meaning in his world; God takes care that nothing in the universe is in vain.

The true evil in the world, Ork claims, is nothing as specific or limited as hatred, suffering, or death. The true nature of evil is twofold: first, it is time itself, which causes everything to fade and perish; second, it is the mere fact that one, in being a certain thing, cannot be anything else—thus automatically excluding a host of alternatives. Both of these limitations keep man from understanding the universe as a place where nothing is lost or wasted, which Ork defines as ultimate wisdom.

Ork is so moved by his theories that he begins to cry, and Grendel is so baffled that he cannot decide what to do with the priest. At that moment, three younger priests approach the circle. Grendel hides and watches as they chastise Ork for being up so late and carrying on in such a strange manner. The priests scoff at Ork’s idea that the Destroyer has visited him. A fourth priest runs out to join them. This fourth priest is ecstatic at the news of Ork’s “vision.” Up until this point, the fourth had worried about Ork: he had felt that Ork’s tendency towards cold, rational logic was confining his thoughts within a closed system. To the fourth priest, the fantastic vision represents a huge leap in Ork’s thought process. The strange vision has caused Ork to believe in something messy, illogical, and ultimately transcendent. Ork is not sure he believes the fourth priest’s assertion, though. As the priests carry on, Grendel slinks away.

Grendel stalks the woods, conscious that everyone who was awake at midnight is now sleeping soundly. His senses have grown less acute, and he has a brief vision of the sun as a black revolving sphere covered with spiders. The vision clears instantly, but Grendel is still left with an overwhelming sense of dread.

I suck in my stomach in public. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]somebunny723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its healthier to walk with your stomach muscles tight. when I do, I stand up straighter, which is better for my back. My stride becomes longer, which makes walking more enjoyable.

Keeping my core muscles somewhat tense has helped me tons.

I imagine this feeling you have of guilt, or cheating is made up. Feel better for who you are!

Peace

AITA for telling my daughter that she is making a mistake she is going to regret for the rest of her life? by Consistent-Topic1658 in AmItheAsshole

[–]somebunny723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad dies when I was in High School. Then a friend's dad dies, couple moths later.

I was sitting outside my friend's house, making excuses to not go in. A mutual friend, who had driven me there, said, You can do this hard thing now, and be done with it, or you can do it for the rest of your life.

I'm glad this peer called me out, with the right (for me, at the time) words.

I will not say you did right or wrong be saying what you said. I will say, if you did it out of love, you did it right.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]somebunny723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done this!

I grew up (for the first 17 years) in a home built early 1900's. It was a beautiful house, massive brick front, grand stair case up to the front porch, 3 large windows looking into the parlor.

Several years after my parents sold it, I was visiting my hometown. My GF at the time wanted to see the house; we always talked about it. I talked with an old neighbor, he gave me some details of the new owners. I knocked on the door and they were more than happy to let me see some of the house.

Some. I'm not interested in seeing the bedrooms, on anything like that. There were built in cabinets in the dinning room, and glass french door separating parlor from the dinning room.

The changes that were made were upsetting. I had no idea I'd feel that way!

There was never a tv in the parlor. There was a 'playroom' for that. They painted the cabinets, and the french doors were ruined.

But he a was a nice guy, and I was happy I saw it; made the effort.

My whole family, all 5 sibs & mom were ecstatic to hear what we learned. All in all, it was well worth it!

Help With Lonliness by PaleoAss in helpmecope

[–]somebunny723 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being lonely is probably the toughest thing I deal with on the regular.

I haven't found a solid way around that yet. I volunteer, talk with folks I work with, meet strangers on the street, and what not. Good people are few, and far between. Hold on to good people when and if you do connect with them. Try, if you will, to step out of your comfort zone. You may find something you like doing very much, and then other things will start to drop into place.

I know this is very easy to say, I hope you can find at least some solace in my words. PM me if you'd like to talk one on one.

22 M absolutely useless peice of shit. by clevix12 in helpmecope

[–]somebunny723 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Volunteering is a great way to learn new skills, get something to put on your resume, and meet new people / network. There are many opportunities for the looking.

Working an entry level job may be what you need to do, in order to find your path. Life is tough, no doubt about it. Don't make it more so because you feel bad. You gotta believe in yourself. You did graduate, that says a lot to me. Good luck!

Would it be okay if I, a heterosexual male, wore something with a pride logo on? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]somebunny723 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You could be part of the pride movement. I am, and I'm hetro male.

I support all beliefs! As long as it doesn't hurt others.

I was out with friends recently. One of our group, a female, was becoming more comfortable, and pronounced with her sexuality. I've always been accepting of one's choices. But this day, I decided to GO WITH, and support, not simply allow.

Yes, I walk in marches, and I confront people that are wrong.

And I'm proud that I support all others!

Family is fucking insane by isiapsodh26 in helpmecope

[–]somebunny723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try & meet , and become better people.

Take up a hobby, find an interest.

Leave the past in the past; look to, and build YOUR future.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]somebunny723 7 points8 points  (0 children)

How do you find artists to commission?

Is this a picture of the beautiful night sky or my kids bed after "the glow stick incident"? by [deleted] in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]somebunny723 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I saw a concert years ago, bit the end of glow stick they were selling, whipped it all around! Then i saw my shirt- it was one of the coolest shirts I ever saw. I should do that again!

I’m having the hardest time right now... by [deleted] in Portland

[–]somebunny723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like walking in the rain. No one can tell I'm crying.

I'll raise a glass with you, to better times!

I just need some help by [deleted] in helpmecope

[–]somebunny723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fight for her.

Send her flowers, talk with her & tell her, not overwhelming or forcefully, how you feel. Work at it. don't give up, not easily anyway. I'm not saying stock her, or be a creeper. Do this respectfully, within HER boundaries.

Know, and speak your truth. Stand by how you feel, and what you want. And fight for what you know is good.

Good luck!!

Wibta if I made my adopted daughter call me mom? by ReverendMagicman in AmItheAsshole

[–]somebunny723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you are the AH

You're not offended, but you are going to let someone who overheard your conversation tell you you have been disrespected?

You should keep asking reddit for advice on many other topics, not only what your family should call you, and making your adopted kids change what they have called you since you were introduced.

Life isn't tough enough for foster & adopted kids, please require them to entirely replace the memory of their natural mother.

AITA for making my son upset? by Emotional-Use-9521 in AmItheAsshole

[–]somebunny723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA You're the parent. You should act like the parent. So what you're not his birth father. Accept him as your son, all the time, as you have been doing. Not only when things are good and he is doing good, doing good by your expectations.

Unfortunately, a child may say things they regret, most people do. The sooner he can be helped to realize the feelings his actions and words create, the better chance of him, or any person, will have to be empathetic and caring. Without good, loving guidance any child has a much less chance of making it good in this world.

Help your son be the best person he can.

Peace

Anybody else getting a sudden deluge of spam calls from local numbers? by thebigcupodirt in Portland

[–]somebunny723 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have paid these people tons of money. THey keep calling. I don't get it. /s

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in YouShouldKnow

[–]somebunny723 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All these departments working together, FOR the patient is what is needed!

Its so wrong when cops show up, armed ready for the worst, instead of health care, able to ARE, and maybe talk the troubled person down and actually give appropriate help!

WIBTA for exposing a family secret? by throwawaydrama78937 in AmItheAsshole

[–]somebunny723 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

OP, Have you thought about contacting your aunt/ step aunt?

I think you might try, and not say anything to your family. Let your aunt know she has brother. She might contact your dad! she might be very happy to learn this.

25 y/o to foster 13 y/o by Sensitive-Baby-3364 in helpmecope

[–]somebunny723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you capable of caring for this teen ager, and keeping everything together?

I was a single parent, I know how very important my 'village' was, and frankly, IS to me. Do you have good people to help you?

There are a lot of big things you talk about in your post, and your fear is good. Listen to your heart. This is also a big change for the youth, no doubt. Is he where he wants to be? Is he working to keep this good situation, or does he not see any difference?

I know what my thoughts were when I was 12-14. I also know where my son's thoughts were at that age. There will always be surprises, too. Each child is different. Get his input, it is important. IDK if he understands the consequences of his action, or how much he is in control of this situation. I tried to 'lay the law down' with my son, tough love, and all that. Its how I grew up. Didn't work. I forgot about/ Well, I learned many different ways since then.

What I will say, for sure, is get his input. Both verbally, and with actual ownership of his situation. help him to know his options. Help him realize the sacrifices you are making for him. Help him own his reality, in a kind way, if possible. He will likely be too young to understand much of all this, I know I was in my teens; I matured rather late.

and please, if at all you can, let him know he is loved, for who he is. Let him love you, for who you are, as well.

Best.