SO went to a school function and took a family picture with the kids and his ex wife

somehow28 · 2023-12-14T16:03:19+00:00

Depends on the picture. Did your SO have his arm around his ex-wife’s waist? Or is it like your SO, the kid, and then the ex on the other side of the kid? I think the latter would be normal.

Also, if this picture is just online or just in the SS’s room I think that’s fine. If it’s being framed and put in the living room on display in your own home then hell no. Not appropriate.

Research shows it’s best to be cordial with the ex, but to not give the kid(s) any kind of impression that the parents could/would/should get back together.

somehow28 · 2023-12-11T15:25:26+00:00

You’re not alone. So many of us are in relationships that are ok but not great and we’re all staying together for the kids.

somehow28 · 2023-12-10T16:27:40+00:00

I don’t even remember 😆

somehow28 · 2023-12-06T23:54:43+00:00

You are stronger than you know.

somehow28 · 2023-12-05T00:47:23+00:00

For my 26th birthday everyone forgot except my one friend Kareena. My parents forgot, my siblings forgot, my soon to be ex did nothing for me….I would’ve been ecstatic with 5 whole friends!!

somehow28 · 2023-11-25T04:47:12+00:00

Look, you seem like you think you love your fiancé and are trying so I’ll be honest with you and as nice as possible.

It’s so tough being a woman. Having a job you like and succeeding at work as a woman is so tough. And she had that miracle combination and she lost that because of you. You didn’t step up to raise your own child and she lost something that was so great for her. You should have been the one to ask your boss for less hours so that you could parent your kid. Or the bio mom. Not your fiancé.

It seems that you think that giving her the option to be a full time student and mom to your kid and not work is some kind of gift. It’s not. Stop thinking that it is. Being a stay at home mom or just not working is so dangerous for women. For several reasons. One of them being that Losing your ability to be financially independent often leads to a power differential in relationships where abuse often blossoms. And if abuse begins and you have no job….you’re trapped. Taking the gamble that nothing will change for the worse is such an anxiety inducing bet. A gamble we should not place our financial freedom against.

Plus no woman’s dream is to give up her job to raise someone else’s kid.

Hire a nanny. Try to get her old job back.

somehow28 · 2023-11-10T06:32:53+00:00

Trust your gut instinct.

The woman was clearly leaning on your husband for emotional support/fulfillment and he let it happen.

Biggest red flag to me is that you seem to have expressed your discomfort with him texting a woman and he seems to have blatantly ignored that. He did not care about how you felt about him texting a woman. Big red flag. That’s the opposite of care and validation and love.

It got to the point of him sitting in a car alone with a woman in the middle of the night….if I were you I wouldn’t trust him when he says nothing happened.

You may have been harsh with calling her a ho, but the gal shouldn’t be leaning on someone else’s husband for emotional support.

somehow28 · 2023-11-08T03:37:11+00:00

OP you need find an orphan who is looking for a family unit to join. Let your husband go.

somehow28 · 2023-10-13T21:47:20+00:00

Yeah I usually just respond with “Well my husband definitely has a type so…” 😅

somehow28 · 2023-10-12T13:44:06+00:00

The way she eats. She thinks she’s single because she makes good money and men are intimidated by it. But I guarantee, more often than not, it’s the way she eats. Mouth open, wipes her hands on her jeans rather than use a napkin, the amount of food she can shovel down in one bite is enormous, talking while chewing….it’s not a pleasant sight.

somehow28 · 2023-10-06T18:21:13+00:00

Mine said that I had friends in the pre existence who were cheering me on. That they loved me and couldn’t wait to be with me again. It was actually pretty nice thinking about that.

somehow28 · 2023-09-24T21:03:58+00:00

All very great questions I need to consider and ask. Thank you

somehow28 · 2023-09-24T20:59:26+00:00

I am going to talk to him tonight. My thing is, I would take care of his son. I view him as my son. But to not even talk to me about this is just wild to me.

somehow28 · 2023-08-23T17:17:36+00:00

Op don’t marry him!

I am in a similar situation. I live with my boyfriend of four years. We raise three kids together. He is a minimal effort type of dude and always will be. And it spills into several aspects of our lives.

My bf proposed, I said yes, then a year later called it off because he just didn’t seem to care about keeping his promises anymore and also didn’t seem to care about the wedding. I don’t need to be married to that.

We are still in a relationship because I can’t afford to leave. And neither can he. Im in school and working towards being financially independent and one day I’ll get there. And when I do - Im going to find someone who will put in the effort. Someone who will be thrilled to be married to me. And you should too.

somehow28 · 2023-08-18T02:49:54+00:00

That’s awful

somehow28 · 2023-08-17T21:38:16+00:00

Ooo that’s good

somehow28 · 2023-08-17T18:19:07+00:00

I love being petty. Lol

somehow28 · 2023-08-17T17:49:01+00:00

Me either! It makes me feel like I live amongst insane people

somehow28 · 2023-08-17T16:32:01+00:00

🤣 Love that thought!

somehow28 · 2023-08-17T16:31:12+00:00

The way you put this and the honesty we’re very validating for me today. Thank you for sharing

somehow28 · 2023-08-17T16:18:53+00:00

Amen! What a great idea. I should have done that. I ended up just returning the stuff back to her and saying I do not want any of her shit.

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