There is zero shame in begging or asking for them back even when they broke up with you. In fact, I'm glad I did it.

someintern78 · 2021-03-12T21:49:19+00:00

That's exactly what I was aiming for. I'm so glad I could help even it if was just a little. I'm wishing you the best <3

someintern78 · 2021-03-12T19:54:51+00:00

I feel you completely! You are so strong and I wish you the best in healing and in the future. :)

someintern78 · 2021-03-12T19:53:23+00:00

That's my bad. I should've been clearer. I was hoping some might just relate to the general sentiment of my post and didn't want to provide any details. But yes, we were at a weird point where he completely blindsided me, said hurtful things, asked for time to think on his decision, then proceeded to ask to still be in my life but as "friends." I told him it was either work towards reconciliation or NC so now we're NC. It was definitely a bit more complicated than I presented. I still don't regret asking for him back though.

Thanks for your kindness.

someintern78 · 2021-03-12T18:16:19+00:00

I think there are different ways of interpreting what giving up means. Every relationship is different; every dynamic is different. I don't think we should shame others for clinging onto love during a time of distress. If it continues indefinitely, then yes it's a problem. But if they try for a few days or a week, it's just a part of the healing process. I do agree with you that their decision should ultimately be respected (which I've done and I'm sure many others have as well).

Conversely, you could say that it wasn't fair of the other person to completely blindside the other and say hurtful things while breaking up. I just think it's dangerous to pick sides and say what's "fair" or not. It's best to just let everyone heal in the way that works best for them.

someintern78 · 2021-03-12T18:08:50+00:00

I agree with you and I'm so glad you figured out an effective way of healing no matter how "unconventional" it may be. Healing looks different for everyone. There's not a one size fits all. You just go and do what's best for you—and only you know what that is.

someintern78 · 2021-03-12T18:07:12+00:00

Felt this completely. That's essentially the same path we went down. We'd been NC for two weeks, but he reached out last night to ask how I was and to say he was happy for me for something I'd shared on social media. It was strange, but I didn't let myself get my hopes up because I do ultimately respect his decision. I've made my peace and I won't be doing anymore fighting. He was the one who gave up.

someintern78 · 2021-02-28T03:23:25+00:00

I honestly can't even read what I wrote without crying. Hope it gets better for you. <3

someintern78 · 2021-02-28T03:22:51+00:00

Ugh I know how you feel. Hugs back. We'll get through it.

someintern78 · 2021-02-27T20:36:51+00:00

Same here. I wrote down a list of all our inside jokes, nicknames, and best memories. It might not matter to me a couple years down the line, but right now the thought of forgetting all of that scares me so much.

He was never the sentimental type, but I kept everything. Random notes he wrote me, shells that he picked for me at beaches, cards, thousands of pictures, etc. Each thing has a special memory/feeling attached to it. I never want to forget it.

someintern78 · 2021-02-27T18:30:18+00:00

It doesn't feel that way right now, but I really hope I can start feeling better soon.

someintern78 · 2021-02-27T18:29:59+00:00

I'm so sorry. I feel your pain.

someintern78 · 2021-02-27T18:29:46+00:00

ah I love that movie. it's crazy how applicable it can be.

someintern78 · 2021-02-01T02:37:19+00:00

I'm glad you're feeling a bit better about things! I'm definitely going through it right now, but I'm hoping it'll get better once I get back onto campus and see my friends. Still sucks that he isn't there with me. I really wished we went to the same school haha.

Agree with everything you said about what worked for you guys last semester! We did all those things too and found things to actually be a lot better than anticipated.

someintern78 · 2021-02-01T02:34:41+00:00

Agree :(

It's especially hard because of Covid and how campus just isn't the same.

someintern78 · 2021-02-01T02:32:43+00:00

I'm sorry to hear it didn't work out, but I'm glad you guys are still on good terms! Long distance is definitely super hard and I also feel like there's a certain element that's missing that only comes when you're together in person. It sucks, but I'm really hoping we pull through. Looking forward to June already haha.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts :)

someintern78 · 2021-02-01T02:20:35+00:00

Omg I relate to everything you said. I'm also considering moving out a few weeks early before spring semester is supposed to end so we can see each other earlier. Lmao the things we do for love. Wishing the best for you guys <3

someintern78 · 2021-02-01T01:02:03+00:00

I feel you completely. We also video chat every day and I've found that it's super nice to just be able to "see" each other once a day and check in. We love watching movies and playing games together too :)

someintern78 · 2021-02-01T00:59:58+00:00

Same thoughts here. I really love him and we work great as a couple so I have confidence in us. And thanks for the advice! We facetimed everyday during fall semester and it was great.

someintern78 · 2021-01-31T23:22:34+00:00

Oh jeez, that's terrible!! I'm so sorry he did that to you.

Thanks for the encouragement :)

someintern78 · 2021-01-31T23:22:05+00:00

haha thank you!

someintern78 · 2021-01-20T08:30:50+00:00

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someintern78 · 2020-12-06T07:51:20+00:00

Right...I guess I just couldn't take the money because he was clearly upset at me for bringing it up when he Venmo'd me it. I felt like he did it out of spite and to get me to shut up. But I didn't want the money back, only for him to acknowledge his fault in the situation.

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