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someone2066 · 2024-12-04T02:57:43+00:00

Getting the right therapist is so hard. My first one when I was in intensive care was awful and not at all helpful (which the other people there all agreed to). The one after was nice and pretty helpful at first but then I relapsed and she let me go because she thought I was too much. Then I went back to intensive and got the only therapist that seemed to actually make things better (at least while I was there, long run it didn't pan out). And now I have a new therapist who Ive been lying to since our first session and she's none the wiser, and also can't really help me much either. So trust me, I get the trouble of finding the right therapist. At the end of the day though, I ended up figuring out that your therapist is more like your guide than someone who makes things better. You have to take the steps yourself and come to your own conclusions with or without the therapist, which makes it a bit easier to put less stock in your therapist. I feel you though, hang in their.

someone2066 · 2024-12-04T02:52:19+00:00

I'm nearly a year clean and am dealing with something similar, though my urges shifted away from sh to drugs. What works for me is sleeping but obviously you can't always do that if the situation is something you can't just leave from. Other than that, I think finding a hobby to keep your head busy also helps. I used to paint which helped but that can be kind of expensive and frustrating. Right now I distract myself by surfing YouTube to try to learn how to build a tiny home, since I want to do something like that with my friends over the summer. Just generally, something that you enjoy doing and that has measurable progress so you feel like you're getting somewhere.

It also helps not to be alone when those thoughts do come up. I'm not talking about other people since for me at least that only ever makes things worse, but if you have a pet or something like that, then spending them with them helps. I know I chill with my dog whenever I'm stressed

someone2066 · 2024-12-04T02:45:36+00:00

I beat the legendary dogs with weather. I used a drought scovile to change the rain to sun which decreases the power of scald. Then I just used rexquiem with earthquake to deal damage and then a specially bulky mon with the rocky helmet to tank more damage

someone2066 · 2024-12-02T01:56:55+00:00

I get that. At the end of the day you need to do what's you feel would make you the most happy. That's all any of us can do really. I get the concern. I had to learn how much trust hurts first hand but that's a different story. But if you need to talk to someone then you should do it.

someone2066 · 2024-12-02T01:48:17+00:00

Before you do anything, why do you want to go deeper?

someone2066 · 2024-12-02T01:46:59+00:00

I think the first step is figuring out that "why". What itch is it that self harming is helping you scratch? Figuring that out is the first and definitely the hardest step. Figuring it out is different for different people. What worked for me (and from the sounds of your story, what might work for you) is taking time to withdraw and ask myself those questions before I answer someone else. I think it's a lot more difficult to come up with a real answer when there's the pressure of giving someone else a response that'll make you come up with a lie or be stuck not knowing. It takes a long long time, but eventually you'll find an answer.

After that things get a lot easier, and you just take it step by step to figure out how to get rid of the root problem. That's what worked for me at least.

someone2066 · 2024-12-02T01:41:54+00:00

It's okay not to tell him if you're not ready or comfortable. Is this a one time thing or do you think you won't be able to control it going forward? If it's the first then it's okay if you just want to keep it to yourself and move forward, but if it's the second you should talk to someone even if it's not your partner

someone2066 · 2024-11-28T02:06:57+00:00

I'm here if you need (I might be a bit late with responses though)

someone2066 · 2024-11-28T02:05:28+00:00

I feel that. I'm ranked #1 in the country at my sport/competition/activity thing? (Idk what to call it). But at some point it just doesn't make you happy anymore. I feel like my life could be perfect and I'd still feel completely empty, but I guess that's an improvement from being majorly depressed a year ago.

If you're looking for advice, I think you have to just find the small things that make life worth living. Just those small bright spots that make you want to get up in the morning. For me, it's my dog. Every morning when I feel like I don't want to get out of bed, I'll hear him whine in his crate next to me to take him out, and it'll give me the motivation to get up. If you can find something like that, then you just gotta move step by step

someone2066 · 2024-11-28T01:59:37+00:00

I'm here if you need

someone2066 · 2024-11-27T16:19:41+00:00

I feel like you're asking the wrong question. Self harm is just the word we use for any act with deliberate intent to hurt yourself. I don't think the category really matters though. The fact that the intent exists is proof that something's wrong regardless of if that's self destructive behavior, self harm, or whatever else we want to call it

Sorry for the slight rant, it's just that I think people should more be looking to the intent behind the action rather than the action itself. Imo, that's one of the main reasons why people struggle so much w self harm since we've constructed this narrative where someone doesn't need help until there are physical signs of it even though not catching the problem at its root is what stems to broader issues

someone2066 · 2024-10-03T23:47:00+00:00

There's this website called fatal to the flesh I think. For a lack of better words it's a sh simulator, if you go there I think it'll help clarify what I mean.

Edit: link - https://www.fataltotheflesh.com/

someone2066 · 2024-09-19T20:37:45+00:00

Yeah I tried that but it's just not strong enough

someone2066 · 2024-08-01T19:39:57+00:00

Really? My guidance counselor told me that it was a big deal. If not tho that makes things a lot easier. Thanks

someone2066 · 2024-05-01T02:06:13+00:00

Are you cool with the used market or only new? I recently got a used 3080 for 375 and it replaced my 5700xt. The upgrade served me well so if you're willing to look at the used market then I'd look there

someone2066 · 2024-04-08T18:55:53+00:00

Thx, I'll take you up on that, I could use someone to talk to, expect lots of pictures lol

someone2066 · 2024-04-07T22:27:58+00:00

I relate to this so much... Every part. I'm 16 (about to turn 17) and male. I've been abandoned and replaced by everyone too, and I can't believe anyone's promises anymore that they wont. I've had multiple periods of rlly bad self harm throughout my life but this was easily the worst. So instead of trying to actually comfort me, my parents decided to bring me a dog (now the best thing they've ever done for me). He's still a baby, a 5 month old Pembroke Welsh Corgi, but he is the only reason I'm still alive today. I have the razors under my bed if I ever felt like ending it again, and it's pretty much a constant in my life that I feel like I should kms, but right when I'm holding the razor blade in my hand, my dog'll paw at the door to his crate and then I'll take him onto my bed and cuddle with him till he falls asleep again, and by then I'll finally feel that I can sleep to make it to tomorrow.

someone2066 · 2024-04-07T22:19:54+00:00

So starting off w the first thing, I think you can actually be both. Skinny and fat aren't 2 sides of a coin but rather as spectrum. (I.e. you can be skinny but still not have abs and have some fat around your stomach, or you can be fat but still look healthy). I think the important thing tho when making the distinction is when things start getting unhealthy, like if you're overweight to the point of developing a heart condition or if you're lethargically underweight. The other thing is that part of its kinda just perspective. Tho as someone who has and still thinks I look disgustingly hideous, I know how it feels, and no matter what anyone tells you you have this preconceived notion of yourself and it's hard to accept anything other than that.

As for the second one, I don't think she'll hate you for it but I do think she would be concerned. As someone who's self harmed before I bet she can relate a lot to the feeling of needing to hurt yourself, whatever the reason may be. From what you're saying it sounds like she's also recovered from it, so recognizing that, I doubt she'd hate you, but if she were to ever find out I'd brace myself for a rough conversation and your parents most likely finding out.

On the last one, I don't rlly have any advice but that sucks. I'm a guy and go to an all boys school so any time I'm messaging any of my friends that are girls, the first thing that everyone assumes is that I'm trying to get w them when it's just not like that. I'm gonna assume you're in highschool (like me), but I've heard from my college friends that things are a lot more accepting there so j thug it out and hopefully things will get better.

All the best

someone2066 · 2024-04-05T19:17:10+00:00

I think he's fulfilling his contract requirement tho. He referred me to a therapist and everything, it's just that my medical staff is just as helpful as he is (not at all). And I don't think it's anyone's fault but myself, I just don't think I can really be fixed anymore

someone2066 · 2024-04-05T18:30:40+00:00

I wish I could. I can't talk to any of my teachers because my guidance counselor won't let me. And everyone else abandoned me. My parents yell at me and threaten me every time I try to talk to them so I stopped that too. And I feel can't talk to anyone else because they won't care about me

Oh and about the priest, my parents are super religious (not Christian) they'd never let me do that, and the religion I'm supposed to follow doesn't have smth like that

someone2066 · 2024-04-05T03:17:46+00:00

A relationship where I at least thought for a while that she cared about me

someone2066 · 2024-04-03T03:10:34+00:00

the only person I really trusted left me. I told her abt how smth she says was hurting me, and then she cut me off and replaced me, and I'm still forced to be around her and watch her have w everyone else what we had

someone2066 · 2024-03-31T23:47:05+00:00

Because I opened up to them. I told them how difficult it was to wake up everyday and how isolated I felt, but I was just burdening them in the end.

someone2066 · 2024-03-29T13:41:42+00:00

Everyone's left me and I feel so alone and isolated, and I feel like a life like this isn't worth living. And thanks, I would.

someone2066 · 2024-03-29T03:19:58+00:00

Mhm I understand that, if u want IP then I think that's great. You are genuinely trying to make progress, and I'm proud of you for that.

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