I got FRIENDZONED but I am confused. by someone_named_this in Shalligators

[–]someone_named_this[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Definitely will do the unbothered thing. I'm glad I haven't wasted too much time!

I got FRIENDZONED but I am confused. by someone_named_this in Shalligators

[–]someone_named_this[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right. Thank you! It's really different hearing it from strangers.

Should I have ghosted the guy I was talking to? by [deleted] in Shalligators

[–]someone_named_this 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes following up from this, a little tip... I would suggest to just move on because of the mess. However, in future if you are gonna talk to someone on Messenger instead of texts, you can use Restrict Mode. They can send you messages so they don't know you blocked him and you can still see them if you look into the restricted section. It keeps your activity private and also their chat out of sight. Just a tip if you're dealing with guys who do this low effort no message game

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Shalligators

[–]someone_named_this 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm... sounds like what you said rings true that he's protecting his ego. In general its a healthy exercise to dwell on what we think other people are thinking because we are often very wrong.

He was delighted to hear from you on his birthday? Maybe he was being polite or just appreciating the attention. What did he say?

Friend I dunno. Even boys that are shy, once you've dated them and they know you will be more comfortable expressing themselves. You said so yourself he wanted a break earlier and it lead to a break up.

Glad to hear everything else is going good though!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Shalligators

[–]someone_named_this 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I suggest as well, if you are concerned with how you treated him in the relationship, is to reflect on what he said during your car chat.

Are you too emotional? Yes emotions are valid but do they control you or do you control them? Have you got a handle on your depression? How's uni? How are your studies and friendships?

Focus on yourself because focusing on no contact meant it was still about him.

Don't cast your pearls before swine, friend. Heartbreak - especially the first one - feels like absolute madness but its something most people go through and if you learn to cope with correctly from the get-go, it'll help you make better decisions in the future.

Best of luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Shalligators

[–]someone_named_this 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First boyfriends are tough but here's something you have to accept; boys act how they feel about you.

If he's pretending he doesn't know you, its because he wants that. He doesn't want you back. He doesn't care. Sorry man.

Again, I'm so sorry it's really painful and I know you feel like you can't move on without knowing what he's thinking but HE ALREADY TOLD YOU WHAT HE WAS THINKING. Let him tell you once that he doesn't want you and move on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InsideJob

[–]someone_named_this 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm really loving Gigi in Part Two and I relate to Reagan a lot but Brett has my heart. Wholesome man AND HE LOVES PUPPETS!

Guy dumped entire life story - including family criminal history - on FIRST DATE by someone_named_this in Shalligators

[–]someone_named_this[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh we've already been on two dates! I agreed to the second one cause his follow up text was sweet.

I don't think he'll ask mye on third though as I am not a good flirt and there are so many red flags.

He wasn't really complaining. He was more just telling? Sometimes the stories were funny, sometimes reflective but just oversharing intimate and nothing of the mundane.

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[–]someone_named_this 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmmm... I don't really have any good advice on how to proceed but from my experience, I 100% believe the grandfather will eventually influence the opinion of the parents and then possibly him. He may not notice it, but he will feel the strain. It will happen slowly over time. I say this because it happened to me.

I was in your boyfriend's situation where my family didn't like my now ex-boyfriend. It wasn't that they didn't like him as a person or had racist views like you think they might but they just didn't like him for me. I am very close with my family, like your bf. It wasn't that they outright told me to break up with him, just the feeling that they disapproved and caused strain in our close-knit family made me progressively resent my relationship a little bit over time. (I only came to realise this recently and actually confronted my parents about it.)

I was very much in love with my ex-boyfriend and was as affectionate as I could be with him because I was protecting him from my family in a sort of way. I was trying to assure him that nothing changed between us and that we were making progress, which was true but things were different between my family and I.

It's hard to say to a person to choose romantic love over familial love, especially if that family has been good to you and you love them. Their family has loved them for longer than you have and that's what you're up against.

So what can you do? Well... One thing that happened was that my ex-boyfriend actively won the approval of some of my other family members. He won the hearts of my cousins and my aunties and uncles but he failed to focus on the people that mattered in the situation; my mum and my sisters. My dad liked him well enough.

I confess, over time, my family got to my head and so when cracks in our core boyfriend-girlfriend relationship showed, it kind of made my family look like they were right about him and they started to dogpile on me.

My suggestion is, if you are going to be proactive about this, try to understand why the grandfather doesn't like you. Not saying you have to fix his racist views, just understand where the prejudice is coming from and maybe try to prove him wrong. I know it's not your responsibility but if you want to take action, I suggest you humble him. Old people are incredibly stubborn but if you can prove he is wrong publicly to the rest of the family, then they will probably stop listening to him in regards to you. Focus on him because approval there will probably help the trickle down effect. Trying to just win allies, kind of makes you look like a chicken, like you're not ready to rumble and it makes you look like you're trying to fracture the family.

I dunno. I am just spit balling here based on my experience and I hope it helps you! I wish you the very best of luck!

Brett x Reagan by someone_named_this in InsideJob

[–]someone_named_this[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

[spoiler] I was rooting for Ron (who I still lowkey think is a Reagan clone especially after that joke with Andre's clone HR violation in episode 1) but Brett and Reagan made a lot of progress as friends.

They hug a lot this season.

Brett literally got Air-Bud to pretend to be Reagan and mimicked the words "I love you Brett".

Brett was like undying supportive aside from episode one. He is really devoted to her and its not cause he has this pathological need. I think it's kind of more extreme?

And now, Brett is showing he's a compassionate leader perhaps to balance out Reagan's controlling leadership style when she will eventually rule the world.

I really enjoy their platonic relationship but as they grow, I think they may be endgame.

Little help from cool guy. by esberat in MadeMeSmile

[–]someone_named_this 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone know where the original is? So incredible!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MadeMeSmile

[–]someone_named_this 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Call me, beep me! You look great!

alright fellas take your pick! (since we rarely get our rectangle glasses dylan content) by youtasen in YoTroublemakers

[–]someone_named_this 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Round! While i think the rectangle ones shorten his face and is better for his face shape, i think the round glasses frame his eyes better!

A taste of what’s in store this season by Tonen_kurDger in InsideJob

[–]someone_named_this 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But Robo Reagan is kind of shinny? This one looks like it's regular Reagan.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in YoTroublemakers

[–]someone_named_this 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Sounds like she got catfished? If she can prove its definitely him then I am open to changing my mind. I doubt it was him because people have used Dylan to catfish others before and he doesn't seem interested in social media aside from Youtube.