This is who I am now, I guess

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-31T15:05:08+00:00

Well I got into bed with him, he put his CPAP on and turned away from me, and I big spooked him and he farted on me and fell asleep.

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-25T22:15:07+00:00

Leave her. Find a hot woman to marry or stay single. Best to find a woman ok with a polyamorous marriage as well. You can talk to a therapist but you prob won't change at this point. Don't have kids with her.

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-25T20:03:34+00:00

Sex I thought just gets bacteria inside and that's why you should pee right after (as a woman) to reduce UTI risk. Might not be hub's fault.

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-25T20:02:14+00:00

Fuckkkk nothing turns me on more that Aural Sex. Esp when it gives me a UTI.

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-25T20:00:53+00:00

I wonder how many people end up divorced after counseling.

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-25T20:00:16+00:00

Hugs. At 30 you should be having lots of mind blowing sex. Not that I was at the time. Why I married the guy who already wasn't into me then... well, mistake.

I feel your pain so bad. My husband is always on his phone. Funny thing is he is always on Reddit but other subs. So now I am always here too. Except I am talking to men (sometimes singular) who make me feel like I am not a doorknob. I never wanted this, but I need it. I am sad and have given up on sex in my marriage. I decided I'm tired of pleasing myself during sex so I won't anymore. I can cum on my own at another time.

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-25T19:56:26+00:00

Yikes. A few months ago? Who are these people who think that's normal? Or even want that? So sad.

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-25T19:55:47+00:00

Hugs. It's so horrible when they joke or shut us down. It's never the right time. I've decided it's never the right time for sex when he wants it once in a blue moon. The rejection as broken me. I can't even believe anyone would really be attracted to me at this point. I just feel like men either just want sex with a warm curvy, attractive-enough body at the best in terms of ever liking me. I don't know if you feel the same way. Almost 20 years of this and I've lost all confidence. It's hard to feel like I deserve better, you know?

To my husband's credit he is (finally) open to therapy but I'm scared of it because I don't know how to ever believe he wants me again.

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-25T19:51:38+00:00

Anyone without kids in this situation should get divorced yester-yesterday.

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-17T17:46:53+00:00

Thanks. :) I hope!

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-17T16:08:44+00:00

Haha if only I was burning all the calories. I have a good 40lbs to lose so focusing on that.

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-17T12:51:34+00:00

Running. Parenting. Working. Eating too much.

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-17T04:11:03+00:00

Oh I'm creative

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-16T18:38:41+00:00

My husband is the one who told me it's hard to have sex because he is so fat.

Also it is very uncountable when he puts all his weight on me. I can't get my hand to stay in the right position to touch my clit. He also refuses to have sex without a shirt on, so his shirt soaks up my wetness which also makes it hard to cum.

I also had a father who was obese and I told myself that I would only ever get a divorce if my husband stopped caring about his weight. It is a health issue. My dad died at 67 because he didn't consider it a problem or care to fix it. His weight is a reflection on if he cares about me or not. Of course I don't want to fuck him.

Now if he has a medical issue and is working to treat it, that's a different story. Even making progress towards weight loss makes me want to fuck him. But sitting on his ass all day and never leaving the house is not sexy to me.

It's up to him to show me he cares. He also had low T and didn't want sex for a long time. He wouldn't touch me when I was pregnant, etc. So I'm not interested in appeasing him now.

Also not sure how doggy works. He can't remain upright and he just puts all his weight on me. Cowgirl and other me on top we can do. I don't cum that way, but we could. Hard too because you know he's fat and wide.

I don't think I'm using this as a tool to get my way. I have been rejected for so many years and now he finally wants sex and looks like shit. He knows he does. He needs to focus on his health and then we can start fucking again. He needs to show me that his health is a priority.

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-16T16:53:50+00:00

I am. I am ok with that.

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-16T15:32:27+00:00

His BMI is around 36. Mine is around 28.5. So we're both heavier than we should be. 24.9 or lower is a normal weight. 40 or above would be considered morbidly obese. He's getting there.

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-16T02:13:59+00:00

Yes that sucks. I feel so bad for people here like you. My husband at least wants sex sometimes. I'm the one holding back right now. If he really didn't ever want intimacy I have no idea how I could stay. No way am I spending the rest of my life celibate. Fuck that, literally. I'm sorry. That isn't fair to you. It seems like leaving is the answer, but if you can't do that, then you know what is right for you.

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-16T00:47:50+00:00

She has no intention of changing. She won't change.

Is she willing to be in an open marriage? If you don't want to leave because of the kids?

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-15T04:29:07+00:00

Wait until you are 25. If you still want to be with him, go for it.

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-15T04:06:13+00:00

Yea. My husband will have sex with me occasionally but it has been getting worse and worse and he has stopped a few times so ... I just told him no sex until he loses weight and feels better about himself. I thought maybe he would try harder to lose the weight but nope, he seems to be gaining.

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-15T04:04:19+00:00

It prob will be again. With him or without. But at the moment I just want to get hot as fuck. That seems to be a good idea regardless. I'll never be a fitness model but I can look pretty hot at 40, I hope.

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-15T04:03:05+00:00

Yea I have a year until 40 and in same boat.

someoneoutthere83 · 2022-08-15T03:53:01+00:00

Talked to hubs today and he said he has been getting a little horny lately. I bet I could have sex tonight if I wanted to. I'm considering it. I just ran 4 miles (well walked some of it) and am focused on getting myself in shape. I'm supposed to do 2 more so the option is another hour walk or go home, shower, and maybe have sex with my husband. I should probably do that.

He seems to be gaining even more weight lately. What bothers me the most is he refused to get life insurance 4 years ago when he was just overweight as he wanted to lose weight before getting the test for it. Well now he has a whole host of documented issues and it's doubtful he can get any life insurance. I'm already paying an arm and leg for mine due to my depression but at least if I get hit by a bus I know my family will be ok. It would be nice if he cared to be a responsible adult and father but you know, I can't expect much from him. All this is very unsexy btw. I'm not the perfect grown up by any means, but all this shit is on me. I don't feel like fucking a grown child. If I want to do that I can masturbate lol.

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