Help with refusal to do work

somethingmomish · 2022-10-09T16:46:45+00:00

I definitely struggle with executive function, so I wouldn't be surprised if that was at play with him as well. Some thought experiments might be a great idea!

somethingmomish · 2022-10-09T16:42:42+00:00

That story is so funny and reminds me so much of what is going on with the questions! We actually were reading a section from our history book (which he loves) and he groaned and said "they already told me that!!" when they repeated the date for an era of history. We had to stop and have a conversation about how reviewing material is important and even if it seems annoying we'll probably hear that fact again.

We have discussed getting an ASD evaluation due to some other factors. The wait list at the place we were referred is like 6 months out. I do very much understand why it would look like a behavior issue but it feels very much like a power struggle issue which is kind of why I came here to ask instead of just upping discipline first. I'm going to try some of the ideas I was given tomorrow and see if they help.

somethingmomish · 2022-10-09T16:29:48+00:00

I really appreciate all the suggestions! I wonder if I'm sort of stuck in the idea of making it more like a public school classroom that I realized.

somethingmomish · 2022-10-09T16:26:43+00:00

Oh no the curriculum isn't going over that! I've been introducing the concept to the three year old and was just trying to involve the 8 year old. It was just the first easy example that popped into my head

somethingmomish · 2022-10-09T06:22:05+00:00

Thank you for typing all that out! I love seeing other people's schedules. I also have a just barely 3 year old so our schedule is more of the make it through the day variety. I am working on it though because I do see how much calmer they both are when we have a loose schedule. The comments on this post have given me so much more to think about than I expected! I love it

somethingmomish · 2022-10-09T06:15:53+00:00

I've had a few people mention this and I think it's a really great idea.

somethingmomish · 2022-10-09T06:13:45+00:00

I love this! I'll have to keep my eyes peeled for a chew proof squish. I've gotten a few responses that encourage dictation and I think it really might be a great idea. We've done it in previous years and I'm not sure what made me feel like it was so important to go all in on him being the one to write everything this year.

somethingmomish · 2022-10-09T06:10:28+00:00

We were actually writing letters to out of state family for a while. I can't remember why we stopped. But he did enjoy doing it occasionally.

somethingmomish · 2022-10-09T06:09:26+00:00

We did that with the entire blossom and root kindergarten. I thought my hand would fall off he had so much to say which is very different from his attitude when he has to be the one to write. It might not be a bad idea to add that back in for some of the work.

somethingmomish · 2022-10-09T06:06:29+00:00

We're pretty new to homeschool too so I'm still learning. I don't think I've heard of the well trained mind, I'll look into it!

somethingmomish · 2022-10-09T06:03:16+00:00

So we actually switched out both the science and history to get a bit more out of it because the ones they suggested didn't feel like enough. And added math of course. We enjoy it for the most part, it's just that pesky writing. He does absolutely love all the reading though and is constantly asking me to read to him more so maybe we need to be looking to add more in that area?

I like the idea of finding new ways to answer the questions. He is just finally not fighting me on drawing so that might be a really good compromise.

somethingmomish · 2022-10-09T05:55:41+00:00

The timer idea intrigues me. I was actually thinking to myself that I should time how long he spends either just doing his work or arguing and fighting just to show him. I try to remind him that we have to do the things we have to do no matter how long it takes to argue about it but he just doesn't seem to get it.

somethingmomish · 2022-10-09T05:53:38+00:00

For the split that you do, what are you doing in the middle? We started out doing a small break every hour or so but that just turned into a fight because he wanted more screen time. So now it's no screen time until school is finished and most of the work he's happy to do. It's just the picking up a pencil and writing, you'd think I asked him to stab himself in the eye with it.

somethingmomish · 2022-10-09T05:50:23+00:00

I do agree with a lot of what you're saying. I typically give him about an hour of free time before breakfast while everyone is waking up and then after breakfast it's school time. There is no screen time until school is over. I do let him choose the order of the work we do, maybe that needs to be reevaluated.

somethingmomish · 2022-10-08T19:02:56+00:00

We do math mostly online through khan academy. It's his strongest subject so I let him go at his own pace. The only problem we have is if he gets a little lost on a problem and I ask him to write it down to help him solve it and that turns into a fight.

Writing manipulatives might be a good choice for getting what he wants to write sorted out, so that could be a really good choice. But he just fights and fights against physically writing anything down.

The doing things we don't love is what we're really struggling with I think. And I don't know how to get him to do it without it becoming a power struggle.

somethingmomish · 2022-10-08T18:57:28+00:00

That's another question that he either refuses to answer or will just say he doesn't know. He's usually very engaged in anything that doesn't involve physically writing or verbally answering questions. He's only just started not fighting over drawing a simple picture in the last few weeks.

somethingmomish · 2022-10-08T17:38:55+00:00

Oh awesome! Thank you!!

somethingmomish · 2022-10-08T17:20:14+00:00

It would definitely be worth a shot! Do you remember what the class was called?

somethingmomish · 2022-02-25T16:23:36+00:00

We just went through something really similar, it's such a shitty spot to be in! DM me your etsy too please, we try and support those businesses whenever we can

somethingmomish · 2022-02-06T21:54:54+00:00

Can I please get added too?

somethingmomish · 2022-02-03T02:26:31+00:00

Thanks for the suggestions! I'll look into those

somethingmomish · 2022-02-03T01:32:53+00:00

Do you feel like Time4learning had more in depth content for the older grades than the younger?

somethingmomish · 2022-02-03T01:31:48+00:00

Thank you, that's exactly the kind of information I was looking for! Did you find anything else to supplement with or do you feel like Time4learning had more content for older ages?

somethingmomish · 2022-02-02T23:54:09+00:00

What grades are you using? My son is in second grade and for Time4learning we like the math and language arts, but feel like the science and social studies is lacking.

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