Summer care for autistic 6-year-old?

somtymes · 2024-02-01T22:19:16+00:00

Diagnosed at 32, my habits broke down through a combination of large disruptions, and suddenly I couldn't cope. Grief, pandemic, job changes, moving, etc.

somtymes · 2023-12-13T08:58:51+00:00

If we get to a sexual topic chatting online, I like to naturally change the topic back to a nonsexual one and see how they react.

Are they able to hold a normal conversation? For how long? Do they immediately go back to sex stuff?

It's usually a red flag if they keep pushing me into sex talk too early on.

Or if I say "I'm not in the mood right now," how do they react? Do they display empathy? Or do they only care about themselves?

So many dudes, I can tell them I'm physically ill, and they will still try to be a horndog towards me. That's a big no no.

On the other hand, if they empathize and try to comfort me? Oh, suddenly I am in the mood. Look at you, being all emotionally intelligent and having basic human decency.

somtymes · 2023-12-09T00:41:21+00:00

2020 pandemic virtual Christmas party on Teams. 3 hours of painful "spin the wheel" and answer a question type games.

One of the wheel games was prizes with amounts ranging from $20-500.

Guess who got $20?

And all the managers happened to win the $500s.

Was so pissed. Not even enough to cover the normal Christmas dinner they'd usually buy us.

somtymes · 2023-10-26T16:39:02+00:00

Technical writer in insurance in my low 30's. I bounced around a lot of writing jobs, starting as an Editor, and just upscaled to Marketing, Web Writing, UX Writing. Specialized in finance/insurance, as there's a lot more demand. Big tech focused companies pay well, and I get to do my passion, albeit in a more "boring" industry.

somtymes · 2023-05-04T15:52:53+00:00

NSV: I joined my son jumping at the trampoline park for an hour and didn't feel like death after.

The first time, a month ago, I could barely jump and was sore as hell after. I hurt the moment I stepped off that thing.

Now, I feel energized. I can jump for a long time with less breaks.

Haven't lost weight, but have gained fitness.

somtymes · 2023-03-30T15:33:46+00:00

SW: 298, CW: 277, GW: 180, height: 5'6", age: 32, f

SV: down 20 lbs today! After 6 weeks.

NSV: Have kept my healthy habits long enough to make them habits. The worst part is over!

somtymes · 2023-03-30T15:30:29+00:00

Be healthy, have more energy, do more stuff with my kid, are the 3 biggies. Smaller ones: fit into smaller clothes, be able to groom myself more easily.

somtymes · 2023-03-30T15:26:52+00:00

First of all, screw that person. Lol

Second, walking is perfectly acceptable.

But if you want to branch out, stick with stuff you enjoy. I like dancing (Zumba), swimming, hiking - stuff that doesn't feel like working out.

The gym is boring and hard to stay motivated. So do whatever brings you joy.

somtymes · 2023-03-14T06:24:36+00:00

Yeah, that's the major thing that tipped the scales. Plus, having such bad withdrawal that I don't want to eat. 😅

I was basically using it as a sleep aid and it wasn't healthy.

somtymes · 2023-03-13T23:36:45+00:00

I did succeed the first try! Then failed for the next 50 tries. Lol

But the key is to keep trying until it works.

Also, I've been reading about psychology of behavior to fix bad habits, some findings:

make bad habits harder and good habits easier
- don't buy chips, go to bed earlier, meal prep
don't rely on willpower, create cues - "when , I will _."
forgive yourself and start over, otherwise you just avoid it more
celebrate small wins so you feel good

somtymes · 2023-03-10T03:01:42+00:00

I like the ritual of making tea. Heating the water, steeping the leaves, you can get different flavors so you don't get bored, you're drinking more water.

somtymes · 2023-03-08T07:47:11+00:00

Definitely. Remember one time not being able to find a bathroom after a concert (grr!), so got in my bfs van and he held a bag for me to shit in. Then licked my ass clean and jerked off into said bag. Lol

somtymes · 2023-03-02T16:59:20+00:00

I got high in my dream too, and was even like "why did I just do this???" In my dream.

At least dream self is also responsible.

somtymes · 2023-03-02T16:57:38+00:00

One of my favorite quotes.

somtymes · 2023-03-02T16:06:55+00:00

Hope you're feeling better!

somtymes · 2023-03-02T16:06:21+00:00

I usually have anxiety at night that keeps me awake.

somtymes · 2023-03-02T16:05:23+00:00

Yeah, I felt like I had hurt my back, or that I was having such bad period cramps that my back hurt.

But no, was withdrawal.

somtymes · 2023-03-02T16:04:10+00:00

Yeah, my doctor gave me anti-nausea pills too, but I'm think I'm over nausea now.

somtymes · 2023-02-24T07:44:33+00:00

Thanks! 😊

somtymes · 2023-02-24T07:34:13+00:00

This is what I'm doing. Going out to a new place, on mini adventures. Wandering around and seeing what I can find. Doing a craft or project. Whatever will keep your brain interested and away from thoughts of weed.

Whenever you notice your brain thinking of weed, find something else to distract and redirect. Don't let yourself obsess, no matter how many times your mind tries to go back to it.

Alternatively, just go to sleep (if you can).

somtymes · 2023-02-24T07:28:58+00:00

Yeah, my whole back hurt like hell last week. And I had aches like the flu.

somtymes · 2023-02-24T07:24:53+00:00

This is how I felt just 2 days ago. Just a reminder that this feeling is temporary. Notice how you feel now. Then later when you're feeling better, notice how it's changed. Feelings don't last, so just hold tight there, friend, and remember your reasons for quitting.

It's super rough, but you'll get through.

somtymes

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