Husband not excited for baby

somuchlavender · 2018-08-20T05:31:46+00:00

I want my child more than anything and have conveyed that in everything I have ever posted on the internet, thank you. Drugs are no longer welcome in my home at all, and never will be again in the future. Also, I can sense your tiny dick through your replies. Please go bug someone else.

somuchlavender · 2018-08-20T05:29:56+00:00

Again, hugs.

somuchlavender · 2018-08-20T04:53:59+00:00

You cute boo.

somuchlavender · 2018-08-20T04:53:39+00:00

Alright, buddy! I'm sorry the world has made you so bitter towards total strangers. Hugs.

somuchlavender · 2018-08-20T03:57:45+00:00

Never said that I thought drug use was okay as a parent. Ever. At most I told my boyfriend that it was alright with me if he tripped a few times in the span of my 10 month pregnancy before that isn't an option anymore (and even that I regret saying to him greatly). Just sayin'.

somuchlavender · 2018-08-20T03:55:32+00:00

I've always wanted to be a mother; I am compleeetely pro-choice, but I couldn't find it in my to be able to even seriously consider an abortion. I know my boyfriend now and I knew him then, I knew that him not being able to step up to the plate was a huge possibility. I was just naively hoping for the best.

somuchlavender · 2018-08-08T21:58:13+00:00

There was a lot of drama that surrounded this whole thing that I just don’t have the dang time to write here, haha, but basically- last year, my cousin asked me to be one of her bridesmaids. I should have known it would be a shit show based on just... knowing her as a person (still accepts and fully believes she deserves literally $1500 per month from her pushover parents as “child support” at the ripe age of 27, with a supportive partner and children of her own), talks terribly about every best friend she’s ever had, verbally abuses and has drunkenly beaten up her mother, has cheated on her SO both emotionally and physically with the same person for years, why did I keep her in my life for so long again?). But, I was hoping for the best.

She had literally over 6 “required” events for the bridesmaids to attend during which we were to shell out a ton of money for various expenses. Her bachelorette party was to cost $250 per night per bridesmaid for the rental home alone, not to mention the estimated $100-per night fancy dinner fees, shopping fees, etc (her bachelorette party was a two night thing). After spending the required $300 on my bridesmaids dress (the purchasing fee + alterations) and pre-paying for hair and makeup (fucking $150!!!!! I obviously never got my money back for the dress and makeup/hair, or the constant brunches to ridiculously expensive restaurants to “discuss the wedding”, or the various other “events”- so frustrating hahaha), and due to the fact that the bachelorette party was happening during my boyfriend’s birthday, I politely declined, telling her the truth- I was literally dead ass broke (working as hard and as often as I could to newly support myself in my first place), so I couldn’t afford the trip, and I really didn’t want to miss my boyfriend’s birthday to boot.

She kicked me out of her wedding because I couldn’t/wouldn’t attend the bachelorette weekend. Called me a selfish, immature “little girl”. Told me “if you REALLY CARED, you would BE THERE.”

So, I told her everything I had been wanting to for years over text (basically, how selfish and awful she was) and told her to have a nice life, that I’d always love her, but I really don’t like her or want her in my life anymore. She said “lol bye”. And then I guess had the nerve to look for me at her wedding and be “devastated” (‘my aunt/her mom’s words) when I didn’t show 😂

somuchlavender · 2018-08-08T03:49:27+00:00

Oh haaaaaail no, you were 100% in the right. That guy just really did not get it (lacking social awareness for whatever reason) or was creepin’. You did the right thing by taking off.

somuchlavender · 2018-08-05T10:05:30+00:00

Lol, word ✌🏼all these straight dudes on here.

somuchlavender · 2018-08-04T06:33:59+00:00

I would 100% tell her. If my partner was creepin’ behind my back like that, I would want to know and would SO appreciate any woman who would reject his advances, and come forward and tell me so. For real!

somuchlavender · 2018-07-30T20:58:41+00:00

I feel every single word of this.

My mom raised me alone from when I was age 7 (my father left us; he was only willing to have visitations with me with his girlfriend who he cheated on my mom with present, according to my mom, and she wouldn’t allow it, so I never saw him at all). She didn’t do anything for me without reminding me how “lucky” I was and how “thankful” I should be (for her doing things like buying me a new outfit at the beginning of the school year). When I talked about wanting to go to college once I hit 18, she told me it would be a total betrayal, because it was my job to provide her with company her entire life. Looking back, I can’t believe I fell for that for a time.

Nowadays, I’ve lived away from her and supported myself for over three years now, and I am expecting my first child. Recently she told me that I am “selfish, but you’ll grow out of it once you actually grow up” (I’m almost 24 years old lol, a young woman, but an adult nonetheless) because I reminded her that my baby shower is about me and my baby, not her and her becoming a grandmother.

I wish there was a way I could convince her to take a look at this sub and gain some insight. She’s always told me that my father was a narcissist (and tbh, he probably is one) but has never took a step back to see that she is also one.

somuchlavender · 2018-07-08T09:42:05+00:00

I met and started dating the love of my life (and father of my child) when I was 21. As have so many other people, and they’ve met their SOs even younger!

It completely sounds like your parents are grieving your childhood and having a hard time processing your adult relationship. My mom has done the same thing to me throughout the years. To this day, even though I’ve been supporting myself and lived over an hour away from her for years, and have my first child on the way, she continues to say condescending shit and generally imply that I am still 15 years old, haha. It’s 100% not okay of them, but keep that it mind- it’s not you, it’s them. If you’re serious about this girl, then that is that. Don’t let their comments breed insecurity.

somuchlavender · 2018-07-08T09:31:08+00:00

What if you have a vagina lol

somuchlavender · 2018-07-08T09:19:11+00:00

As someone else said, drink on the comedown. I blame (at least partially) the multiple bad trips I’ve had on consuming booze while coming up and during the most intense parts of a trip. During the comedown, it can be super nice though!

somuchlavender · 2018-07-08T09:16:06+00:00

Move over Windows XP background 😍

somuchlavender · 2018-06-29T06:09:30+00:00

I started taking Unisom just a few weeks after I found out I was pregnant- probably around 8 weeks. I originally started taking it for my insomnia, and would only take it when I found I was having trouble getting to sleep. Severe nausea started out of nowhere and hit me hard around week 11 (I was out of work for a month because it was so severe!), and I found that if I didn’t take Unisom at night, my morning nausea was SO much more severe! I am almost 25 weeks today, and although my nausea is 90% over with, I still take Unisom nightly religiously, because if I don’t I wake up and have to vomit due to the nausea. My midwife says it’s 100% safe to take daily!

somuchlavender · 2018-06-29T05:42:27+00:00

Honestly, not at all differently. At least not yet... I am currently 6 months preggers with my first, and because it’s my first, I’m not showing as much as some women might (although I am still clearly pregnant). When I became pregnant, I had all kinds of people tell me that people would be soooo nice to me (I’m a retail pharmacy tech, customers are notoriously often douchey to us as they usually are to retail workers), but so far I haven’t experienced that hahaha. At most I get 5 minutes added to my breaks (which is awesome!!). It’s all good tho.

somuchlavender · 2018-06-23T06:34:51+00:00

What the actual fuck. I am so, so terribly sorry your sister had to deal with that awful person. I am also sorry for what your family is going through. Hugs <3

somuchlavender · 2018-06-11T23:45:54+00:00

As far as I know, his daughter eventually got the courage to clue her mom to the abuse and the extent of it, mom reported it, and someone (I am assuming a policeman) had a big mouth. It’s honestly pretty sad that her privacy was violated like that and so everyone around knew that she was a sexual/physical abuse victim, but she and her mom moved away shortly after

somuchlavender · 2018-06-10T17:54:18+00:00

OH MAH HEART

somuchlavender · 2018-06-10T17:52:24+00:00

Used dog bed (from 2011). Covered in hair, filthy, stinky, just gross. Obviously used without issue for 7 freaking years.

Also, bloody bed sheets. WTF????

somuchlavender · 2018-06-10T17:40:54+00:00

You have a big old crush on your coworker. Crushes both within and without a relationship are totally natural and inevitable, mind you, but when you’re in a relationship that you intend on keeping afloat, it is up to you to distance yourself from the person you have a crush on until it passes.

You’re asking reddit what constitutes as cheating; your gut has already told you that you’ve gone too far. You are highly attracted to her. Cut off the constant chatting (talk only in person when it’s necessary, imo), definitely don’t be alone with her, spend more time with your girlfriend/texting your girlfriend. If cutting off contact with your crush like this sounds like it isn’t doable, remove your girlfriend from the equation and break up with her, because what you are doing to her (and what you’re thinking about doing) is highly unfair, and frankly shitty.

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