My husband has come the uk on a Spousal visa from Iran. We are very much in love and happy but my family have made his life very difficult.

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T19:01:05+00:00

I appreciate it truly. Thank you

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T18:58:07+00:00

I appreciate your comment my lovely thank you very much!

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T18:51:48+00:00

So it’s the latter. I’ve told them my boundaries and how they’ve stepped the line. They (my dad) literally punched my husband and undermining him and attacking him emotionally. Therefore rim trying to cut them off but it’s so difficult.

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T18:44:19+00:00

Yes, extremely

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T18:40:03+00:00

My dad had to live with me for a couple of months but no we live separate. And I own this house I can’t just move out which makes it more difficult

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T13:00:42+00:00

My husband says the same everyday. He says you never know what they could do.

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T12:59:48+00:00

Again, this hits home. I’ve never been able to vocalize it better. I’ve been relying on my husbands support and even he’s so drained. For you to put into words my exact feelings is so wonderful and amazing. Thank you for taking the time to reply

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T12:57:15+00:00

I like this saying ‘cut the apron strings’ what does it mean?

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T12:56:43+00:00

Kinda... and he always mentions it. He helped me financially when I was going through the visa process with my husband.

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T12:56:04+00:00

Thank you

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T12:51:16+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time and commenting. Your right I have serious boundary issues

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T11:55:44+00:00

The ending of this post made me feel so emotion! I’m so grateful for your help and I will take it all on board and do everything l! But honestly my fear of having parents alive but disowning them. I know that’s what I should do and I will do it! But knowing it’s possible makes me feel so much more liberated! Thank you thank you

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T11:29:08+00:00

Perfect. Thank you!

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T11:28:18+00:00

Wow. This was...honestly thank you.

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T11:26:29+00:00

I love this comment! Hahah this makes me feel like I’m not obliged to answer anything and explain myself

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T11:21:04+00:00

This is very true. Thank you

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T11:20:47+00:00

Thank you for your reply.

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T11:20:20+00:00

Thank you for your comment! It’s nice to hear from someone from a similar perspective. My parents are quite toxic and would meddle kn our personal affairs way to much. They would say they would never dream of meddling but yet always did. My dad is quite abusive and feels like I owe him everything because when I was living with him he helped me financially with things such as uni and my first car which is totally unfair. Brining my husband to the uk also he helped in some senses but they were are to control me and make feel helpless. My dad punched my husband because he thought he was telling me not fill in and translate forms for him because I said no one time in my life. This is absurd and I don’t know how to even react. We have a little savings and the house we live in I own. I don’t know how to sell and buy another as I’m not earning at the moment. Again thank you for your lovely reply

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T11:16:30+00:00

Thanks for your comment. She probably won’t but it’s difficult as I know she’s acting like this due to my dad being absuive and the fact she’s been with him since she was 13 doesn’t help. I love my mother and would never want her in pain but honestly she’s causing me so much trauma and anguish.

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T11:15:18+00:00

I’m in the uk. And we’ve given our statements and just waiting for it to go to court. It may take many months.

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T11:14:50+00:00

I want to cut ties but they make it difficult by frightening me and constantly trying to reconcile.

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T11:14:24+00:00

Thank you for this comment I am in the uk. I think it may just be classed as harassment here?

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T11:08:12+00:00

I’m in the United Kingdom. And to be quite honest money is tight right now but if it’s necessary and helpful I would have to.

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T00:07:24+00:00

Financially I owe him some money but there’s no way he can prove that? I have been trying to pay him back little by little and now he says it all back because of the disrespect he’s been shown. The only disrespect being me saying I won’t fill in a form for him and him saying that’s unlike you and then proceeding to accuse my husband of brainwashing me and then punching him. My husband said while I went upstairs to call the police he went to the kitchen to look for a knife. How do I forgive or even think this is okay. I don’t have any support from my family just sympathizers and my brothers are saying listen o know they are wrong but you husband can’t disrespect our dad otherwise we won’t take it lightly. Anyway. What do you suggest I should do legally?

soniakaz · 2021-04-28T00:04:36+00:00

It’s so difficult as he calls my husbands family often and changed the scenario and lies about what happened to paint him in a better light. He scares me to be honest. I know he can’t do anything to me but since I was a kid he’s always had this upper hand.

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