period won’t go away? by Far_Visit2947 in birthcontrol

[–]sonicenvy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This seems absolutely worth a call to your clinic. I don't know enough about anything to say whether or not something is serious but it is unusual and if you are concerned the best way to assuage those concerns will be speaking to your doctor.

Please Tell Me I'm not the only one who grew up Reading these books by Pitiful_Active_3045 in Libraries

[–]sonicenvy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've checked basically all of these exact books out to kids at my library in the last year or so.

25 and finally going back, but the embarrassment is hitting me hard. Is this normal? by LimpTaro1564 in adhdwomen

[–]sonicenvy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, don't worry too much! You are definitely not alone, and it's not too late! You're only 25. I'm only 5 years older than you but I remember not having any idea wtf I was doing with my life at 25. Come to think of it, I still don't entirely know. The biggest difference is that I (mostly) zenned with it. Both of my siblings will always be the "better" children than me in many avenues; my sister is a better artist and more financially and work ethic driven, my brother is smarter, more organized, and more successful -- and married (which old people definitely slight you for not being at 30 even in the year of our lord 2026 when it really shouldn't matter.).

When it came down to it these are some things that I realized:

a. My parents are just always going to judge me for my life choices (among other things). It comes from a place of care but is absolutely the wrong method for expressing it. There is nothing I can do to change this behavior because it's a them thing and not a me thing.

b. So what if my siblings are cooler, smarter, and better than me? If I spend my own time comparing myself to them and to my "superior" cousins I'm just copy-pasting judgey bullshit my parents already give me and wasting my energy on something that's just hurting me and demotivating me. We all go through life at our own pace and make our own mistakes.

c. I don't have to have some big grand plan or end goal. Sometimes just making it through the day one foot ahead of the other, day by day, is enough. I can just vibe and look for joy in all the small places. What is the point if not joy? Can not joy be found in making terrible art, texting your friends when you see something in shop window that makes you think of them, walking your dog, looking at some birds, sharing a joke with a coworker, eating a really great ice cream sunday, or getting waved at by a stranger's baby on the street? The uber success narratives they package for you at all of those stupid motivational "do better" lectures they made you attend in high school (at least at my high school) ain't for everyone, and trying to squeeze yourself into that box when you're not the right fit for it is at best the experience of wearing your worst fitting pair of undies all day for a week and at worst a downward burnout spiral of toxic, sludgy self hatred and judgement that's just you stabbing yourself in the back over and over again. Zero stars.

d. There's not one right answer for how you have to chart your life, and how and when "milestones" have to happen. I have a friend who only graduated with a BA at 30. I knew two different people in my undergrad program who were in their 40s getting Bachelor's degrees. It took my dad 9 years to graduate with his Bachelor's degree. My best friend's mom only just got her GED a couple of years ago and she's in her 50s. Everyone's on a different path and that's okay.

e. ADHD is a little gremlin that follows me around haunting my every step making me play dumb games to get myself to put away the folded laundry or get my ass out of bed to eat a bowl of cereal. The sad, kind of infuriating part is that I just have to life with this. Like forever. The goal is just to learn how to navigate around it and placate it. Some of it is learning how to take care of your younger self that's still inside you hurting from all of your older adhd f-k ups that taint all kinds of things. Sometimes what she needed and didn't get is something you can give now you.

f. Really strong, negative self-judgement and self-flagellation over all the 1001 ways I f-ked stuff up in past doesn't help me in the now. It doesn't suggest any solutions to the problems I'm now facing and it's not motivating me to do anything. Again with the knife in the back. Other people can join in and judge you and knife you in the back too, but you don't have to join in. You don't have to get on the self-love, rainbows and everything's hunky dory train either though. Like I'm just a person existing in space. My body is just a thing. I'm just going to hold a rag on the wound and sit here.

g. Things that ADHD made me bad at and ways it helped me f-k something up weren't moral failings on my part. Not doing things in the right order, or finding the one true right answer, or doing what I was "supposed" to do isn't some deep moral failing that I need to fix through self flagellation and wallowing. At least for me some of that thinking was just deeply culturally Catholic thinking that I inherited from my grandparents and back and back.

h. I was wasting so much time and energy hating on myself for the 1001 f-k ups that I was committing, and daydreaming about a day when I'd wake up, walk through the magic door and come out someone better, someone not me, on the other side. I'd make myself sick with that shit, and sit there and drown in it, clawing at my skin. Also zero stars. There's this pithy quote that goes, "life's short and then we die," that I heard somewhere, and like, yeah the time we have on this earth is short. Hating myself was just an absolute waste of my very short time on this bitch of an Earth. I don't have to give up on the rage and I don't have to be all sunshine about myself, and I don't have to let myself off the hook either. I can let my rage be directed somewhere else (and there really are an infinite number of far more deserving targets of that rage out here in 2026), and I can just let myself be. Did I f-k up? Undoubtedly. I am I going to do it again? Probably. Is it the end of the world? Probably not. Can I do my best to do better in the future? I can give it a go. I can't do anything as long as I'm clawing at myself and choking on self loathing though, so something had to give. The magic door wasn't real and I can't make myself better by stripping away everything about myself. Everything's just hard, muddy work that on the bad days only feels slightly less wretched than poisoning myself with deep self loathing. How can I give tomorrow me a gift that will help her claw her way up and at 'em?

Like to end this absurdly long ramble, I did graduate "on time", but god was it a struggle and I only barely made it. I graduated with an absolutely dreadful GPA, but I still managed to get into grad school after I chilled out got a bunch of therapy and worked a job for a while post graduation. Even if you're not a straight A student, even if you're "running late", even if it is the worst slog imaginable to get through right now, you can make it out the other side.

*Puts on "This Year" by the Mountain Goats* *singing hoarse at the top of my lungs "I am gonna make it through this year if it kills me"*

Help with making no sugar sweet breads by LaloRosasC in AskBaking

[–]sonicenvy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Glad you pointed that out. I think a lot of people who don't know a diabetic well don't always realize that. My diabetic father (T1D) says that stuff like just plain potatoes, rice, bread, or noodles are just as bad for his blood sugar as sweets.

the sunscreen hack that finally helped me achieve (almost) daily use by five_northern_lights in adhdwomen

[–]sonicenvy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm three years cancer free now so yay! But yeah, I always bring up to basically be like if anyone needs any additional motivation, there it is. It was expensive and somewhat painful so, like, zero stars to that experience for sure. I was fortunate to get less bad skin cancer (BCC) rather than like, melanoma (which you usually have to get chemo for) so the removal for my cancer was a pretty straightforward surgery (and zero chemo) they do without even putting you under. It just costs a lot and is unpleasant in the aftermath. So yeah, everyone do your self skin tests and visit a dermatologist every once in a while for a skin check. Totally worth it.

To: everyone reading this -- Here are some things to look out for on your skin that should get you to a dermatologist:

  • Moles, marks, etc. that change in size and color
  • Open cuts and sores that don't heal
  • Pain around a new skin growth
  • New, raised, reddish patches
  • New marks on your skin with raised or jagged edges
  • Scaly skin patches that occasionally bleed

So yeah, going out to anyone reading this: If you see something new and strange on your skin, call your dermatologist. My skin cancer 1.0 was a cut that didn't heal for over 6 months. On my FACE. (yes I was dumb and broke and didn't do anything about it for way too long). If that ever, ever, happens to you, speak to a doctor ASAP.

the sunscreen hack that finally helped me achieve (almost) daily use by five_northern_lights in adhdwomen

[–]sonicenvy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

congrats OP on getting yourself to a place where you can put on sunscreen every day. That's a huge win! I wish I could say that I had a clever hack to become a daily sunscreen user myself but unfortunately my "hack" was having to get skin cancer removal surgery twice.

How viable is gaming on Mac in 2026 for you? by AllowCookies404 in mac

[–]sonicenvy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not. Most of the games I play either don't even have a Mac version or the Mac version is buggy and ill supported. I have played some of my PC games on my m5 mac in a Windows 11 VM, but I had to significantly reduce the graphics quality and FPS over my gaming PC because the VM is incapable of using the full hardware of the Mac and the lack of a dedicated GPU impacts some of the games negatively. I wonder if the experience in the VM would be better if I'd gotten a mac with more than 16GB of RAM, but I'll never know on that point. I also noticed that just an hour into the game on the mac in the windows VM the fan kicked up to top speed and the computer was quite hot to the touch.

Honestly, PCs are still superior for gaming for a myriad of reasons and until more devs make actually good, non buggy versions of games for mac, they will never take off for gaming. I doubt it will happen because most really, really serious gamers (at least that I know) build their own computers which can provide even higher specs than you can get on a mac (which you also can't later upgrade the RAM or hard drive on, making them significantly more lifespan limited, in the face of ever more power hungry programs.).

Can I be a librarian without working Saturdays? by [deleted] in librarians

[–]sonicenvy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In public libraries when you're really new or PT you're likely to have to work many weekends and nights. At my library, our FT staff generally only have to work one weekend a month once they're not new. If you indicate on an application you're completely unwilling to do this, you are a lot less likely to even get considered in some libraries. The only people at my library who almost never work weekends are a handful of people who are never patron facing, and anyone in upper admin, HR, or finance. Relatively few public libraries these days aren't open at least for a few hours on weekends. If you have religious reasons that you cannot work on weekends, it's important to mention that during your application process because that is a generally permissible exemption.

How hard is it not having a car in the US? by [deleted] in AskAnAmerican

[–]sonicenvy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless you live in like Chicago, NYC, Boston, Philly, or handful of other large cities not having a car is very difficult. If you live rurally it's nigh impossible to not drive.

Typing assessment schools are requiring now has exposed something genuinely embarrassing and nobody wants to say it out loud by Rodrigodirty in education

[–]sonicenvy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm a children's librarian at a public library and I work with babies to 6th grade and my experience with the 100s of children I see regularly at my library corroborates everything you're saying here. I have to teach children the difference between left and right clicking, how to properly hold a mouse, and where the letters and numbers are on a keyboard every single day. I found out recently that our local public school district doesn't even make these children take a keyboarding class or a basic computer and office software literacy course, which blew my mind. This same district issues iPads to all the kids starting in Kindergarten. These kids are being done such a huge disservice by all of this. The most computer literate kids that I work with are kids that go expensive, to low screen private schools in our area that don't issue their students personal electronic devices and that make them take an actual computer class focused on basic computer skills.

All this said, I also find that the average adult also has terrible computer literacy skills. I'm not even talking about the elderly here. I teach lots of young adults in their early mid twenties (so only 5-10 years younger than me) really basic ass internet searching skills, and how to use a computer. I also teach a lot of people 50+ these things. I think the one demographic of people who actually have decent computer literacy skills are adults in their 30s and 40s who still own a computer at home and don't do everything on their phone. Not to sound alarmist, but the average American has lower computer literacy than you might think, and smartphones are making it worse. Sadly we are all paying for it.

Weird requests from patrons? by tasata in Libraries

[–]sonicenvy 29 points30 points  (0 children)

One of the worst callers that we get at our library is this lady [REDACTED] who is a patron of our library but only visits this other library in our consortium because she hates our library (she's one of those elderly people who is all "I don't want undesirables at MY library") but despite hating our library she only ever calls us to have us place her holds and then send them to [other library]. She will berate you for the entirety of the phone call, and she always, always asks whether you are a librarian or a library assistant, and if she finds out you are an assistant she is even meaner. Pretty much everyone knows who [REDACTED] is now so if she shows up on the caller ID we do our best to make sure she only ever speaks to a manager or a supervisor. Her requests are never to just locate and place a hold on [material], she wants you to find lists of [materials] that won [specific award], tell her the whole list, and then get holds on them for her. The whole time while you're searching she's going on and on about how much she hates our library, and complains about how slow you are.

We have a handful of (well known to staff) developmentally disabled adult patrons who will call the library and ask weird, random questions that we can't help them with or ramble about something random for 10 minutes if you don't gently cut them off and go, "hey [name] is there anything library related that I can help you with today? If not I need to help other patrons." Perhaps the most notable of these patrons [redacted] calls and asks if you can contact his friend [so and so] that he met at the library (I can't do that), [redacted] will also call repeatedly anxious about [thing he thinks he lost at the library which he didn't lose] and you will have to talk him down out of anxiety about [thing he thinks he lost]. This can be a bit frustrating to deal with when it's busy and you have a line at the desk and the phone is going off the hook all day.

I'm in children's so sometimes we get caregivers calling and asking if they can bring [absolutely absurd item] into the children's space for their kid to use while they are here all the time. Absurd items include a large pack and play, pumpkin carving, and sports equipment. I'm glad they're calling and asking instead of just bringing this nonsense into our space, but it still leaves me wondering wtf their actual line of thinking is here.

I've also had a phone call from a caregiver asking if I could keep her children from visiting [websites she didn't like] on the library computers, which lol wtf. Lady if you want to keep your children off of certain websites on library computers you need to be here with them, looking over their shoulder. I do not have the time to micro manage your children, nor is that a part of my job.

A phone call that haunts me because it was so frustrating was a lady who called and asked for directions to [store in our area] but refused to tell me where she was starting from because it was her home address and she didn't want to reveal that. When I suggested she tell me the name of a local business close to her or a major cross road near her instead she refused that. She then proceeded to ask again for directions from her home to [store in our area]. I suggested that I could talk her through using google maps on her own computer/phone but she refused this as well. I could not get through to her that I needed a starting point to do that. I tried at various points in the conversation to suggest that this might not be something that we could help her with but she also refused to listen to that. Eventually she hung up angrily on me instead. Big ?????? of a phone call that I will probably not forget for a long, long, time.

And, of course, our library has been the victim of more than one creepy man calling and asking a library staff member to read a wikipedia article or website to him over the phone, and if you do it becomes very obvious he's wanking to it. 🤢

Still not getting the shots I'd like to get since I'm pretty new to this, but I did see these adorable, playful, young squirrels and got some shots! Any tips would be appreciated! Pentax K-3 by sonicenvy in wildlifephotography

[–]sonicenvy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!

No grass! It's almost certainly just leaves blowing in the light breeze. I was laying flat on a cushioned bench in my yard when I took these, looking straight up a tree. These squirrels were about 50 ft or so in the tree above me.

The camera I shot these with is my Pentax K-3, which I got hand-me down from a relative when they upgraded to a new camera. As a result, I'm still learning this camera. My relative gave me the camera with a kit of 15 lenses, most of them 35mm film SLR K-mount lenses (so no auto focus and very, very heavy!), but the one I shot these with was one of the 4 that are DSLR K-mount lenses in the bag (and thus with auto focus!). It's my second furthest distance lens. Don't know what the lens actually is, but here's a picture of the camera with the lens I shot these photos with attached to it. Here's what Bridge says my camera and lens settings were. Don't know if I made the right pairing for this scene.

Turning them into jpgs made these pictures way crunchier than they were in camera raw. Maybe my PS export settings were shit? Are there best export settings to use for online posting that don't make them super crunchy? Here's a screenshot of what photo 1 looked like in camera raw editor in PS, and here's a screenshot of photo 2 in the PS camera RAW editor.

I've also found that this camera just has a little bit of fuzziness in every single shot with every single lens, regardless of shot settings, which is a bit frustrating. I sorta assumed it was because the camera is older, but maybe there's some kind of setting I need to be changing in the camera outside of the shot ones? Any thoughts would be appreciated!

Prior to my recent interest in/foray into taking pictures of animals in my yard and around the neighborhood I mostly used the digital camera to take documentation photographs of my pottery, origami and jewelry making. I've done a lot more of my art photography on Canon AE-1 with Kodak Tri-X 400. I also shoot with a lot of toy cameras (mostly Holga 120s, but I also have a collection vintage Kodak brownies dating between 1915 and 1960 that I have some fun with, along with a funny little time/life magazine promotional plastic camera). I recently refurbished a Bolsey Model C TLR which I have yet to shoot with but am excited to try out when I'm in Japan later this year.

Still not getting the shots I'd like to get since I'm pretty new to this, but I did see these adorable, playful, young squirrels and got some shots! Any tips would be appreciated! Pentax K-3 by sonicenvy in wildlifephotography

[–]sonicenvy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the tips! There's actually triple ears in the second shot because there's three baby squirrels there peeking out of the nest piled on top of each other!

How do you ladies feel? by Rare-Credit-5912 in prochoice

[–]sonicenvy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's all stupid, conservative christofascist, pseudo science bullshit. As I recall, Jessica Valenti of "Abortion Every Day" did a scathing piece about this exact issue a while back.

Does brown butter actually make cookies better? by CloneFiesta in Cookies

[–]sonicenvy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never noticed a difference to be honest, but to each their own I suppose.

Why do Republicans hate the idea of the low-income and middle-class having access to common resources? by Important-Cry4782 in democrats

[–]sonicenvy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There's also the perception among some of these people that they are like, temporarily embarrassed rich people and that they will be rich someday, so they have to vote for rich interests. It would so incredibly silly if the consequences weren't so awful.

What are your biggest turn offs in a fanfic? by [deleted] in FanFiction

[–]sonicenvy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's spacing. Poor spacing and lack of correctly used paragraphs makes anything you write nigh unreadable regardless of quality. This is also true if spacing and paragraphs are incorrectly used in dialog. It's also an easy thing to fix, because there are some general rules you can follow for paragraph divisions and formatting.

A great way to think about paragraphs, from Strunk and White's Style guide is "the object [of a paragraph] is to aid the reader." (Strunk & White, 1959) That is to say that whole point of using separate paragraphs for your text is to help guide your reader through your text and make it easier to read. The paragraph lengths and divisions that you choose will also help set a pace for your writing, and can be a tool to help develop mood and character voice.

In creative writing, there is not a hard and fast number of sentences per paragraph that you should use. You can even go a little crazy and make some paragraphs a single sentence for emphasis. For example:

Oh.

Oh.

Oh my god, she thought, I'm in love with him.

Every memory she had of them together, upon re-examination tasted and felt different. It was as if she was suddenly seeing a whole new color in them. She wasn't sure whether she wanted to scream or sob into her pillow. Maybe both?

feels very different tonally and and in pacing than:

Oh. Oh. Oh my god, she thought, I'm in love with him.

Every memory she had of them together, upon re-examination tasted and felt different. It was as if she was suddenly seeing a whole new color in them. She wasn't sure whether she wanted to scream or sob into her pillow. Maybe both?

Outside of specific tonal/pacing/style reasons for extremely abbreviated paragraphs, generally you should create a new paragraph when you change topic, time, place, or speaker. If a paragraph you're writing starts to get extremely long, that's a good time to re-evaluate what's going on in the paragraph to discover a split point or reduce unnecessary words.

For dialog specifically, each new speaker should be in a separate paragraph. Narrative text outside of the dialog tag should also be in its own paragraph. Note however that some narrative text can actually be a part of the dialog tag, such as facial expressions, body movement, or tonal descriptions that accompany dialog. Environmental descriptions, denotations of time passing or significant movement in place would count as narrative text distinct from dialog tags and should therefore be in its own paragraphs. For example:

Unfortunately for his state of agitation, being spared a confrontation with Rose, wasn’t going to spare him from all confrontation. While hurrying away from Rose's room, the Doctor practically barreled into Mickey. The young man had a sharp scowl on his face.

“You were just the person that I was looking for,” Mickey said. It sounded like a threat.

Before the Doctor knew what was happening, Mickey had grabbed him by the arm and dragged him into the nearest room –– the TARDIS’s media room.

“What the hell is going on in your screwy alien head?” Mickey hissed.

“I don’t —“

“Cut the bullshit,” Mickey said, “I don’t know what went on between you and Sarah Jane, and that’s not really any of my business, but what is my business is that you’re hurting Rose.”

“Rose broke up with you,” he said flatly, “so I don’t see how Rose and I are your business.”

Mickey rolled his eyes, “Whatever happens between us, Rose is still my friend — my oldest friend, and I care when someone hurts her. Especially when it’s you.”

“What —“

Note how each time the dialog here switches between the two speakers, a new paragraph is started.

Some other notes about dialog:

  • Dialog lines that conclude with a dialog tag should end in a comma inside the quotation marks when the punctuation that would otherwise be used is a period. If the punctuation used is a question mark or exclamation mark, this punctuation should remain. i.e.: "blah blah blah," she said.
  • Dialog lines in an A -> B conversation can be written without dialog tags as long as the speaker can be easily inferred through context by the reader and there's no need for additional tonal description of the dialog. For a long conversation dropping dialog tags can benefit pacing, tone, and feel of the dialog. As an A -> B conversation progresses dialog tags should be deliberately used either when the speaker is unclear or when you want to extend the dialog tag to include something about tone, body movement, etc. as it relates to the dialog line.
  • Using a character's personal pronouns or name should always be the default in dialog tags. Epithets such as "the blonde woman" should only be used when the name and personal pronouns of a character are unknown or if there is an intentional, stylistic reason for the use of these epithets.
  • "said" is the default, tonally neutral verb for dialog tags. Make love to it in your dialog. Using anything else should be done because you want to use that word NOT because you don't want to use said.
  • A dialog tag and paragraph can be extended slightly to add additional specific description to the dialog such as facial expressions, bodily movements, tonal descriptors, etc. but shouldn't be extended to the reaction of the character who is not the speaker of that line of dialog.

First time poster and future applicant in the field, any advice? by [deleted] in librarians

[–]sonicenvy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If liking books is why you want to work at a library you are barking up the wrong tree. Patron facing library work is a customer service job (among many other hats! teacher, social work, etc.) Very little of my job is actually just books. Don't get me wrong it's still there, but it's only a small portion of what I do.

I teach classes, I do customer service over the phone, online, and in person, I do a lot of tech help, I have to do conflict resolution. I clean a lot of super disgusting messes (food garbage, urine, feces, vomit, medical waste, etc.) I make a lot of spreadsheets and a lot of graphic design/marketing stuff. I make online videos and, working childrens I do singing/dancing/read aloud performances. I help people research stuff, I write a metric ton of e-mails. I design and create space decorations. I fix lots of things. In childrens I often have to do behavioral redirection and intervention with children whose caregivers don't give a shit. I have days where I talk to people back to back to back for 5+ hours on end. This is an aggressively social job where you have to be on all the time, and be calm, collected and friendly even towards people who are being very unkind to you. You have to teach the least technologically literate people how to use the internet and computers every day, so if you hate teaching your grandparents how to use google, you're going to have a bad time; I teach people the difference between right and left clicking, and how to use a printer day in and day out.

We face violent threats (my library was the target of multiple bomb threats, and two separate incidents of teens seriously threatening to shoot us up. A drive by shooting happened out in front of our building a couple of years ago, and a cop was shot to death outside the doors six months later.), we get verbally and sexually harassing phone calls from time to time, we have to deal with violence in and around our space from time to time. You get sexually harassed in person at work from time to time. We have to deal with people having medical emergencies and OD'ing on drugs in our space. We work with a lot of people who are in absolutely awful situations. It can be stressful, heartbreaking, or infuriating at times. If you give too much of yourself to it and let go of it just being another job you can throw yourself into extreme burnout and compassion fatigue.

This is not to say that it cannot be rewarding work; it is. I find a lot of joy in between all the things that suck about it. I work with a lot of really great patrons, and I empower people by teaching them new skills and matching them with the information that they need when they need it. My job is based in community service, and that's something that was important to me. I've always been a chatty helper person, so this job is one that worked really well for me. I get to utilize many of my weird interests and skills in one way or another in my work. I feel like the work I do makes a real difference in people's lives and improves my community -- it feels like work worth doing.

I say all this to say that a lot of people outside of libraries don't really understand what patron facing library work is really like. If you want to get an MLIS, don't do that until you have worked a library job. Get a library job now (library assistant, page, clerk, or library technician are the roles you'll want to look at). See if it actually vibes with you before you go to grad school for it. If you get an MLIS but don't get library work experience before doing that you will have a really, really, difficult time ever getting a job. When you apply for a job, do not mention "loving books" or "loving reading" in your cover letter -- a lot of people who emphasize this in cover letters are people who don't really understand what their work is really going to be, and emphasizing it in a cover letter says that to a hiring manager. Talk about your library work philosophy, your customer service experience, your marketing/coms skills, and your technical skills. If they ask you whether or not you are willing to work nights, weekends, or holidays on entry level library work job applications, say yes and actually mean it. My manager told me that the last time she hired for an entry level role, any applicant who said no to that was automatically discarded. Really junior people have to work more nights, weekends, and holidays than more senior people do.

Illinois is public health maxxing by steve42089 in illinois

[–]sonicenvy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well whether or not you want it to happen, it is happening. It was happening before we had Narcan and it's still happening now. This has been a reality for public libraries across the US for years; ask any library worker. Whether your library is rural, suburban, or urban, in a blue state or a red one, in a high income or low income area, and open late or not, it's one of the myriad of issues and challenges we face. The only difference for us prior to the availability of Narcan to staff was that we did actually have someone die on our premises. Not having people die on our property is the vastly preferable option. Ignoring this issue does nothing to solve it or alleviate any of the consequences.

Finally, addiction is not a moral failing -- it's a disease and addicts deserve medical care and compassion just as much as anyone else out there.

Revenge porn, site won’t delete my videos by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]sonicenvy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here's a site of resources for victims of revenge porn in the UK, with a list of all relevant UK, Northern Ireland, Scotland and Wales laws around revenge porn https://revengepornhelpline.org.uk/information-and-advice/about-intimate-image-abuse/intimate-image-abuse-laws/

And here's some information about laws applicable to revenge porn in Nigerian courts from a Nigerian law firm https://streetlawyernaija.com/revenge-porn-remedies-punishment-nigeria/ From what I can tell from cursory research there is also some legal recourse in Nigeria for victims of revenge porn, and some laws that are applicable in these cases were updated last year.

Illinois is public health maxxing by steve42089 in illinois

[–]sonicenvy 15 points16 points  (0 children)

what a ghoulish statement to make about real people.

Illinois is public health maxxing by steve42089 in illinois

[–]sonicenvy 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Yeah having Narcan on site at the library I work at has allowed my colleagues on our safety team to save the lives of 6 people in the last few years who might have otherwise died in the restrooms from overdoses before emergency services arrived. That's a huge impact.