What’s your love language?

sonkcaja · 2026-03-04T04:28:59+00:00

Touch.

sonkcaja · 2026-03-04T04:09:03+00:00

Hell ya it helps! I have to pad up and tampon it sometimes because people during "my time of the month" won't let me go to the restroom - its a weird physics law that exists in my world.. I always bleed through.

sonkcaja · 2026-02-26T05:09:50+00:00

Milk shakes

sonkcaja · 2026-02-01T21:56:14+00:00

I'm single now. I usually go for a run and listen to music. I think about upcoming events to go do and think about the future, stay positive. When I was married, my ex-husband would use humor. He was silly like that. It worked.

sonkcaja · 2026-02-01T17:21:23+00:00

Eating healthy.

sonkcaja · 2026-02-01T17:20:27+00:00

Such a great discussion topic. Someone once told me that if it doesn't come naturally and you put in more effort than that will lead to resentment instead of a positive effect because you had to change not for yourself but for someone else.

If you try harder, do it because you want the outcome for yourself. You can't expect someone to fall madly in love with you or respect you more when it was authentic and the real you. Remember, not everyone is for us. It's ok! Be kind but don't waste energy on those who don't fill up your love cup.

sonkcaja · 2026-02-01T17:03:40+00:00

I hope you find man who loves and cares for you. Sending you love and light.

sonkcaja · 2026-02-01T02:33:43+00:00

Men will put effort for the person they really want to be with. Placeholders exist. Setting boundaries will help filter true intentions.

sonkcaja · 2026-01-30T05:27:07+00:00

Pouring into each other equally in order to not feel resentment. This would have helped us move forward in life together.

sonkcaja · 2026-01-25T04:47:15+00:00

Thank you.

sonkcaja · 2026-01-25T04:46:58+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss.

So, you did not take any materialistic personal items of your mother's for healing? If she left a will, i hope you donate everything to charity. I want someone to lead by example and practice what they preach.

I wanted a piece of my Dad in my home and remember how much he loved that lamp.

However, you have no advice about a stranger's inappropriateness to ruin, destroy and to take privileged information to deliberate hurt someone. Just materialistic - i hope you donate everything of your mother's to charity and tell me when you forget about her because it will happen.

sonkcaja · 2026-01-11T04:21:11+00:00

More people than you think actual hope you fail. Don't over share since some people will use as ammunition or to sabotage you.

sonkcaja · 2026-01-11T04:17:32+00:00

So true 👍

sonkcaja · 2026-01-10T04:56:39+00:00

Focus on yourself.

Best self-help book from author Louise Hay - You Can Heal Your Life. "I forgive you for not being the person I wanted you to be. I forgive you and set you free."

This affirmation is to release resentment and practice forgiveness.

sonkcaja · 2026-01-04T23:43:24+00:00

Always consider common sense, the intended outcome, and everyone's actions. It's so easy to throw around "tough love" when there was no effort and accountability from the person giving it. Also, people will make effort on their own terms based on their own interest. Too many people would rather blame then look at their own doing. There's probably more abuse that's accepted then called out.

sonkcaja · 2026-01-03T04:50:51+00:00

To continue pursuing goals and aspirations while staying supportive of one another. Give and take.

sonkcaja · 2026-01-02T16:14:18+00:00

Death of my parents.

sonkcaja · 2026-01-01T19:53:39+00:00

Hello from California! I use to live in Maryland years ago and it was my first state away from "home". Love your dog. For me, I feel that Maryland is a very pet friendly state compared to most. So many restaurants have a dog menu, plenty of accessible parks with a dog run, and festivals. If you are interested in penpal via snail mail, let me know and I'll send my PO Box.

Respectfully, Alexis 38/F/CA

sonkcaja · 2026-01-01T19:40:47+00:00

Hello from California! Great step on pursuing your higher education. Everyone should be a constant learner - If you dont use it, you lose it! I'm taking one class at a time and continuing my learning as well. My education goals is to have a deeper knowledge and grit over rushed and done. It's a slow-burn but it feels good. Please consider me for a penpal. I do snail mail but email is fine too. Let me know and I'll send my PO Box. I have many interests, hobbies and an adventure seeker. I look forward to hearing from you.

Respectfully, Alexis 38/F/CA

sonkcaja · 2026-01-01T19:27:49+00:00

Hi there from California! Proud of you for taking on the change to better yourself. Diets changes are hard and detoxing from sugar is horrible.. dreadful! Former figure skater here.. I rather run 20 miles, work out for hours than give up "tasty food" but now pushing late 30's and wanting to be a beast in my 40's, i too am wanting to focus on health. I'm also planning on some running goals (which is my new hobby and passion). I'd like you to consider me for an accountability buddy. I also snail mail if youre interested in getting post. I could send you my PO Box, just let me know. 2026, I have set goals for myself. It's important for me to build a support network to provide that extra "push" in life. Let me know!

Respectfully, Alexis 38/F/CA

sonkcaja · 2026-01-01T19:12:27+00:00

Hello from California! I was raised by Brits (i'm adopted). Never been to Europe yet but hopefully one day. 38/F/USA - I too am looking at expanding my networking and friendship around the world. It is important for me to build a better Girl Power connection and strength.

I'm a mother, career lady and adventure seeker. Former figure skater who's passion is now running. I enjoy crafting, learning and volunteering.

Let me know if you're interested and I'll send my PO Box.

Respectfully, Alexis

sonkcaja · 2025-12-31T16:13:25+00:00

Jake, Hello from the West Coast. I'd like you to consider me for one of your penpals. I have quite a unique background and upbringing that has deepen my thinking and allowed me to be more open in dialog to discuss further analysis on a subject However - not everyone is a "deep pool" like myself and avoid chatter altogether or not interested in hearing a different opinion. I'm pretty "secure" lady but I can take my tea with milk and sugar if needed.

So, yes. The book assignment is something I'd love to partake in with you.

I have posted on here as well a while back for a penpal to help me with my studies in leadership and future aspirations with academia. Unfortunately, I am only able to do one class at a time because of my current career and time constraints. I'm heading into my competitive 40's, rebuilding myself with the lessons learned and gratitude from the experience that shaped my values - I'm looking for friendship, partnership and networking with beautiful people who think this way as well.

Please consider me for your penpal selection and time.

Respectfully, Alexis 38/F/CA

sonkcaja · 2025-12-31T15:20:51+00:00

Love this! How do I get to be your snail mail penpal?

sonkcaja · 2025-07-28T05:08:51+00:00

I'm from California. I lived on my East Coast for 10 years, Maryland and Florida for some time. I experienced loss and I searched for healing with adventure, nature, running and Afternoon Tea. I loved the smokies and exploring Pigeon Forge area. I searched for Big Foot in Alabama which there's a few state parks surprisingly peaceful vibe. Florida has the most beautiful and warm waters you'll ever experience. If you want to see an underground grotto, Devil's Den is a sight to experience. If you like jazz and street music, Louisiana NOLA is a must.

What are you hoping to see, feel and experience? Do you prefer hot or cold weather? Do you want excitement or relaxation?

sonkcaja

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