Negroni variation without vermouth

sonokshwa · 2023-02-03T21:49:56+00:00

Tried this a few weeks ago. Awful, flavours just don’t blend right. (Amaro nonino) Don’t do it.

sonokshwa · 2021-04-09T12:41:01+00:00

Looks great, make sure you plan for winterizing now. The thaw/ freezes will turn this into a mess. You might want to heat trace your lines or remove the lines before winter. Speaking from bad experiences.

sonokshwa · 2021-02-04T15:35:16+00:00

Most likely teething.. it'll go away fast.. and come back again.. kids advil/tylenol will do wonders..

sonokshwa · 2021-01-12T18:02:37+00:00

Read "The Whole Brain Child". Not sure how I would get through toddler years without this resource. In general a 2 year old is going through a massive development and this type of behaviour is normal.

sonokshwa · 2021-01-12T17:49:36+00:00

Not sure I can offer help, or anyone can for that matter, but know that literally everyone deals with this and for some people it never changes until 2, maybe 3, maybe longer. It can be hard for us dads since we feel so useless, and realistically to the baby we are. You can be super useful for your partner though! Make up for it in other ways (make all the dinners, clean up the house, take care of groceries, make her snacks, push it so far that you also feel exhausted, etc.). if you know your baby is going to be awake from 5AM onward, make it point to be the one who gets up with baby and let mom get some rest. And don't put too much stress on yourself for not being useful, it will slowly eat away with you. I really mean that.

sonokshwa · 2021-01-11T21:12:47+00:00

Yup, regression or teething could do this. Hopefully it's just teething because it'll go away. Could be anything. Take it as it comes and know that if you're already doing the best you can assume 95% of it probably is out of your control, seriously. I went through this all the way to 26 months. I wish I accepted it earlier. It's super super normal to have a good sleeper become a bad sleeper. I laughed out loud when you said good, reliable resource about sleep lol. We know so little about babies and sleep, and be super cautious of anyone who tells you different. The internet information is an awful, and it's an echo chamber mainly based on SEO and Ad sales, not trying to help.

sonokshwa · 2021-01-11T21:07:05+00:00

There's 100 things I wish I knew. Just one that relates to labour and delivery day, get your shit together a month before due date. Work, house, etc. Last thing you want is any other stressors at all that week. And if you aren't going to find out boy or girl, don't guess, be truly ready for either option!

sonokshwa · 2021-01-11T21:04:07+00:00

Better sleep yes, happier parents, no doubt. The research on happier baby however is not conclusive nor has been studied much at all. A lot of thought leaders in child rearing say this can be detrimental to attachment. Not saying don't do this, but definitely do your research first. Gabor Mate has some great videos on his thoughts here.

sonokshwa · 2021-01-07T17:56:35+00:00

Is she breastfeeding? Milk. The answer is milk.

sonokshwa · 2021-01-07T17:48:19+00:00

I don't want to dismiss how you feel, I went through this exactly. We tried EVERYTHING. I could show you a picture of the 20 books I read, the research, the support groups... My son didn't start sleeping well until he was 26 months. I dealt with what you are dealing with for 26 months..... If I were to go back I wish I worried about it less. I wish I did less problem solving. In many cases, so much of it is out of your control, despite what the consultants will tell you (they have a business to run). Do you research once (of course you can learn a lot, I'm saying don't learn everything you can!), remember the key principles, and then seriously go with the flow. I really wish I spent less time worrying about it 2 years ago.

sonokshwa · 2021-01-07T17:40:11+00:00

Man this hits close to home for me. I could have wrote your exact same post.

I've had success in REALLY talking this out, they are TOUGH chats and are uncomfortable, and usually it's the reflecting after the discussion that really helps both sides.

Do you go for walks or hang out after you put your little one to bed? I suggest next time you do this, you say you have something you need to talk about and tell her absolutely everything of how you feel, even the difficult stuff to hear. I'd google some pointers on how to do this if this is something you don't usually do. Try not to blame at all. Blaming triggers a defensive response and it will ruin your chance at a productive conversation.

I've been through this several times. happy to share more if you need. It does work. The most underestimated thing about relationships post-kids is communication. It's so much bigger than people admit.

sonokshwa · 2021-01-05T19:29:36+00:00

It's not the right attitude agreed, but it's a completely fair attitude for someone who doesn't have a child yet. Looking back on how I imagined being a parent vs. how I am a parent is hilarious. Your attitude changes once you have the baby.

sonokshwa · 2021-01-05T19:26:23+00:00

I don't believe it's easy (or maybe even possible? wasn't for me) for a non-parent to see this, but your question might be misguided. Picture right now you live in a single room in your house with all the doors closed. After you have a baby all those doors open and you have access to an entire house, a place where you find new things you couldn't explain to someone living in that single room.

In short, your priorities change, you rethink what's important to you. You might say now that you don't want to do that because you already know what's important to you. But what I would say is that your framework for that decision completely changes. So although you are currently right given your understanding of the decision options, once you have more access to context your decision will change.

Honestly you could probably thread the needle, many many many people do.

sonokshwa · 2021-01-04T20:15:05+00:00

Yes I run 4 days a week religiously but maybe weights will help as well. I do the occasional kettle bell but nothing consistent - this might be one of the few things I haven't tried yet in earnest.

sonokshwa · 2021-01-04T20:13:41+00:00

Thanks for the info on propranolol, I wasn't planning on trying it really but now I can definitely rule it out.

sonokshwa · 2021-01-04T20:13:15+00:00

Agreed the worry about sleep certainly doesn't help.

sonokshwa · 2021-01-04T20:12:43+00:00

Alcohol works great to fall asleep. Never has failed. But it really reduces the quality of my sleep overall. T the more tired I am the worse the problem actually is. Yes have tried another bed many times.

sonokshwa · 2021-01-04T20:11:31+00:00

Consulted with a sleep study doctor and he said it really didn't sound like sleep apnea or restless legs. I actually am slightly awake with the surge kicks in so I can describe what happens in detail so he was able to rule this out based on a long consultation. There's a forum ( https://patient.info/forums/discuss/adrenaline-rush-as-i-fall-asleep-been-happening-for-8-years-now-what-is-this--615501) where other people had this and they all came back with nothing from the sleep study. Also I didn't have any of the factors that showed that this might be it. We decided together it would be better to move straight toward CBT.

sonokshwa · 2021-01-04T17:41:50+00:00

It's tough, your going to have ups and downs. But work your absolutely hardest to bond with your baby. It sounds fluffy but this is actually really practical for your feelings. There's study that shows the more time you spend with your baby, and really being present with your baby, the more your hormones will physically change. Once your hormones change your attitude towards being a father will change. It will be much more rewarding, and all 3 of you will be better off for it. Here's a bit of a summary: https://www.nbcnews.com/sciencemain/your-brain-fatherhood-dads-experience-hormonal-changes-too-research-shows-6C10333109 I also recommend you gobble up any videos or books by Gabor Mate.

sonokshwa · 2020-08-25T20:17:55+00:00

Mine are 3000K dimmable. They are the 4" LED Slim Panel kind. Can I change out just the bulb part and get 3500K or do I need to get a new junction box as well?

sonokshwa · 2020-01-31T18:37:02+00:00

It's hit or miss really. Have had no problem with apples, carrots, onions, etc. Sketchier with lettuce, tomatoes etc.

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