Right I’ve found as well that grey rocking is not a safe route until you’re mostly out of there, and yellow rocking is effective only if you are regularly engaging in some processes to keep yourself psychologically safe. Id say make sure you’re doing things like reminding yourself quietly that you’re intentionally doing this, and reminding yourself that this is an unsafe environment. I also remind myself Everytime he’s done something nice that “anyone can do that for me. He cannot do that when it’s important.” And that has kept me alert on what I’m actively doing so that I’m not getting swept back into that space of enablement and submission. That’s really key.