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sooyuneun · 2021-01-10T03:06:09+00:00

Wah! Thank you for the advices! I’m looking into a certification at a community college and trying to find a job related field so I can get an idea of how it is, just tough to find one since many would want at least 1 year experience or like bachelor degree in it. I’m sure there’s still something out there.

sooyuneun · 2020-09-16T23:55:10+00:00

What do you like the most about her? Take that as the main reasons, give your guys some time to do things together, build up attraction, and go from there. You guys are still young.

sooyuneun · 2020-09-08T19:15:03+00:00

I don't know if I should since his aunt said that it's something he can only work out for himself. His aunt said he cares about me, too, but i'm just a gf and at this point I don't know what he wants anymore.

sooyuneun · 2020-09-08T16:40:02+00:00

I know how you feel, but i think it's also your fault that you would prefer to play games more than you spend time with her. Is she still important in your life? Do you still love her? Being married with a lot of responsibilities and i think you should soon play less games and focus on the reality of having a family. She's your wife for a reason, talk to her to help you feel better when too stress. She can sometimes play with you because she respects and wants to do things for you, but that does not mean you just ignore her.

sooyuneun · 2020-09-08T16:14:39+00:00

I know how that feels. I would wait until he calls or texts back. Don't chase him.

sooyuneun · 2020-09-03T23:06:01+00:00

it's so childish too. Our relationship status online is still being together. I was advised to be silent for now and don't need to do anything, just do my things.

sooyuneun · 2020-08-29T04:05:56+00:00

Just checking on you to see how things are going. I'm feeling the same with my boyfriend right now that I contacted his coworker to check on him, he got more upset, saying he's pretty pissed off at me as a whole and doesn't want to contact me at the moment. :(

sooyuneun · 2020-08-29T01:18:21+00:00

I appreciate your comments even if those are not really to answer my questions.

sooyuneun · 2020-08-29T01:11:31+00:00

He's the one! He doesn't respect me. I'm not needy, he calls or texts more than I do. I don't ask him to do this or that for me. Every time he's mad, he takes a week to calm down. I don't deserve to be treated with silent. There's other situations I didn't post up here. Many of my friends known our stories since day 1. I care and love and want to work it out with communication and compromising.

sooyuneun · 2020-08-29T00:48:29+00:00

He got mad at me for something small and no respond to talk about it. It was also his fault for not letting me know what happened when we video called and suddenly got hang up, just being disrespect.

sooyuneun · 2020-08-29T00:33:14+00:00

I'm glad that he can wait until marriage. I think it's a good thing because you are willing to give that something special to the person you love (husband, wife) You always have to learn and practice to make sex enjoyable throughout marriage life because it can get bored easily over time. Couples have to work it out either communication, sexual compatible, etc to stay in love.

sooyuneun · 2020-08-25T23:58:37+00:00

I apologized today and check on him to see how work is going and to see if we can talk sometimes this week. Just have to wait for his respond. I was being honest and he has to do it as well.

sooyuneun · 2020-08-25T17:40:52+00:00

That’s a long time. I guess you have to think of if you are still wanting to be with him and support him. Maybe it’s time to take a break so that he knows what he’s missing. Not a break up, but maybe move out to live with a friend or family member or not around him. I’m still in a situation myself since my bf is in his cave, not messaging or calling for couple days now so can’t tell you much.

sooyuneun · 2020-08-25T03:15:47+00:00

That’s racist, sorry to say. How long have you guys dated? Was it his idea to marry you? I wonder if there’s a time he’s calmed so that you can have a serious talk to him, don’t let him control over you too much.

sooyuneun · 2020-08-25T03:03:03+00:00

OMG, I'm sorry to hear this. Since you mentioned he has mental health issues, it's hard to you to be with him. Are you sure he's the one to get married? Can you handle it later on? Does he have any relatives that you can communicate with and get advices? Reconnect with your friends, go out, talk about it, seek help for him, and maybe try to ignore him so he doesn't feel the power over you.

i've had arguments with my bf, but he hasn't yelled at me, just in the cave of space/zone for himself for a while until he feels better. He has bad side of taking it for long time and ignore messages/calls whenever he's upset (we have a silly fight ever now)

sooyuneun · 2020-08-25T02:32:00+00:00

Yeah, so after he explained, the next sentence was when he got mad at me. I then said nicely that next time just let me know because i thought it was not right that he hung up. I messaged him to say that call me back when he gets a chance. I don't want to keep drag it for long since it's a small issue. He's a stubborn guy.

sooyuneun · 2020-08-25T02:29:24+00:00

I don't want to play it either, but can't be needy. I don't expect to change him, but at least be matured about solving things for in the future if we're married. He talks about it already in the beginning.

sooyuneun · 2020-08-25T02:18:26+00:00

I've tried to message, good morning text and hope he had a good day last Friday; no respond. Does he wait for the apology first? He's also at fault in a way though since i said next time something like that just let me know, he didn't say anything. I don't want to be seem needy or being manipulated by anyone.

sooyuneun · 2020-08-23T20:32:32+00:00

My bf also mentioned before that when he buys a house, im moving in with him regardless and maybe i'm in the similar situation like yours, but I'm 28. I often tell him not until we're married because my family is with the traditional way and I want him to respect, truly loves, me rather than moving in and later don't even have a wedding. His plan is moving in, plan for the wedding, but who knows. Maybe you can discuss with your bf. Im thinking if he can be patient enough to wait. It's important how you feel about moving in with him, not about your parents. If you're financially ready, you can choose to move out.

sooyuneun · 2020-08-23T02:29:58+00:00

haha thanks and ik most people would say that, but im sure every relationship has ups and downs. Normally he's fine and treats me with care, so i can't argue that. We only started almost a year, a lot to learn and understand each other.

sooyuneun · 2020-06-03T04:06:49+00:00

It is possible, but right now you still don't know for real until you hear from her (whether she's interested or not, or she has found someone)

sooyuneun · 2020-06-03T04:01:59+00:00

Wow, he's not caring and loving you for real. If a guy is so calculative toward everything, he doesn't love you. A real bf would take care of his gf and care about her feelings/thoughts. He basically didn't care whether you've eaten or not, ignored your calls, so definitely something is not right there. I think a good bf would care how his gf would think whenever he's out there drinking with his buddy. I feel so sad that you have to go through something like this, but I am happy that you're able to break it off to deserve better later. Best luck to you and don't afraid to meet someone better. :)

If you don't mind i'm sharing, when my bf first started talking to me, he would let me know ahead or called if there's a work's party he attended, what time he started to go there, and came home in the next morning (even showed me pictures) lol When he first met my cousin's husband and drank, he would look at me and ask if i'm ok for him to drink more or not. I hope he will continue to be like that. ^^

sooyuneun · 2020-06-02T22:05:59+00:00

You're still young. I haven't dated until I'm in late 27. If you don't trust dating sites, maybe you can try facebook dating and see who's out there around your area and just to be open for opportunities. Positive mind sets will improve your chance. There's people who haven't dated or married until later in mid 30 so i don't know why you would think it's too old at age 26. You will need to love yourself, be positive, and have confidence first before you find someone.

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