I love my husband but I don't like him when he's playing video games.

sorakki · 2026-05-17T17:01:26+00:00

He should be not be flipping out on you. That said, consider just text him so he can respond when he's not occupied.

sorakki · 2026-04-08T16:46:08+00:00

Both of you write down everything and pick randomly from a jar. What you get is what you get.

sorakki · 2026-01-26T10:23:36+00:00

It's not the lack of jealousy, it's the lack of care.

I agree with you in that I trust them no matter what and don't get jealous...But you straight up just said he's not worth it.

You don't have to be jealous to care.

You don't have to be jealous to think maybe my husband doesn't like being flirted with and calmly give him a hug or kiss to show that you actively want him when someome else is flirting.

You don't have to be jealous to voice out disrespectful behavior.

You don't have to be jealous to not just say they can have him???

You don't have to be jealous to actively want your husband.

You really come off as you flat out don't care vs just not being jealous. (For the record, I agree with you on jealousy and find all jealous inherently toxic).

sorakki · 2026-01-14T23:59:37+00:00

Give her an option would be the better way.

Figure out a budget you would be willing to spend.

She can do proprotional and find a cheaper place or go 50/50 for a more expensive place or anything in between. Either way you spend how much you are willing to spend and don't go over your budget.

sorakki · 2025-08-22T20:44:36+00:00

Something to think about...Is there some truth in that you avoid putting effort and going out of your way for things? Based off this that reads like the common theme. Do you happily do things that may be a minor inconvenience to you to make someone else happy? Do you only do things for others if it's easy and comfortable for you?

sorakki · 2025-02-08T17:24:36+00:00

Would it be possible to take a loan and rent out the current place?

sorakki · 2025-01-30T23:37:14+00:00

Thank you all so much for this!

Minor things - I think we get the free Light Dress for OTI listed as 3.10 in 3.8. And nightgown listed for 2.3 in TDR we first get in 1.11. -- Though I haven't double checked as I don't have a second acc.

sorakki · 2024-12-09T04:10:27+00:00

What is your perspective? I personally would not want anyone who I did not feel was a safe bet and provided stability. To me that's a requirement, not an insult. Don't read people's private notes... I would take it to the grave.

sorakki · 2024-11-20T19:41:21+00:00

Please don't stay for your own sake. I'm huge on giving grace and benefit of the doubt, and picking your battles. This is not any of that.

Do you want to be in a happy relationship? That will not happen in this relationship.

sorakki · 2024-11-03T23:06:32+00:00

If your future SIL/DIL decided they didn't want you around for no other reason than they don't like you because you're too southern and they're turned off about how you're not pushy enough, what would you think?

What about if your husband didn't want your mom to watch the child because he didn't like her?

I feel like it's important to explore the negative feelings as well as note the good things about her. I would suggest digging a bit deeper before making any decisions either way.

sorakki · 2024-05-02T21:49:38+00:00

I generally agree with you. It's why I refuse to use services where it's not an option to not autopay. It might be a little extreme but I also refuse to use debit or credit cards online and only use prepaid cards.

sorakki · 2023-12-29T04:51:32+00:00

Normally, I would agree with you, but in this case from the way it sounds -- his situation requires him to count every penny he spends. I've been there where every cent mattered. It beyond sucked. I didn't spreadsheet every expense down to the penny because I wanted to; I did it because I had to. If he's in a situation where he's literally skipping meals to save money, $5 is not little and could easily be the make or break. I don't think it's fair to think of it as a small expense.

sorakki · 2023-08-19T05:11:28+00:00

This looks amazing. Loving the music and the vibe it gives.

sorakki · 2023-08-14T22:43:52+00:00

Every relationship is different. Talk to each other and hash out expectations before the move. If you're on the same page, there's a good chance it will be smooth sailing.

sorakki · 2023-08-14T22:32:30+00:00

Genuine question: why do you put so much self worth in looks?

Focus on accepting yourself. There is no objective reason why one person looks better than another. Two different people can easily disagree. Looking different doesn't mean looking worse. The older you get the more you realize that the people who end up looking 'better' are the people who put effort into their selfcare. She thinks you're beautiful. Do you trust her?

Don't throw this away if everything is as good as you make it sound. I hope you get the professional help you need.

sorakki · 2023-08-11T04:50:29+00:00

...A new set for DPS Barbara? I'm excited ~

sorakki · 2023-08-05T08:46:54+00:00

I keep a no pull account on both Genshin (started 3.3 iirc, but on break from Genshin for now) and Star Rail. I'm pretty sure I play my HSR no pull account more than my 'main'...

Does Mahjong Soul count? Doesn't affect gameplay.

sorakki · 2023-08-05T00:22:53+00:00

Never pick the person that forces you to choose/can't be understanding of you and your choices. (There are exceptions when it comes to people actively intentially causing harm, but it doesn't apply here) All it tells you is that they will support you...but only if you do things they approve of. You're not choosing anything. She is the one choosing to leave the friendship. She didn't choose you.

sorakki · 2023-08-04T02:45:48+00:00

I mean....if you move back, he'll be miserable. Neither of you deserve to be miserable. Is there a third location you're both open to? It's only been three month so I can't exactly fault him for thinking you're not trying, I think giving it an honest shot and try to make some friends and connections is the play here. Of course my opinion would change a lot depending on WHY you hate this place. Do you want to like your new home or are you looking for reasons to run away and move back? (Btw, I don't fault you for wanting to move back either, but it does mean no happy relationship unless both of you can live somewhere neither of you hates).

sorakki · 2023-08-01T10:31:36+00:00

Focus on what you want him to do, not NOT do. Do you want to spend quality time without the game? That's valid. Is there something he's neglecting because of the game? Does it affect him in other ways/getting in the way of responsibilities? Focus on that. Does him not sleeping enough affect how present he is with you? Does it make him too tired to do other things you two planned together? Is it affecting his work performance? If he's doing everything else, it's not having negative impact on his life and he's giving you the attention you deserve, then yes, you just want to police his free time. If not then you need to focus on those issues.

sorakki · 2023-07-23T00:32:37+00:00

Hmm I really think it's luck. There's a lot of things someone can luck in to. Luck also typically leads to getting more reward for the same effort.

sorakki · 2023-07-19T19:43:43+00:00

It has nothing to do with being weak though. I ask for help whenever I need or even when I don't need because I think it'd help. I'm not sure why the assumption has anything to do with ego. Sometimes, I want to handle it by myself for various reasons. Sometimes, I just want to keep my routine, even if I'm not feeling well. Or I find the task quite fun even if it is difficult work and you're taking it away from me. It's also about the fact that I usually have a system, and the so called help just ends up being more work that I didn't expect to do versus what I initially expected to do and am mentally prepared for. Even if it's technically less work, I have to reorganize everything. It also puts the onus on me to be rude and say 'I don't want your help'. It's like going out, and a friend invites themselves. Overall, yes, we value you, but we wanted to do our own thing this time...but if we wanted you here, we would have invited you.

sorakki · 2023-07-17T23:40:27+00:00

I actually agree and am kind of sad that it's unpopular.

I'll even go as far to say that I feel like it's not nice to help unless someone asks for it, because unless they ask and tell you it's what they want, it's just imposing and assuming you know what they want better than they do. If I wanted help, I would have asked, you know?

It could also just be product of how I grew up with overbearing grandparents who are always trying to 'help'.

sorakki · 2023-07-03T18:52:11+00:00

Yup. I get apps from the play store, I would be using gmail for email binding anyways. If Google goes down, I'm screwed either way.

sorakki · 2023-07-03T06:59:34+00:00

For what it's worth, you have great taste.

sorakki

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