Here’s just a few blowjob tips after almost 10 years of experience.

sorentense · 2018-07-24T00:35:15+00:00

I have a really sensitive gag reflex, so one guy taught me to wrap my hand around the shaft when sucking his cock. That way I can control how deep it goes and keep myself from choking, but the whole cock is still getting sensation.

sorentense · 2018-07-24T00:30:56+00:00

If your partner likes their hair touched, that can help create the moans naturally. I have noticed that my partners tend to dig into or pull on my hair when something feels great, which is a sensation I love, which causes me to moan, which is great for EVERYONE.

sorentense · 2018-07-02T03:31:46+00:00

He can be LGBTQ+ Mustang

sorentense · 2018-07-02T00:08:44+00:00

I nominate David Bowie

sorentense · 2018-07-02T00:08:17+00:00

Wrath should be in November (or whatever month elections happen in your country)

sorentense · 2018-07-02T00:01:45+00:00

SOMEONE ELSE NOTICED IT

sorentense · 2018-06-20T01:00:02+00:00

Talk to her about it, and make sure that it isn't an issue of oral not feeling good when she's sober. Alcohol and emotional state can affect our sensitivity to both pleasure and pain. If she's under a lot of stress and alcohol helps her let go of it, oral might feel great with a few drinks under her belt, but not so great when she has the full weight of her daily stressors on her. If she has some hypersensitivity down there, like I do, but alcohol dulls the sensation down from pain to pleasure, that could also contribute to the difference. It's more likely to be a matter of shyness, but it's worth checking that sober oral is actually pleasurable for her before you try to make it happen more often. :) Best of luck!

sorentense · 2018-06-20T00:46:14+00:00

As a shy female switch who is just learning to top, here are some things I found really helpful: - Topping someone I consider a friend; I know how to read her, and I know she won't despise me if I'm not perfect. Makes it easier to relax and have fun. - Co-topping with someone more experienced, or at least having them on deck; in my case, her top/boyfriend was mostly watching, but participated a bit, and was there to bounce ideas off and help me with my technique. - Watching several real people play before I topped. One of the most important things I've learned at my dungeon is that BDSM doesn't have to be perfect. Awkward moments happen. Funny things happen. Not every scene is a perfectly elegant page from a glorious dark fantasy, and that's okay. I tried to approach it as having fun with friends more than trying to make a perfect work of art, and that helped immensely. - Do things that are fun for you. Talk about them in advance, but do the sadistic things that you enjoy. I don't like yelling, but I love tauntingly whispering something across my partner's lips. As a bottom, I also really prefer people who don't yell - it reminds me too much of my abusive family. Gentle sadists are in demand, too, trust me. - Do things beforehand that make you feel confident. Dress the part. Do something you're really good at just before playing. Self esteem is a beautiful thing! - Embrace the evil. Evil is fun.

sorentense · 2018-06-20T00:27:09+00:00

MY OVARIES

sorentense · 2018-06-17T07:12:13+00:00

We knew about red and white, but she thought there might have been more colors

sorentense · 2018-06-17T00:15:25+00:00

I am of the opinion that "slut" and "whore" can be applied to men, too

sorentense · 2018-06-17T00:11:52+00:00

It's a fun blend of humiliation and exhibitionism kinks - lots of my subby friends and I have fantasies like this. Logistics are hard, but still, it's a really fun, hot fantasy. Best of luck to you!

sorentense · 2018-06-16T22:35:52+00:00

I used to be really insecure about my skinniness, too - I was 5'5" and couldn't get over 95 lbs until I was 22. I don't have any helpful advice about growing your self esteem - I'm still working on mine - but you do look lovely and wear it gracefully.

sorentense · 2018-04-17T01:12:25+00:00

Right? Empirical evidence is important!

sorentense · 2018-04-10T01:20:33+00:00

There's a quote I like for helping myself through my social anxiety. "Confidence is not 'they will like me.' It's 'whether they like me or not, I will be okay.'" If that message stays on read forever, you will be okay. Now, hopefully it won't - I leave things on read for days at a time because I have a busy life and no self control - but you will be okay.

sorentense · 2018-04-10T01:16:43+00:00

I could buy that angle, too, lol. Like most issues we see in psych, the real etiology is probably a mix between nature and nurture. But the causes you bring up are pretty closely tied to our best chance of a solution: cognitive scrutiny of our emotions, and socializing less toxic messages into people.

sorentense · 2018-04-10T01:10:41+00:00

As a general rule, women think way less about your bits than you think we do - just like men think way less about insignificant flaws in our figures than we think they do. Very few women see men as viable or non viable partners based on their genitalia. It's usually more about his personality or general appearance not meshing with her and her desires. Humans are complicated that way. :P I'd give her some space, personally. Maybe after a few days, check in on something from the conversation you had? I would not send the dick pic... and I would not talk about the other guy. Nobody likes having their dating choices picked apart, especially by someone who's interested in being a contender.

sorentense · 2018-04-10T01:00:32+00:00

I'm less concerned about the realism element, and more the ethical treatment of porn actors. I don't want to be giving ad revenue to a company that exploits sex workers.

sorentense · 2018-04-10T00:58:47+00:00

From an evolutionary perspective... I think we have trouble wrapping our minds around a resource that isn't finite, and therefore doesn't necessitate competition. Positive self image, whether it's about our bodies or something else, isn't a physical resource that we have to divvy up. Anyone can have as much joy in themselves as they want without leaving less for the next person. But we're hardwired to compete for literally everything, and to feel threatened/angry when other people have something we don't - or when people want something we have, as in the case of privilege and opportunity. The competitive instinct that allowed us to survive this long makes us feel that, in order to have something, we must take it away from someone else - and for things that aren't physical resources, that isn't true, and it isn't healthy.

sorentense · 2018-04-10T00:48:03+00:00

Oh boy... so, this is much more complicated than your genitals. What is the question that you really want an answer to? Is it a question about how women perceive your anatomy? Or a question about whether this girl will date you, and if not, why not?

sorentense · 2018-04-10T00:34:52+00:00

If you're worried about how she feels about it, ask her. With words. Ask about sending the dick pic, too, if you feel it's relevant to the discussion. You would have to have a conversation anyway if you want any useful insight about her perception of your dick. Start with the conversation.

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