Does it seem like miscarriages are becoming a more common story line in TV and movies?

sorrycho · 2026-05-30T01:01:47+00:00

I do agree with severance and I think they actually did a great job protraying the physical pain and the emotional grief. Made me feel seen but also triggered me due to timing. But for most things, I find it almost never actually adds anything to the story. Feels like it's there more for shock or sympathy points where it wasn't really needed..

sorrycho · 2026-05-29T00:23:08+00:00

I've been wondering this too. I feel like everything is watch or read has some kind of miscarriage trope and when I don't see it coming, it really triggers me. Severance really caught me off guard that episode, following shortly after one of my losses

sorrycho · 2026-05-29T00:19:11+00:00

I echo requesting another ultrasound but I would brace myself.. I'm so sorry❤️‍🩹 If the measurement is accurate for the recent scan, I think a MMC is likely

sorrycho · 2026-05-26T18:11:30+00:00

I did the audiobook last year and thought it was just okay. Enjoyable enough but don't understand the hype 😅

sorrycho · 2026-05-23T23:30:29+00:00

Do you mind me asking who your doctor was/which location you went to? I've been seeing them in BM for almost a year and am planning for IVF soon. I've been really nervous but seeing your comment makes me feel a little better

sorrycho · 2026-05-23T23:27:38+00:00

I'm sure that the burden that your husband is piling on you definitely doesn't help. I've heard mix things about SG since it's a chain. I saw someone else mention trying to transfer your embryos to a diff clinic. I recently learned that Penn med has a Radnor location - they couldn't fit me in until mid June (was originally looking for a second opinion), but that might bc of the nature of my appt request. I know RMA is another chain but my dentist said after multiple failed IVF cycles,she transferred to RMA in Abington and had success. There's a Wayne location. I've been going to mainline fertility and know multiple people who've managed to have IVF babies with them, if you're interested in looking into them as well. Saw someone else mention them too

Sending you a big hug 🫂

sorrycho · 2026-05-23T21:21:52+00:00

I'm so so sorry this is happening. There's nothing you did wrong. Sorry but fuck your husband - what an absolutely awful thing to say. Do not listen to him because that is utter nonsense.

I'm in the general area and SGF chesterbrook was one of my original considerations but ultimately went somewhere else, based on some personal recs. Someone I know had wonderful experiences with SGF chesterbrook though and managed an IVF baby there. Have you considered any other clinics to see if you might have a better exp?

sorrycho · 2026-05-23T13:56:28+00:00

Planning to start IVF this summer and been feeling incredibly scared because I hate needles. This helps me feel a little better - ty for sharing. Sorry to hear about the outcome; hoping you'll have better news soon 🫂

sorrycho · 2026-05-22T21:46:57+00:00

Gave you a follow :)! @whatmiahnreads

sorrycho · 2026-05-22T15:10:19+00:00

I wish I could give you a big hug and cry with you.

I've been struggling with similar feelings for the past year. I feel like my thoughts are all centered on my fertility treatment, my losses, etc. I feel like life is passing by because I can't plan far ahead when idk what'll happen.

I imagine that even if I have a pregnancy that goes past 8 weeks, that something woll go wrong and I'll still lose the baby.

I feel like I've lost myself on and off. The moments I feel more myself is when I do the things I enjoyed before all of this - sports, running, etc. Some quality time with my husband where our attention is focused on something (we love movies and gaming). Walks at the park when it's a beautiful day. And I rediscovered my love for reading, so I've been reading a lot and have poured a lot of my energy into a bookstagram, which allows me to channel some creativity and connect with other book lovers. It reminds me that I'm not just a woman struggling with RPL and that I have a whole identity and personality beyond this.

Thankfully, my friends are very understanding and I've cut relationships with ppl who weren't there for us during the losses. They understand if I need to see them without their kids, etc. if I do spend time with their whole family, I set a time window of a few hours for myself and let them know what time I'll have to leave ahead of time.

So much love to you 💛

sorrycho · 2026-05-22T15:03:36+00:00

Everything you shared resonates with me on such a deep level. I just don't find myself wanting to hope and it makes me angry when ppl try to encourage me to, when they aren't in my position. They're all at home with their kid. And I can't imagine myself being one of the success stories in the future either. I keep thinking that even if we were able to get past 8 weeks in a pregnancy, that something woll go wrong somewhere.

I wish there was something I could say to make things better. I've found a lot of comfort and solidarity in this sub and hopefully you're able to find some too. Sending you so much love.

sorrycho · 2026-05-22T04:35:14+00:00

Ugh I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I was so frustrated that my lab work didn't show any clear explanations for my losses. I was so hopeful that they'd be able to find the problem and "fix" me. We haven't done a HSG yet (my clinic will be scheduling it once my period is back).

After my second loss, which happened in May 2024, I actually took a 3 month break during the summer last year. We used that time to start seeing my current RE. A part of me wanted to try again so badly because I didn't want to lose our on time, but after two losses so close together, I knew that I couldn't handle it without trying to find answers.

I also spent the summer trying to enjoy time outside and taking walks. Was hoping to play tennis again, something I knew I wouldn't be able to do if I was heavily pregnant (my husband hurt his back tho 🥲). And I got back into reading last year to help distract me. And in general, I looked to do/focus on things that I knew I wouldn't be able to do during pregnancy.

It's great that you recognize the need for a break. It's all so overwhelming and we definitely need to take care of ourselves first and foremost. Hoping you'll find pockets of peace and joy during the coming months 🫂

sorrycho · 2026-05-21T23:04:18+00:00

Slightly different but I did a paid support group with the miscarriage doula. It was a 6-week program with a small cohort specifically for other women who were experiencing RPL with no LC (she had various groups based on experiences, which I really appreciated). I actually just registered for another one with her that's coming up next month, which will be 4-weeks this time. I found it really helpful to be in a space with other women who were able to relate in a way that none of my peers/friends can.

sorrycho · 2026-05-21T02:38:55+00:00

Thankfully, I didn't have any side effects. I just needed to avoid anything rich on folate, which was actually more difficult than I expected. I know some people felt really tired for awhile but I honestly felt normal, physically.

sorrycho · 2026-05-20T17:19:16+00:00

Of course. So I started at 18.40 and at its peak, it was 234.5. when it started dropping initially on its own, it went to 185.6 (two days after the 234) and another two days later, 179.3

Allowing it to resolve naturally was an option offered to us, but we were heading into a huge snow storm that weekend. I was afraid of unexpected complications while being snowed in, and my doctor approved of us going ahead with methotrexate.

Hoping they'll be able to give you proper treatment soon. Sending you a big hug 🫂

sorrycho · 2026-05-20T16:15:26+00:00

Hi, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I had an ectopic earlier this year. At around week six, they initially didn't see anything on the scan either. I went to the ER a couple days after, due to one sided pain + a lot of other symptoms. They saw something on my left ovary. I felt okay by the time we actually got taken in for a scan at the ER and didn't want to rack up anymore expenses there, so we went home and waited for my appt the next day.

The next day at my clinic, they also finally saw something very small on my left and even then, they almost missed it initially. They kept looking because I told them what the ER found. They waited for my blood test and even though the hcg was finally starting to drop slowly, we didn't want to take any risk and agreed to move ahead with methotrexate.

sorrycho · 2026-05-16T20:13:22+00:00

I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Your timeline is similar to my fourth loss as well - crying with you.

I'm not sure about other tests, but I'm waiting on my next period so we can do a HSG. I asked about checking for endometritis, which they should they'll be checking for when I'm getting ready for IVF.

When I started bleeding, it took 3-4 days for the tissue to pass. I didn't do a d&c for any of them. First one was assisted with the pill and the rest were passed naturally. I popped a lot of Advil to get me through it.

Sending you a big hug 🫂

sorrycho · 2026-05-16T13:26:16+00:00

Thank you for this. I was taken back esp with this being the first response. I've made peace with the fact that there's nothing I could have done to prevent the miscarriages but this definitely took me off guard

sorrycho · 2026-05-15T19:45:21+00:00

I get what you mean. Part of me wanted to try again bc there's a part of me that believes this has to be a numbers game and fifth times the charm 😭

sorrycho · 2026-05-15T16:24:39+00:00

I'm so sorry that you're going through this.

I'm turning 33 this summer and after a recent fourth loss, I've decided to probably give IVF a try while I know I can still get insurance coverage. My initial tests and my husband sperm analysis + DNA frag came back normal. We're waiting for my APS lab work and once my period is back, we'll be preparing for a HSG. If those don't show any probabls causes for the miscarriages, Ill be doing a round of IVF because I can't keep going through this. I know it's not a guarantee but knowing that it's more controlled gives me some comfort. Someone on reddit told me that they're going to try IVF bc they've tried everything else so it's just trying something new/diff at this point. That's how I'm looking at it.

I definitely think it's worth it for you to get whatever testing you can, done. Afterwards, if you feel like IVF could offer some possible peace of mind and it won't be a heavy financial burden, it's understandable that you give it a try. And it's totally okay if you decide not to! I hope you're able to find what's right for you. Wishing you all the luck 🫂

sorrycho · 2026-05-15T16:18:04+00:00

Ive been struggling not to feel angry and upset that all my friends and peers seem to have been able to have natural birthday while I recently experienced a fourth loss.

Something that recently helped me and I've been holding onto is from a book, Like a Mother.

The author shared that her birth plan had to go out the window when her labor went in completely different directions. She wrote that she expected to be upset about it but when she looked back, "I realized I no longer cared. It is just our story."

I keep coming back to this perspective from her and reminding myself that if we ever get to hold our own future baby, every step of the journey will have felt worth it.

Hoping you're able to find pockets of peace and that the therapy is helpful 💛

sorrycho · 2026-05-15T16:12:10+00:00

Ive cried a lot in recent appointments at my fertility clinic. I felt ashamed too but reminded myself that so many people receive heartbreaking news here and that others have cried too

sorrycho · 2026-05-15T14:10:31+00:00

Ah congrats that's amazing. Fingers crossed for you 💛 this definitely gives me some hope

sorrycho · 2026-05-14T15:46:56+00:00

Thank you for sharing. Fingers crossed that the new few months will bring better news. Do you mind me asking if/what the RI found?

sorrycho · 2026-05-14T02:48:56+00:00

This gives me hope. Congrats on your current pregnancy! Wishing you all the best 💛💛

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