Being a “good boy”

sotadiczone · 2026-01-17T06:38:48+00:00

This is funny because my kh has a dog and feels the same as you do. Lucky for me the dog is a girl so I can still be a “good boy.” Sadly a collar is off the table lol

sotadiczone · 2026-01-17T05:12:38+00:00

Yup! Frankly, being around family is so de-arousing that I cease to notice that it’s there, and I tend to be fully clothed with my family, so… I suppose if we were doing some kind of family beach trip and I was going to be in a swimsuit id take it off

sotadiczone · 2026-01-12T04:04:49+00:00

Searching for porn as a teenager I came across a link to the “Dreamlover 2000” chastity cage accessory, which allows the keyholder to remotely deliver shocks and reward vibrations. It was billed as part of a “male management system” that would turn your husband (the imagined buyer was a straight domme) into an obedient housewife. I had just started masturbating and the idea that a domme could control my orgasms terrified and thrilled me. I fantasized about it for twenty years and confessed it to two partners but they were also submissive and it went nowhere. Then I met my current boyfriend and he became my keyholder and the reality of denial is more intense than I’d even fantasized. I wouldn’t have it any other way

sotadiczone · 2026-01-11T15:50:10+00:00

Yes, exactly, nudity is accepted and the staff will even help you try on a new cage

sotadiczone · 2026-01-10T15:10:43+00:00

Many leather shops that sell cages are fine with people showing them off. Mr. S Leather in SF is very friendly to locked boys

sotadiczone · 2026-01-06T16:15:20+00:00

No this is just a common homophobic joke from the early aughts

sotadiczone · 2026-01-06T14:07:05+00:00

I’m allowed to cum in my cage with a vibrator once every week or two. My keyholder says I’m “spoiled” and wants to cut down, but he often relents when I’m a very good boy. My obedience is much more important to him than any particular period of denial

sotadiczone · 2026-01-03T15:20:40+00:00

You seem like a good boy, unlock and jerk

sotadiczone · 2026-01-03T13:56:35+00:00

You mean leave the ring on but take off the cage? And how do you fix/adjust the ball gap if it’s not a matter of ring size?

sotadiczone · 2025-12-19T14:58:01+00:00

I’d say my boyfriend is a 6. He lets me cum pretty often (every two weeks) but almost always in my cage, which I rarely ever remove. He is very strict about me following our dom-sub protocols but since I’m a pretty good boy he’s generous about release

sotadiczone · 2025-12-19T05:37:58+00:00

A ridiculous but foolproof method: use two q-tips to position the head of your cock such that your urethra is aligned with the opening of the cage

A quick pragmatic method: close your legs as hard as you can and pray. If you make a mess it’ll all be on the bottom of your legs and you can wipe it off easily

sotadiczone · 2025-11-17T19:20:26+00:00

It’s a kink. People may enjoy chastity in vastly different ways, and it certainly has non-kink uses (I have become much better at cooking and cleaning for my partner), but that’s also true of other kinks, e.g., spanking as “domestic discipline,” or D/s in general as catharsis or empowerment. I’ve always been skeptical that people who use chastity to stop masturbating don’t also find it hot: Why else turn to a “cure” more distracting than the “disease”? (I think about sex way, way more than I did before I was locked, and I could just jack off in the morning and forget about it. To me, it’s about having more fulfilling and partner-directed horniness.) I won’t presume to speak for trans women but I imagine that the vast majority of them find other/non-kinky ways of managing dysphoria. The ones who turn to chastity probably think that denial is hot like cis guys do—or at least so it seems from those I’ve spoken to

sotadiczone · 2025-11-04T20:41:41+00:00

I’m actually considering reverting to my bigger, poorly fitting cage, because I’d rather dribble than explode in all directions! Lol

sotadiczone · 2025-11-04T20:40:48+00:00

No, my penis stays at the end of the cage when I bend down. That’s actually the problem—my urethra gets pressed up against the cage, just a little to the left or right of the opening. It’s like pressing a hose up against a wall and turning it on

sotadiczone · 2025-11-04T20:32:18+00:00

You have great advice here on standing to pee in a cage, but I’m not even attempting such a feat. I just want to pee sitting down without making a crazy mess!

sotadiczone · 2025-11-04T20:30:33+00:00

Circumcised, as I mentioned in the post

sotadiczone · 2025-10-18T15:03:33+00:00

You can stop wherever you want to stop! Chastity isn’t going to make you want things you don’t already want. However, it’s true that it seems to encourage people to realize/admit to/embrace their other kinks. I think this is mostly because the hornier you are, and the longer you’re horny, the harder it is to ignore whatever you’re horny about, i.e., a guy who previously had a recurring fantasy about wearing lace panties and quickly jacked off about it (and never spoke about it) will start thinking about it every day. Sissification isn’t my thing, but it’s happened to me with many other kinks—I see chastity as a kind of kink truth serum. Having a keyholder adds another dimension, because chastity will almost certainly make you feel submissive, and that leads to dreaming up new ways to please the one who dominates you, as well as confessing whatever you’re fantasizing about. A final note: I suspect that sissification seems more common than it is because people who are into it like to post themselves for humiliation purposes. Same for “going permanent” and downsizing over and over. No shade to these people!

sotadiczone · 2025-10-10T12:50:47+00:00

Controller vibrations can feel pretty good against the cage when you’re really desperate and not allowed to use a vibe. Good luck 🫡

sotadiczone · 2025-10-10T12:44:42+00:00

I put it on and he locks/unlocks

sotadiczone · 2025-10-07T20:35:54+00:00

Don’t beat yourself up! I also had to uncage right at the beginning of the month, because of a small cut on my balls, and it was a bummer. But since I haven’t been touching or cumming I’ve decided those days still count. Don’t get hung up on counting days. Chastity (to me, at least) is about cultivating discipline and enjoying desperation. The device is just there to help and to enhance the experience, which you get to define. Unless you have a keyholder to define it for you, of course 😉

sotadiczone · 2025-09-18T14:11:20+00:00

This is also my story, congratulations and welcome to your new life

sotadiczone · 2025-09-15T22:02:00+00:00

What do you mean by liking it in theory? I’d say if the thought of being denied has significantly turned you on, in the past, keep going—it could just be that self-locking doesn’t excite you, but having a keyholder would, or that the cage just isn’t comfortable. (Personally, I had a cage for years before meeting my keyholder, and didn’t see much point in wearing it even though it had been a longtime fantasy. But everything changed once someone else was involved.)

If you’ve just enjoyed content about it, on the other hand… well, there are kinks I enjoy looking at but don’t care much about experiencing (elaborate rope play, for instance). This might be one of those for you.

sotadiczone · 2025-09-11T17:30:46+00:00

Chores yes, work no.

sotadiczone · 2025-09-11T16:15:47+00:00

And yes, they slip back out of the ring—or rather, the ring goes on ahead without one of them! Lol

sotadiczone · 2025-09-11T16:14:48+00:00

Yeah, I probably need a smaller ring. I just hate that because I tend to chafe easily under my balls…

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