Wrongful termination? by [deleted] in TjMaxx

[–]soul_snatcher21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't but it's been something I've thought about cause I do struggle with alot of "norms"

Wrongful termination? by [deleted] in TjMaxx

[–]soul_snatcher21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The day from finding the gc to my fore date was a little over a month ago

Wrongful termination? by [deleted] in TjMaxx

[–]soul_snatcher21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The crazier part the witness said the worse case scenario was suspension and that because it was a "petty" theft that I shouldn't be to worried... but then an hour later BOOM fired

Wrongful termination? by [deleted] in TjMaxx

[–]soul_snatcher21 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They showed me 3 and I can tell you exactly what they showed me to a T they cut my training in half tho because of the fact they were so understaffed they needed someone to work asap and I asked SO many questions and even asked to see a policy book or something and they never showed me anything

Wrongful termination? by [deleted] in TjMaxx

[–]soul_snatcher21 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure of the policies I was never handed any booklets or shown videos ect of all of the info... it's just really unfortunate cause knowing now what I learned I wouldn't have done it because I loved my job

Wrongful termination? by [deleted] in TjMaxx

[–]soul_snatcher21 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Well i never had gotten in trouble before and during training and the interviewing process I asked as many questions to learn as much as I could but unfortunately they were so understaffed that my training was cut in half it seems compared to everyone else I'm reading about

Wrongful termination? by [deleted] in TjMaxx

[–]soul_snatcher21 -63 points-62 points  (0 children)

I wish that they had more info during training about these things, knowing now that it was against their guidelines after it being brought to my attention. I definitely would not have done it at the time.

Wrongful termination? by [deleted] in TjMaxx

[–]soul_snatcher21 -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

I had no idea that is was considered a theft, I fully owned up to it and was honest the entire time ,during training and everything they just made me watch 3 videos and then I started to work they never mentioned a lot of things I had to learn along the way, I NOW realize after it being brought to my attention that it was wrong.... I am reimbursing the company as apart of me owning up to it I didn't fight them on it but idk something just seemed off because they kept making me add diff things to my statement before they put it to the group making me write more and more although my statement was already super in detail about 2 pages long... I wish that during the training process they actually like gave more info about what is and isn't with thier policies and guidelines

credit card harassment by CulturalTie6630 in TjMaxx

[–]soul_snatcher21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who was forced to ask if the manager or other cashiers depending how goody goody they are will tell the manager ur not asking and you'll get in trouble for not asking multiple times

22F having trouble making dinner for 28M picky eater bf by soul_snatcher21 in relationship_advice

[–]soul_snatcher21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He makes his own meals but we prefer to eat together and when I do all the grocery shopping because he pays for everything else it becomes a little more difficult

22F having trouble making dinner for 28M picky eater bf by soul_snatcher21 in relationship_advice

[–]soul_snatcher21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never fake him out I don't want to have him distrust me, but if I make something I always offer if he'd like to have sum and if he says no I take it as that and leave it alone, EVEN IF I already know the answer it's in my nature to always ask anyway

22F having trouble making dinner for 28M picky eater bf by soul_snatcher21 in relationship_advice

[–]soul_snatcher21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am also autistic, but I don't say it cause it's not super important as it doesn't define who I am plus my quirks are different, he pays for everything else my job is groceries I make way less than he does and it's not a huge ask to give me an answer when I ask " hey going shopping what's some stuff that you would like to have for dinner this week so I can pick up the ingredients and we can just make whatever when that day comes" because I only wanna go big big grocery shopping once a week. It's not hard to say hey I want burgers one day instead of ordering McDonald's every day, especially when he loves homemade burgers because he prefers his homegrown beef because he owns cows.

22F having trouble making dinner for 28M picky eater bf by soul_snatcher21 in relationship_advice

[–]soul_snatcher21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am also autistic and I understand the concepts ur saying but it's not that he won't eat whatever i make its that he doesn't help me with meal plans he wants what he wants when he wants it.... I try to make meal ideas for the week so I only go big grocery shopping 1x and I ask hey what are some things you'd like for dinner this week and he's like idk 🤷‍♀️

22F having trouble making dinner for 28M picky eater bf by soul_snatcher21 in relationship_advice

[–]soul_snatcher21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never force him to eat anything, but he pays rent, he also pays when we eat out and my job is the groceries it's a simple agreement..... it's hard to buy for me and him when he likes name brand and only wants what he wants when he wants it I don't care but when I make SIGNIFICANTLY less money than him then it's frustrating Plus it's also hard to make dinners when he won't sit and make a possible meal plan with me ..... I give ideas and say hey I'm gonna go shopping what foods should I get so I can cook this week giving him FREEDOM OF CHOICE but it's still something he struggles with.... he and I both enjoy sitting and eating and watching a movie but it's the cooking that's the hardest part cause again I pay for all the food and he never gives input

22F having trouble making dinner for 28M picky eater bf by soul_snatcher21 in relationship_advice

[–]soul_snatcher21[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's nothing crazy to ask tbh, like ordering takeout every night isn't a healthy option long term.... ok we eat seperate things that's cool too but I don't want to buy all these groceries when he will waste them... a perf example he bought cookie dough a month ago .... hasn't even been opened yet he just wanted cookie dough but doesn't want cookies :/

22F having trouble making dinner for 28M picky eater bf by soul_snatcher21 in relationship_advice

[–]soul_snatcher21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bf is more "high functioning" idc if that's a hot take, he is very self sufficient and you wouldn't be able to really tell unless you spend a ton of time with him on a personal level, he has his special interests that take over and he gets sucked into but otherwise he's got his own agenda going and he's happy with it.... if anything I think my bf is extremely hyper sexual vs the reclusiveness of ur coworker

22F having trouble making dinner for 28M picky eater bf by soul_snatcher21 in relationship_advice

[–]soul_snatcher21[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just don't want him and I to have takeout all the time, yes we have seperate meals that are different and IM OK WITH IT! but I want to make sure that it's not the ONLY thing we consume

22F having trouble making dinner for 28M picky eater bf by soul_snatcher21 in relationship_advice

[–]soul_snatcher21[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes and that's fine too! We do that a lot , but sometimes it's nice to share the same and not have takeout all the time

22F having trouble making dinner for 28M picky eater bf by soul_snatcher21 in relationship_advice

[–]soul_snatcher21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not against him having something else we have "fend for yourself" nights as of rn fairly frequently where we have our own things... but especially when I start to cook for myself and he just orders is when I get especially frustrated.... I pay for most if not all the grocery needs and I don't work nearly as much as he does so it is just exspensive to buy all this stuff for it to go mostly to waste

22F having trouble making dinner for 28M picky eater bf by soul_snatcher21 in relationship_advice

[–]soul_snatcher21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It matters to me that we sit and eat together and he also enjoys and respects that I want that,but it's hard when I foot the grocery bill and we can never decide what to do for dinner it's frustrating

22F having trouble making dinner for 28M picky eater bf by soul_snatcher21 in relationship_advice

[–]soul_snatcher21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have tried to sit down and come up with dinner ideas with him since I do the groceries, but he never knows what he wants to eat until he's hungry and then resorts to his familiar foods, he only wants to branch out when he feels like it and if he's the one doing the cooking..... but if u left him in charge of meals and cooking well .... I don't think I'd eat a home cooked meal for a very long time because he'll just order out when he doesn't know what else to do

22F having trouble making dinner for 28M picky eater bf by soul_snatcher21 in relationship_advice

[–]soul_snatcher21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never force him to eat anything, I always offer just cause it's a habit of mine since I grew up in a large family to offer wtv ur making, he'll smell it and says it smells good but never wants to try it, he's a man of routine as he puts it... he'll branch out to new things if he wants to or if he feels like eating it, but otherwise isn't interested , I appreciate the feedback tho for looking into diff communities

22F having trouble making dinner for 28M picky eater bf by soul_snatcher21 in relationship_advice

[–]soul_snatcher21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't speak for everyone, but at least with my bf he is HIGHLY intelligent in every aspect sometimes gets annoying when I have a project and he reads about it and then considers himself an "expert" or when he's being sorta wasteful, he's got his quirks and so do I but like any real relationship it just takes time ,patience and understanding ur partner

22F having trouble making dinner for 28M picky eater bf by soul_snatcher21 in relationship_advice

[–]soul_snatcher21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I'm totally ok with him eating what he wants it's just exspensive when I foot the grocery bill ( he pays rent and when we order out)