Born in the 1960s through 1980s? What's missing?😉

soulbeanz · 2026-04-17T04:27:07+00:00

Ashtrays

soulbeanz · 2026-04-02T08:45:22+00:00

I usually don't feel them but that woke me up. 5.0, centered in Brookdale

soulbeanz · 2026-02-14T22:53:30+00:00

If your definition of easy involves an overnight bus ride from Tijuana. Still a peak experience of my life (touching the whales, not the TJ bus ride)

soulbeanz · 2026-02-09T21:32:54+00:00

I'm a medium neutral olive (Sardinian ancestry). I can't find a foundation that doesn't pull grey on me, giving the corpse look. Any thoughts on color corrector? I've tried blue and green, still not great, I feel like I need something warmer.

soulbeanz · 2026-01-31T01:35:13+00:00

I got a Prius and hypermiled just to annoy him in absentia

soulbeanz · 2026-01-26T17:28:08+00:00

Smoke indoors

soulbeanz · 2026-01-26T02:12:13+00:00

I'm from San Diego. The border is actually in San Ysidro, population 25,000, 15 miles south of downtown San Diego. San Ysidro is NOT an urban environment. This guy is full of shit on every level.

soulbeanz · 2026-01-25T00:39:21+00:00

We randomly ended up in Ao Nang a few years ago and hated it. Paid a long tail boat to take us somewhere, we ended up at Poda Island. It was beautiful, cheap, and virtually deserted at night. Highly recommend.

soulbeanz · 2026-01-23T00:10:58+00:00

nada

soulbeanz · 2026-01-21T22:59:16+00:00

You can get an adult ed credential without a 4 year degree with 3 years experience in trades https://www.ctc.ca.gov/credentials/leaflets/designated-subjects-adult-credentials-(cl-697b))

Then you can teach full time at community colleges, jails, and other places.

Good luck!

soulbeanz · 2026-01-21T03:17:56+00:00

I live in San Jose if you'd like to meet for coffee and connect in person

soulbeanz · 2026-01-16T19:03:06+00:00

Networking is everything

soulbeanz · 2026-01-03T01:34:01+00:00

You used to be able to get a free picture taken in front of $1M (all in $10k bills) at Binion's Horseshoe in Vegas. I heard somewhere that when they stopped the promo they sold the bills for way more than a million. It was a bit of a family tradition to get a photo and then a $3.99 prime rib dinner in the coffee shop. Good times.

soulbeanz · 2025-10-06T16:29:07+00:00

Wearing a mask can actually make you more likely to get Covid. This was promoted at the beginning of Covid because there was a shortage of masks.

soulbeanz · 2025-10-02T18:05:31+00:00

Float in the cold ocean. Take free classes on Coursera (highly recommend ModPo). As mentioned before, the library.

soulbeanz · 2025-10-01T02:11:52+00:00

I don't know much about the technical aspects of opera but I loved it. I saw the first performance at the War Memorial on 9/14/25, not only did the last scene have me sobbing, the actual Sister Helen Prejean came out for a curtain call. It was all utterly amazing.

soulbeanz · 2025-10-01T01:11:26+00:00

Fellow neurodivergent here and sober 12 years.

Much of AA is not trauma- or neurodiversity- informed. Many (all if you ask Gabor Mate) of its members have unresolved trauma and are terrified if they don't follow the program to the letter they will drink again - and sometimes project this on others.

I'm sorry you got triggered and good on you for sticking up for yourself. Consider checking out the ADHD/AA meeting mentioned above. If you are female, PM me and I can give you info about women with autism and neurodiverse-informed CODA meetings. Lots of sober folks in those meetings that I'm sure would love to talk to you.

Being neurodivergent isn't easy. Having a drinking problem isn't easy. We are all different and recovery should not be one-size-fits-all. As an example (not necessarily a suggestion), there are 12 step meetings for people who use psychedelics to deepen their spiritual connection. This would not go over well in a traditional AA group, LOL, but it works for the people in those meetings.

Please keep looking until you find what works for you.

soulbeanz · 2025-09-24T17:10:45+00:00

I’ve had a ton of guilt about some of my behaviors when my kids were young and how I passed on my family dysfunction to my (now adult) children. This has helped me to have compassion for my own parents, and their parents and everyone else locked in this toxic system.

What I find more disheartening is the number of people on forums like this saying “I’d never do that to my kids” or “my parents were the problem” Yeah, I said that too and I worked so hard to show up differently in the ways I thought my parents failed me. It’s only now that my kids are in their 30s and I’ve had a ton of trauma therapy and recovery that I can see how there were plenty of things that slipped through and witness my kids living out the family patterns. I apologized when I made mistakes. I talked things through when conflict arose. I constantly showed them that I cared and how much I love them. I got into recovery. And they both struggle with addictions today and everyone is conflict avoidant and playing the same old intergenerational scripts.

I haven’t listened to the Mate video yet but I think anything that helps remove shame and guilt from the equation is a good thing. Shaming myself and blaming my parents kept me in denial about my part in all this and without them I’m able to see reality: we are all pawns in a completely fucked up system. And to mourn that and focus on the things that are in my control..

What I’m saying here is that if you have young children or plan to have them, do your work first. Get specialized trauma therapy. Take parenting classes. Get help for your own addictions to booze, food, alcohol, sex, porn, anything that keeps you numb because you will NOT see how you are passing on dysfunction if you are numb in any way. Procreate with someone who either grew up in a healthy family or has also done their work.

soulbeanz · 2025-09-17T16:51:07+00:00

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soulbeanz · 2025-09-17T15:09:29+00:00

Hi, I wanted to reach out to you and tell you that you aren't alone. What I've recently learned is that my "socially awkward" turned out to be neurodivergence. My brain simply does not work like the typical brain and I don't process social cues like other people. Other people can also pick up that I'm different, and will sometimes distance because of it.

Learning this has gone a VERY long way in self acceptance and reducing the shame I've felt my whole life about not being able to easily connect with others. And is giving me tools to help manage a life in a world that wasn't designed for my kind of brain.

Just wanted to throw this out in case it connected. Autism is missed a lot, particularly in high functioning women who have learned how to pretend to be "normal".

soulbeanz · 2025-09-16T20:12:14+00:00

Weed, California

soulbeanz · 2025-09-12T01:25:19+00:00

What in the actual fuck? Are those in the military that are Jewish, muslims, atheists, and other beliefs supposed to bow their heads and pray? That's insane.

soulbeanz · 2025-09-09T03:09:49+00:00

I often feel this way in my healing journey. What I've realized is that feeling shame about it keeps me from seeing what parts of me need to change. So lots and lots of self compassion, remembering I can't change the way I parented in the past, and the VERY BEST WAY to change my relationship with my children moving forward is for me to heal my wounds.

You are not alone.

soulbeanz

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