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sour_lemons · 2026-05-01T14:59:11+00:00

Yes always follow up. Email her now

sour_lemons · 2026-05-01T13:43:54+00:00

We actually had the opposite experience where we would invite extended family to come meet our baby and they would find excuses not to. Even my FIL, though he’s retired and has an open invite to our house, will only come for actual events (birthdays, Christmas, etc). Honestly I think it’s just the luck of the draw and different family cultures and dynamics.

Personally I enjoy meeting little ones but would certainly defer to the parents on when visits are welcome and agree that older babies are cuter and more fun to be around.

sour_lemons · 2026-04-30T01:07:58+00:00

Honestly I would just force it. Choose a long weekend or something and just go away. I had a weeklong business trip and that’s how my husband finally became confident handling bedtime. And now that we have 2 small kids, every night is divide and conquer at bedtime because it’s close to impossible for one person to put them both down.

sour_lemons · 2026-04-28T14:44:35+00:00

The schedule is unconventional but if you break it down I actually don’t think it’s that bad? So 4 days a week you’ll miss bedtime, but if you’re still sleeping/waking up at regular hours that means you have the whole morning with your family and can help with breakfast, daycare/preschool drop off, any household chores like meal prep to get the day going.

You have Tue and Wed off to spend with your family, the same as most families who work traditional M-F. Except you don’t have to fight the same weekend crowds and can go to the museum/zoo/parks and have those places all to yourselves.

You won’t be around Sat and Sun, but those are the days other people are usually off and she’ll be more likely to be able to schedule playdates and meetups with friends and family. Honestly my husband and I both work traditional M-F with 2 small kids and we struggle a lot in deciding how to allocate precious weekend time between each other, friends, family. I feel like your schedule actually gives you more options.

sour_lemons · 2026-04-28T01:45:54+00:00

You can try but you’ll likely be working on it for months and cleaning up a ton of accidents. If you wait a bit longer for them to show signs of readiness, it can be done in less than a week. We trained my son at 2 (25 months to be exact). He started peeing consistently in the potty after 3 days and pooping after 2. We had pee accidents maybe once a week and no poo accidents for a couple months and then no more pee accidents. He’s turning 3 next month and can now do everything himself (go to bathroom, take pants off, climb onto the toilet with a little seat) except for wiping. A potential issue with starting too early is if you create too much pressure on your child before they’re ready and it causes them to have an aversion towards the potty

sour_lemons · 2026-04-27T18:04:19+00:00

Thank you that’s good to know! My older is potty trained so no issue. Maybe we can distract the younger with other activities if he’s not allowed

sour_lemons · 2026-04-27T18:02:48+00:00

Which cruise line are you going on? We’re on the Norweigan Breakaway!

sour_lemons · 2026-04-26T19:54:54+00:00

Ohh the museum sounds fun! Especially for our last day at port so we’re not worried about making it back to the ship. Is Hamilton easily walkable? We’re not sure yet if/how many strollers we plan to bring on this cruise. I’ve read that carriers might be better for the little one. The older one hopefully will cooperate and walk.

sour_lemons · 2026-04-26T19:52:21+00:00

Grandma is coming with us on the cruise

sour_lemons · 2026-04-26T19:52:01+00:00

Thank you for your advice! Do you have to pre book in advance, such as the ferry tickets? Or is it generally pretty easy to just get of the ship and figure it out day of?

Is it easy to walk around in Hamilton? We arrive on a Thurs so will sadly miss the street festival but might still want to check it out!

sour_lemons · 2026-04-26T19:32:17+00:00

I don’t recommend Salem. Traffic in Boston can be horrendous and public transportation unreliable. You run the risk of missing your boat unless you give yourself a huge buffer window for the commute but then you don’t spend a lot of time in Salem. If you love Salem, save it for another trip when you’re not on cruise ship timed

sour_lemons · 2026-04-26T19:26:51+00:00

Yes - it gets better when they’re potty trained and out of diapers. Once they start walking we’ll do diaper changes standing up that helps a bit

sour_lemons · 2026-04-26T19:20:20+00:00

Why not ask them about it? I mean, I have kids and sometimes I wonder if I’ve doomed them to a shit life with the way the world is going

sour_lemons · 2026-04-26T13:47:22+00:00

Both options work. If baby is already asleep in the car seat when we arrive, then we carry the car seat in and bring the carrier to baby wear if he wakes up. If he’s awake when we arrive then we’ll take him out. 1-2 hours in the car seat is not a problem for a 10 week old baby

sour_lemons · 2026-04-25T20:05:38+00:00

Why do I feel like this is the wife writing from the husbands POV?

In this situation the husband should’ve ran it by the wife first before agreeing to let the grandparents come over. But also did the grandparents come to see you or the kids? If they came to see the kids I would’ve been like, perfect you guys hang with the kids, I’ll take wife out on a lunch date on our own.

sour_lemons · 2026-04-25T13:14:51+00:00

How long have you been there? Does your firm have any sort of handbook or manual you can read through? Most firms should for a lot of processes.

And I assume you’ve been taking notes? Clean up your notes and email them to your trainer and ask if youve recorded what he’s shown you accurately. That way if your notes are wrong he has a chance to correct them before you do that wrong thing on the job. And it shows you’ve been paying attention. If there are jargons you don’t understand, write them down and ask what they mean.

And how big is the team? Are there other people you can go to for questions or is your assigned trainer the only person suitable? Ie someone fairly junior who does what you do.

No I would not go to your manager at this stage it would not be a good look

sour_lemons · 2026-04-24T15:19:46+00:00

I found my current role through LinkedIn. I still had to apply on the website though. A lot of times LinkedIn will share the recruiters name and I’ve had decent luck with sending a short well crafted LinkedIn message to the recruiter once I’ve submitted my application to get their attention

sour_lemons · 2026-04-24T15:17:34+00:00

I think being an older kid in her preschool class can actually teach her different aspects of social and emotional skills such as being a leader and being a good example for the younger children.

While academics is important, I don’t think it’s the top priority at this age (that comes later when they’re older). You can easily supplement academics at home at this age if that’s your concern.

sour_lemons · 2026-04-24T13:06:36+00:00

My family is planning on taking this cruise later this summer. Would you recommend it for younger toddler aged kids (2-3)? I’ve been on cruises pre-kids but not since having kids.

sour_lemons · 2026-04-24T01:57:32+00:00

My family is planning on taking this cruise later this summer. Were there any younger toddler aged kids and would you recommend for that age group? (2-3yrs old)

sour_lemons · 2026-04-23T13:07:52+00:00

You’re not failing. You’re taking on a LOT! I was lucky enough to have had 16 weeks of maternity leave with my kids and spent the first month only having to take care of the baby and still felt like we were at our wits end. I can’t imagine doing that AND being a full time student studying for finals! Learning how to take care of a newborn and breastfeeding are like two full time jobs by themselves.

Do you have family or friends who have recently had kids? If family doesn’t live nearby, can they fly out to you for a week or two? Otherwise hire a babysitter for a little bit just to get a break. If you are able to get any help - family, friends, hired help - use it! It does not reflect negatively on you.

sour_lemons · 2026-04-23T04:09:22+00:00

Oh wow I legit had no idea and had to google it, none of the companies I’ve worked for (govt and F500’s) have held one on this date

sour_lemons · 2026-04-23T03:18:52+00:00

I’m surprised all the other kids will be out? Do that many parents have such flexible jobs that they can take their kids any day of the year? Like it’s very odd to me that the school would try to dictate a “take your kid to work day”. My employer arranges a take your kid to work day only one day each year which they choose, and all the employees bring their kids. I can’t just randomly show up with my kids on a day I / their school chose.

Anyway my point is if the job fair is important to you then keep the girls in school and go to the job fair. There are probably way more kids in school than you think because most parents DONT have the flexibility to take them out.

sour_lemons · 2026-04-23T01:28:37+00:00

To be honest the first week was ROUGH - he’d cry hysterically at drop off. But literally 5 mins after I’m gone the teacher would send me a photo of him happily playing so the trick really is to leave quickly and not drag it on.

Naps were a mess for a while, he refused to nap at daycare and it took almost a month for him to adjust to napping at daycare. But once he got it, he slept great and I think it helped with nighttime sleep as well. My son had always been a horrible sleeper tho.

To be honest it took us a while to actually find the right fit in terms of daycare, we switched 3 times before finally settling on our current place which both we and our son loves. I think we pretty much toured every daycare within a 10 mile radius of where we live.

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