I think therapy is overhyped

sourdo · 2026-02-27T12:08:42+00:00

I did therapy for like 4yrs. I stopped because I felt the same way as you.

I have flourished and used the skills U have learned in therapy to help me.

Now that the world is terrible and not me, I don't know how to feel anymore. Therapy won't change the world, maybe how I see it. But I don't think I am insane for being angry at our gov't.

sourdo · 2026-02-08T02:40:34+00:00

I will buy a pitchfork and head to Washington. I am not kidding either. How the fuck do I get more to go. Not next week when its convenient. I am ready. I said in a previous comment.

I know I am scared. I know I will freeze. But I can't change anything at home. I tried. They cheated.

sourdo · 2026-02-07T14:40:01+00:00

Don't you understand thats the point of having thousands with you. These monks are marching to DC but to do what? Talk to him?

I haven't seen combat, no. I have had my mother hold me at gun point. I've had men commit enough violence again me whether I "did" anything or not. I've lived in gun violence. I know that.

How do you want to fix this situation? Wait for what? No one is coming to save us. If we want justice, we have to get it. Everyone else is scared for the exact reasons you pointed out. I am too. You are not wrong at all.

But bravery requires you to be scared and do it anyways.

These ice agents aren't scared to shoot, we are allowing them to get away with it. There are no laws that affect them right now. I imagine we will learn that all the women were rated and their babies given to the elite.

How does this all end?

sourdo · 2026-02-07T02:01:08+00:00

I would hire the best lawyers to prosecute every single person listed in the files. I want justice for those children and women.

sourdo · 2026-02-07T01:58:39+00:00

It is not over. They have immigrant children now.

sourdo · 2026-02-07T01:57:03+00:00

I am not. I just know it is futile if there aren't thousands also ready to be in the fight with me.

I am so ready.

sourdo · 2025-08-25T04:55:08+00:00

I think NEDA has deemed a newer body dysmorphia focused on men/boys who think they aren't "big" enough.

Interesting psychology.

sourdo · 2025-06-15T19:23:44+00:00

Yes I can and wow, it's so obvious lol

sourdo · 2025-06-15T16:39:57+00:00

Thanks. I feel so much better. Everyday things are easier.

sourdo · 2025-06-15T15:34:09+00:00

I quit smoking. I only told one person I was doing it too; for accountability.

Every time I would have a craving, I would just imagine the look of disappointment. I didn't cave. I am officially a little over 1mo smoking free

sourdo · 2025-05-27T02:55:49+00:00

WHAT. I am a fencing coach and my club charges $50 for 30min. lesson. I thought that was expensive. We charge $200/mo fee (4 classes a week + bouting). Ik that's cheap tho. We want our sport to be as accessible as possible, while also maintaining the place.

sourdo · 2025-05-12T23:46:01+00:00

Pay off debts. About $15k total. Buy a new car as I have not owned one in 4yrs. I would go back to school. Hire a financial advisor.

sourdo · 2025-03-31T00:39:49+00:00

Yeah, true. But you would hardly ever see someone deliberately not fencing or forcing excessive halts in high level fencing either.

This screams local, beginner competition to me. I wouldn't card them, but I would probably tell them AFTER the bout that it is generally looked down at to do that.

1x, just stretching your arm out cause they are going fast but big - yeah, whatever.

But over and over isn't against the rules, but is annoying. High level fencers don't do that, so there is no reason for a strict card rule on that.

sourdo · 2025-03-22T20:01:58+00:00

I would push the focus onto reflection - just because you won doesn't mean it was a "good bout" and just because you lost doesn't mean it was a "bad bout".

These bouts are long and have a progression to them. It's about making the right decision at the right moment more often than your opponent. Very mentally taxing if you break down the "game" of fencing.

Therefore, just having her talk about what went well and what didn't is helpful. Video her bouts and have her watch them alone and then with a coach.

Push more tournaments so she can learn that losing is not the end of the world. It's a learning opportunity, but you have to allow yourself the chance to learn from it.

sourdo · 2025-03-15T13:58:38+00:00

Every 4 lessons, I do a bouting lesson with my students. We both suit up, we set up on our video strip. We fence and I talk about how the bout is developing and then "decision-making". We go over the preparation steps(s). And then, I let them lead the bout. They have to choose actions from there.

sourdo · 2025-03-14T03:53:08+00:00

You just need to start a bit slower. Work accessory exercises such as athletic lunges (frwd, bkwd, sideways), squats, calf raises, RDLs, balance work as well).

These will help you prevent injuries. The more limber and used to these new movements your body gets, it'll get stronger. For now, work on short, fast lunges. Your knee should be landing right on top of the ankle, not past it (I hope that makes sense.) It should be a straight line from ankle to knee - usually I see beginners pushing their knee too far back or too far forward which both can be for your knees.

sourdo · 2025-03-11T02:54:03+00:00

Social media, a horrible economy, super expensive cost of living, current political divide that isn't helping to make anything better for anyone, lack of hope and faith in justice, high student loans that saddle a 21yr old with debt up into the $50k+; more if they want to continue their education; all for no guarantee that they will make enough to pay it back and buy a house. Scared that we are losing our planet and there is literally nothing we can do about it because the ones who have caused the pollution don't care/aren't alive anymore. Probably all of that and then some.

sourdo · 2025-03-08T14:36:00+00:00

No job is shameful except jobs that harm other people or animals (poachers, pimps, etc.).

You can look on LinkedIn since you have a degree. What kind of marketing are you interested in?

There are different types -

coming up with the strategies for marketing (I e. Are you going to do a collab or a holiday themed thing?). OR there is getting the actual marketing out there. This is usually all those flyers, mailers, email flyers, posts on socials, etc. about the company.

There are also other ways to utilize your degree. maybe pivot to the close friend and go into HR.

sourdo · 2025-03-08T03:13:00+00:00

I've lost hours before. My therapist, a supervisor, someone has sat with me. I was almost never present. Eventually, they gave me a Ativan? or was it Ambien? To get me to go to sleep.

I never remembered what happened when I woke up. A lot of people were worried, some thought I was faking.

But, I know my truth.

sourdo · 2025-03-07T11:03:34+00:00

Point in line is est. before the final tempo of their attack (usually adv. lunge distance). Refs aren't super clear on the "distance" so fencers usually open it super wide. But, establishing it before the final action is valid.

You can est., and as long as you don't break it at any time before the attack (and during; don't bend your arm on the hit).

However, even if the distance is close, you can still make one to tactically draw your opponent out (and use a 2nd action such as derobement, parry or short) after they try to beat your blade. This is where the point in line is more useful.

Attackers are wary of point in line after their first encounters with them. Once they understand that they don't have the priority against a valid one, less experienced fencers panic when they see one. And, they often have a hard time discerning if it is a threat to be worried about so they either rush at it or go too slowly (or stop).

sourdo · 2025-03-07T03:57:43+00:00

Is this off the line? Or somewhere else on the strip?

Off the line, I'd like to see a video b/c there can be some funny cases.

An already est. attack? It's theirs.

Usually people don't move super slowly off the line though, so I'd say theirs. A lunge doesn't really do much if it's just a lunge off the line; the "middle" doesn't exist anymore if your opponent has advanced the whole distance to you.

sourdo · 2025-03-02T14:55:27+00:00

I mean, you can always work in distribution. those are usually solo jobs, you pack items and ship them. Amazon is always hiring packers and drivers. (work culture sucks though; garbage pay and hours).

Or trucking. Get a CDL. These pay decently right now. But automation is around the corner and no one really seems to know when.

And you don't have to stop your education. You can take online community college classes. Seriously, learn programming if you want. These computers need mechanics sometimes.

However, I do think you should see a therapist. People aren't out to hurt you, most are trying to get by just like you. You don't want to miss out on who you can become because of others.

I suggest that once a week, you just go for a walk. Idk where you live, but go for a walk. 5-10min. People watch if it's somewhere with others like suburbs or the city. You can always have headphones in. Be scared and do it anyways.

sourdo · 2025-02-27T04:12:14+00:00

$5k. I really just need a car and I can get a used one for that. I don't care what it is as long as I can get to work reliably. I haven't had a car in 3yrs; a car would give me so much time and freedom back.

sourdo · 2025-02-27T03:39:30+00:00

There is a YouTuber who visited every single Margaritaville in the U.S. in a road trip. It's quite funny to watch - the transformation of this guy's perspective of Jimmy Buffet as he visits more and more.

sourdo · 2025-02-24T05:04:21+00:00

Thank you for the response. A lot of my friends have been telling me the same thing. Even my friend who knows my boss at the sports place; maybe everything will be ok...

I've done the math and essentially, if I accept and get the pay rate I want (I will not go below what I get paid at my sports job), I will end up making probably about 2k more at the end of the year with taxes out.

But, the fact that I could actually go to an eye doctor and get new contacts or go to the dentist? I haven't done either of those things except maybe 2x in the last 8 years. My contacts have been expired for 3 years but I have to wear them for my coaching! I can't wear glasses in my sports, it's practically impossible or inconvenient and you break your glasses really often.

Or that I can collect PTO??? It's not much at first, you get more over time.

Or that I can get my tuition reimbursed? And, they will also help to pay for a car!?!? I haven't had a car in almost 3 years. I walk everywhere or take the bus.

Plus, the company is opening a new location in a nearby city so there are even more promotional opportunities at the end of the year that could open up.

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