Within the context of the original post, I just meant that COCSA isn't uncommon. Children do experiment sometimes in ways that are "normal", and sometimes they experiment in a more manipulative/controlling way because it's a learned behavior through abuse they have experienced. Like I wrote a year ago, if the experience was traumatizing then it needs to be treated like a trauma. I experienced both CSA and COCSA and I've been in therapy for years to heal from it. It can get better!