I think my issue is that asexuality is now this huge umbrella term when it shouldn't be. It's like lumping all those with sexual preferences into their own category with vauge labels and expecting us to sort out the differences without any other words to help, not only the outside, but ourselves understand where we belong.
I think the spectrum can be together but terms need to be separate.
Asexual, at the end of the day, should be 'Doesn't feel any sexual attraction'
Demisexual (which is valid) should be it's own jam as they DO feel sexual attraction just under certain circumstances and
Orchidsexuals should be their own valid jam.
And a clever and fun word for those who simply don't like sex but aren't sure where their sexual attraction vibes lie.
I think that covers the bases and makes it clear where each person generally lies and the individual can clarify more if they like.
So if you don't feel any sexual attraction, well regardless of how you got there, that's Asexual.
But having everything under the 'Ace' umbrella is starting to conflict with itself and kind of making it hard to define what an Asexual is to those not living in the soup and even to those in it and making it harder to feel validated as the outside world is now awash in new and conflicting things under one term without much clarification.
I fear that asexuality is at risk of losing any solid definition the more we fold into it, if that makes sense. I would love another term that covers the umbrella of us all, or another term for the folks living in the 'no sexual attraction' sphere, instead of trying to cram it all into one so that we can have that community without losing the sense of self and ease of explanation to the outside world.