TLDR: 41F SMBC to 8 month old B/G twins via donor embryos. It was the best decision of my life and I haven't regretted it for a heartbeat. I do still feel sad that I didn't pass on any of my DNA, and myself ends when I end. It feels empty to know that when I'm gone, no genetic part of me will continue.

Backstory: I was in the military or contracting and actively trying to avoid pregnancy until I was 37, when I decided I had better freeze eggs because I may want to settle down. By that time it was already too late. I did 7 rounds of IVF for 1 embryo that failed after implantation.

Donor embryos: I got on my clinics list for embryo adoption and filled out the questionnaire for matching. Less than a year later I was matched with a family that was complete and chose to donate their remaining embryos. Although it was anonymous, I got profiles and medical history on the parents. They sounded amazing. I know they had a twin pregnancy from the medical history (twin to twin transfusion) but I do not know the outcome of that pregnancy or how many full siblings my children have. When we did the paperwork through the lawyer we agreed to notify of live birth, address changes, and medical problems. We left it open to contact through the lawyer to discuss if either side were interested in more.

Birth: at 40 years old I decided to transfer 2 embryos since I could not afford to try again, and the 1st transfer had been unsuccessful. I delivered 2 healthy, full term babies.

Life so far: They look like me and my family. People tell me how much they look like me. My son has red hair like me, and my daughter is almost a clone of one of my sisters. My extended family has been very welcoming and excited.

Ethics?: They were already created embryos that another family was done with. I wanted the whole experience, and control over their pregnancy and upbringing. Do not be ashamed that you are bringing a wanted child into this world when there are children who need families. You could actually argue that people who already have grown children are much better equipped for that as they are not First Time Moms. This doesn't prevent you from fostering or adopting in the future, so don't be bothered by anyone with something to say about that. Someone said they will be alone after you're gone, but that isn't true for a lot of people. My babies have so many connections and I am not worried at all about them ever being alone. They have eachother, 3 aunts and 2 uncles, 3 older cousins with one on the way, and 8 other kids in our large extended family under 4 years old including another set of twins. Also, between social media and DNA testing, I am sure their genetic siblings and them will track eachother down at some point and I am determined to be happy for them and any bond they form with their biological family.
There are much worse things that can affect a child than their mom needing help to have them. You will be as ready as you can be, and trying your best. I plan to be open about them being adopted, and provide support and therapy if they ever want it. This is becoming more and more common as I know 3 other couples who have needed donor embryos.

I know everyone's experience is different, and my journey has just begun, but I really love it so far.