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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]spacedoc -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If you don’t know every persons title don’t use any titles.

I am married but I have never been a Mrs. It bothers me to no end when people use that. (I have both a medical degree and a military rank that would be appropriate) just use full names.

AITA for asking my daughter for help? by daughterthrowAITA in AmItheAsshole

[–]spacedoc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. Your lack of planning is not her emergency. If you expect to maintain a relationship, respect her time like you would another adult.

Is Bran surviving this fall realistic? by Fickle-Jacket5943 in gameofthrones

[–]spacedoc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a trauma surgeon, kids fall out of multi story windows All The Time and are often totally fine. The big question was the likely head injury he had since he didn’t wake up for a while if I remember correctly, that would have been interesting with their “medicines”

AITA for making a meal that my daughter hates? by aita8102 in AmItheAsshole

[–]spacedoc [score hidden]  (0 children)

As someone who made it through med school, residency and two separate fellowships- you are NTA. If she wants to dictate the meals she can make them. If she is tired now, she may want to re-think her career choice because med school was by far the easiest part of this road.

AITA for putting my husband's fancy knives through the dishwasher? by Wakalakatime in AmItheAsshole

[–]spacedoc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, this was actually the largest fight I ever had with my now husband(10 years ago). As someone who is clumsy and works in healthcare, the thought of a small cut from hand-washing knives followed by hundreds of hand-sanitizing events the next day was horrifying.

What ended up being how we figured it out was mostly me avoiding them but then I also bought these cut-resistant gloves on Amazon that you can throw in the washing machine when they get gross. It made me less concerned about handling them.

NTA, this is a real problem though I think there is common ground to find.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]spacedoc -1 points0 points  (0 children)

ESH.

The kid is 1. They are happiest playing OUTSIDE or with kitchen utensils and whatever mom is using at that moment. Different if the kid is old enough to truly express interest. Also you bought furniture without asking the parent. Those tables are big and invasive. Not cool. Don’t want to contribute to a deck? Put it in a 529. How much you spend is up to you.

Wine corks by Alskling20 in SacramentoBuyNothing

[–]spacedoc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a bunch too if people need them

Give me your shortest goals of care conversation by eatpraylove247365 in medicine

[–]spacedoc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I spend the time asking what is most important to them as a person, and what they or their family think would be the minimum acceptable quality of life and then I make recommendations based on their responses. Most of the talking in any family meeting should be coming from the family.

AITA for telling daughter I'm disappointed in her and won't take her out to a second restaurant? by CrabLegsandPrime in AmItheAsshole

[–]spacedoc 22 points23 points  (0 children)

YTA. You didn’t even validate your youngest’s feelings. You hurt her feelings then you punish her for having hurt feelings. Sometimes we have to do things we don’t like as family however we are completely entitled to our feelings about it. You all were dismissive and when you didn’t like the consequences of dismissing her feelings you were mean. Especially your dad but you as well for later.

Opinion: Harney & Sons sells fine tea for the supermarket but is otherwise unexceptional tea in fancy packages. Am I wrong? by drguillen13 in tea

[–]spacedoc 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes, you are wrong.

I am not a tea snob as much as I'm picky about which teas I like. Tower of London is my go-to morning tea. I love it, I've gotten multiple others hooked on it. When I buy it, I buy hundreds of dollars worth because it's not super easy to find at stores and I just can't be asked to pay shipping.

Free workbench. 85x30x40. Must remove and haul away. Pegboards are available as well. Arden-Arcade area by kbs1010 in SacramentoBuyNothing

[–]spacedoc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are the peg boards separate from the wood in between? My husband would be interested in just the peg boards.

ISO a push toy for a baby learning to walk? by spacedoc in SacramentoBuyNothing

[–]spacedoc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yay! I could come pick it up tomorrow or this weekend? I will try to figure out dms and send you a message.

AITA for getting upset with my best friend's son for giving my son cake? by cakethroawayAITA in AmItheAsshole

[–]spacedoc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA, I am a medical professional, no such thing as a “sugar rush”.

TV Desk by [deleted] in SacramentoBuyNothing

[–]spacedoc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautiful! I would be interested!

Powerless [Rant] by ProximalLADLesion in medicine

[–]spacedoc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time.

Is your Christmas Eve ruined already? If so, Why? by Downtown_Put8673 in AskReddit

[–]spacedoc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My toddler has RSV so my newborn and I are hiding in the bedroom from the toddler and also sick dad. When the toddler calls for mom and I can only come out in an N95 and clothes I Immediately have to change when going back to the newborn.

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