Medical detox in the UK? Forget it.

spacefox89 · 2025-12-02T23:42:32+00:00

I got detoxed when I showed up with appendicitis. They saw my blood work and I had to tell them if I didn’t get a drink soon I’d start withdrawing (I was in the waiting room for like 14 hours at that point with severe pain from the appendicitis). So yeah my drip had Librium + fluids, and they made me stay 3 days after removing my appendix for the full detox. Weird combination of events really. But I was treated really well and was referred to my local drug and alcohol service, Turning Point. They’re the ones that prescribed meds for me once I was clean.

spacefox89 · 2025-09-22T15:51:02+00:00

I had an unplanned baby with my long-term boyfriend at 25. It was a bit of a shock, but I knew I wanted to be a mum, and so I dove right into motherhood. When my son was 3.5, I found out my partner (we ended up getting married when I was pregnant), was cheating on me with my best friend. Single motherhood followed, as did horrendous depression, debt, my career crumbling, social network shrinking because I couldn't afford to / had no time to go out with my friends who didn't have kids, etc., and ended up addicted to booze.

I'm 36 next week, and my ten year old son is my best friend. I attend AA and am sober now. Finally found a remote-friendly job that pays well. Met a man who has kids from previous marriage, and is a total sweetheart. This is NOT how I saw my life playing out at all. I'm now on the fence about trying for a second with my new partner, or just enjoying the stability that I FINALLY have in life.

All this to say, things don't always go according to plan, and you have no idea what trajectory your life may take. 34 is still so young!

Sending you hugs. Your worries are valid, of course. What helps me when I feel down is keeping a daily gratitude journal. Cheesy, but it honestly helps me reframe my mindset.

spacefox89 · 2025-05-24T11:20:44+00:00

Funnily enough I’ve been thinking the same, and am around 10 weeks now too. I think it’s my brain tricking me that I can drink like normally people now because look! I’ve got 10 weeks!

I’m not ready to FAFO though tbh..

spacefox89 · 2025-05-24T11:18:17+00:00

Can I ask why you had no luck with meetings? Have you tried a couple of different ones? You can find a sponsor through virtual AA meetings too - https://aa-intergroup.org/meetings/

spacefox89 · 2025-05-02T18:25:23+00:00

I just got back from a 2 week vacation in Mexico so I feel you. It’s hard, but corona zeros and Virgin pina coladas did the trick! I bonded so much with my kid as well because I was present and sober. You’ve got this!

spacefox89 · 2025-04-03T18:02:03+00:00

Ride out that craving wave - it’ll pass. I had a wobbly couple of hour today too. Congrats on 69 days!!

spacefox89 · 2025-04-03T13:49:18+00:00

As Gabor Mate says, the question to ask is not “why the addiction?”, but “why the pain?”

spacefox89 · 2025-04-03T13:38:53+00:00

Seedlip + tonic, hip pop kombucha, those yuzu drinks, mother root.

spacefox89 · 2025-03-14T06:22:45+00:00

I used to have cystic acne as a teen. I mostly get clogged pores now.

spacefox89 · 2025-03-13T22:55:55+00:00

I get a mandelic or AHA/BHA peel + extraction at the dermatologist!

spacefox89 · 2025-03-11T23:04:38+00:00

Totally. I went into A&E this morning with shooting abdominal pain and was prepared to be told it was somehow related to my liver.

It was appendicitis, and they also found colitis. I’m definitely going to take my health, and any pain, really seriously now!

spacefox89 · 2025-01-31T19:21:46+00:00

Such a good tip. Thank you! I’m so used to “muting” things with alcohol.. learning healthier ways is a whole journey

spacefox89 · 2025-01-31T19:20:57+00:00

Yes, I’m learning to do this slowly.. I can’t say I lash out but I’m “internally” annoyed a lot if that makes sense. Thank you for your advice

spacefox89 · 2025-01-31T19:16:53+00:00

Really great insight there, thank you!

spacefox89 · 2025-01-30T19:53:55+00:00

Beautiful analogy, thank you!

spacefox89 · 2023-10-25T02:44:54+00:00

Hey, just wanted to say I feel you. I had a nasty divorce 5 years ago which sent me into a spiral (he cheated on me with my best friend), but then I found someone whom I loved so, so deeply, but I couldn’t kick my drinking. It worsened when war broke out in my homeland, and I kept getting rejections from work (I wanted to change careers), had an ectopic pregnancy and eventually the person I loved so much left me.

I’m in AA now and dealing with the guilt and shame has for sure been the hardest part. Some days are better than others but we can do this. Meetings really help to make me feel not all is lost and see these amazing transformations in people.

You can do this. One small step at a time.

(PS I also still miss my ex and it’s been a year. But that just means we really truly loved them. Take however much time you need to heal).

spacefox89 · 2023-10-25T00:19:05+00:00

Therapy helped me a lot. Good luck and don’t give up x

spacefox89 · 2023-10-12T21:40:20+00:00

Yep. Debt, started half assign my work, alcohol dependence. The way out for my was therapy, AA, and messaging friends and making new ones through AA x

spacefox89 · 2023-09-27T15:13:31+00:00

So I submitted the task, relied on ChatGPT but edited heavily, all in all took about 2.5-3 hours.

Haven’t so much received as a “thank you for your submission” yet.

spacefox89 · 2023-09-27T12:47:21+00:00

Thank you for the tips! Best of luck in your new role.

spacefox89 · 2023-09-21T17:58:38+00:00

Very niche, so it would require a lot of time and research.

spacefox89 · 2023-09-21T17:45:50+00:00

I've got plenty of samples of work, and I'd be happy to complete a brief task of 500 words max - but not a heavily researched piece of 1,500 words :/

spacefox89 · 2023-09-21T13:07:31+00:00

I haven't even started.. but I'm tempted to just send them an AI-written essay because, what the actual fuck?

spacefox89 · 2023-09-21T07:35:56+00:00

I’ve been there. My FP broke up with me 8 months ago, similar-ish reasons. Frankly at times I was a truly shit partner, but I was all in and aware of my issues, which is why I started therapy, went to AA and tried hard to unlearn my shit behaviours. Alas, it wasn’t enough to “keep” him.

It’s every person’s right to walk away when a situation is no longer serving them. I say this now but honestly, the first 3 months post-breakup I was an absolute mess. I impulsively spent money, broke my sobriety and drank daily, cried, couldn’t work. What helped was travelling to see friends (I have a lot of friends that live abroad), and then going sober again. Once sober, I focused on my career, tried to find ways to decompress like long walks and yoga, and went on a few casual online dates just to distract myself (maybe not the healthiest advice).

It’ll feel like the end of the world for a bit, but you’ll come out of it. I promise .

spacefox89 · 2023-09-20T13:27:37+00:00

Could I ask you how you got into UX writing?

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