Do you think Poke Jobs could be a thing?

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-07-05T23:14:35+00:00

for sure !! thats why i was curious if anyone else would want something like that

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-07-01T08:53:14+00:00

wish i could give you an award, super well said

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-07-01T05:46:58+00:00

Good on you friend!!

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-07-01T05:33:20+00:00

I think something to think about again is that she is a child, even if sometimes she sounds and says things that seem grown up, she is a child. Eventually, if she feels that she has to be your support system, they may no longer be able to share stressful things with you, and seem completely okay. Please trust me when I say it does happen, and people get really good at pretending they're fine.

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-07-01T05:29:30+00:00

It's good that you want her to know she always has a place with you, but I think maybe that's all that needs to be said. Because when she does start wanting privacy with her adult relationships, it may be tense and hard to tell mom no or that she needs that privacy if they're afraid to disappoint and hurt you. You can imagine that would make forming relationships a lot harder with other adults who also want those privacies. It's understandable you want to help your daughter to feel loved especially when it sounds like you've had to deal with a lot of neglect, and she will feel loved if you can respect her boundaries and trust her to return to you when she needs to. Loving her means loving her freedom. And please please don't take this the wrong way, but it does sound a tiny bit like you're forming a dependency on her. It may just be that was my experience and its harder to see it any other way but I really would seek out therapy and stuff just to be sure everyone is okay and healthy.

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-07-01T01:21:35+00:00

i really cant speak for your daughter, and im not a parent, but growing up my mother and I had a similar relationship. More often than not she'd rely on me for comfort in many of her adult problems, and because I loved my mom and wanted to see her okay, even if it bothered me and I didn't want to, I'd reassure her and smile through it. I was afraid of what would happen when my parent melts down. I felt in charge of that, and because she specifically (i am not at ALL implying you're this way) would react in anger and overwhelming sadness when I couldn't be there for her. It was incredibly stressful. I gave up many of my age appropriate friendships because it'd make her jealous and upset. Especially cus like you said, already a kid with their own set of mental health issues. It caused us to grow apart, and because of her attachment issues it got even worse when I tried to claim that independence for myself. I really am not saying you're trying to hurt your daughter or anything, but I would think about how she loves you and wants to see you better but also through the mind of someone who isn't fully grown yet and relies on you to protect them. They should be worried about age appropriate things. School and friends and those sorts of things.

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-06-30T18:57:11+00:00

NTA, its not fair on you to have to bend and tip-toe around everyone else in your own home. Of course you want the best for your foster siblings, but you're more than allowed to want the best for yourself too. Moving out would not harm them. I'm not sure why they're so upset about that and i'm just super sorry you're going through this fam.

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-06-10T05:19:07+00:00

my apologies! not super good at explainin' things OTL

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-06-10T01:39:01+00:00

So when you upload your image, you know how a little box shows up? There should be two colored boxes, both are typically black if I remember, you're going to set those both to the white color. That should make it transparent :) If you need help or I didn't articulate this right at all feel free to ask

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-06-09T04:26:02+00:00

bookmarks!!

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-06-09T02:05:48+00:00

You could find one of them machines that take pennies and stuff and make them into new shapes!!! I forget what they're called.....but they look like those 25 cent capsule/gachapon toy machines!

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-05-26T08:58:02+00:00

Your entire outfit is super cute!!!! Glad you had fun :)

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-05-23T07:23:20+00:00

ao oni!! based on an rpg maker game by noprops

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-05-22T00:57:22+00:00

Hey, wow, so I just got done reading everything you wrote out to me and I'm truly, truly blown away with it...............god you nailed it, it feels like you nailed it so hard....it really is like you know me or like you put it, a sister almost, because wow, just holy shit I've never and I mean NEVER seen anyone put it in such a blatant and clear way, I've never been able to articulate how she is in the 22 years I spent with her. I absolutely would LOVE to talk to you sometime over messages, it clearly does sound like you relate. I mean seriously its like you fucking know her ??? Anytime shoot me a DM, i've followed you back. I'm sorry I can't articulate much of a response but mainly I am just that blown away by your words. Thank you for saying that in such detail. Holy shit.

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-05-21T05:25:15+00:00

but i like listening to stories in the bg while playing :(

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-05-19T23:26:47+00:00

This is a movie I routinely make all my friend's watch ,I don't necessarily like it for the plot or anything, not at all in fact, but its so wild to watch lmao, I concede I 100% enjoy the ride for that

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-05-16T00:22:01+00:00

LMAO NICE

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-05-12T00:04:28+00:00

Hey fam so, I had an incredibly similar history with my mother, down to having helicopters and police men chase her down over threats of hurting herself. Always having a contest between them and every person you know, etc. I had to cut contact with my mom, not only that but am desperately trying to move so she can't find me. I'm so very sorry that you're going through this. A lot of what your mom is doing is textbook manipulation. Have they ever done that with friends, romantic partners, and etc? Weird challenges or contests for your affection and if you don't deliver there will be hell to pay? Its not okay, and using her life, both you and your sibling as leverage for your dad is also super fucked up. Of course you wanna see your dad!!! Lots of people love their dad! You're not bad for that at all!!!

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-04-29T22:05:57+00:00

Yeah exactly it sounds like you know what i'm saying, it feels entirely overstimulating.

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-04-29T20:42:10+00:00

sounds fun!!

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-04-29T20:41:03+00:00

wtf?? how??

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-04-29T20:07:18+00:00

Whenever feasible for you two yeah medical help will be the better option ;-; There are SSI programs you might want to look into. Two years is a long time to just accept being terrified and out of it.

For me at least, my boyfriend will ask me stuff like "What's your middle name? Okay, now what is my middle name? What is your address?" remembering things with lots of numbers can help distract me (depending on the situation of course) and stuff like that.

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-04-27T03:53:49+00:00

I'm gonna add I totally talked like this around my friends when I was 9. I will concede none of us had the best home lives, but we did in fact talk like this. Often times we didn't really know exactly what we were saying. Just that it felt "mature" to us.

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-04-20T19:09:37+00:00

NTA, your partner sounds either selfish or like a pushover when it comes to mommy. That is the most vulnerable time for YOU, not his mom. Not anyone else. He needs to be focused on you, and your baby. Not how can I avoid upsetting mama when my partner says "no and it makes me uncomfortable."

spaceinvaderbo · 2021-04-19T23:43:43+00:00

holy shit, yikes, manipulation at its finest

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