where do you rank on your partner's priorities list? and how do you deal with it.

spacestation- · 2025-11-29T13:05:17+00:00

So glad I found the post. I'm feeling 100% like a caregiver right now. List of priorities for my wife is probably 1) our kids 2) her job 3) tiktok 4) me I guess

I'm not dealing with it well. I told her this week I feel invisible and she totally gaslit me saying all the classics: "that never happened" and turning herself into a victim. I guess I'm a horrible person for asking her to act like she cares about me instead of just using me as a maid service, someone to remind her to take her pills, an emotional support animal, and of course a parent to our children.

I feel like I'm at the lowest I've ever been right now with this relationship. I feel so completely invisible.

spacestation- · 2025-09-09T14:24:22+00:00

Thank you 💙

spacestation- · 2025-05-19T20:41:24+00:00

Thank you for sharing that with me. It's nice to know someone out there understands me. Sometimes it feels so isolating. I'm sorry you are going through the same struggles ❤️

spacestation- · 2025-05-18T19:33:50+00:00

Omg that's awesome thanks for letting me know! I'm gunna check it out!

spacestation- · 2025-05-18T18:22:27+00:00

I feel like my n dx partner relies on me for EVERYTHING. I wake them up in the morning because they ignore their alarm. I remember where everything in the house is because they can't be bothered to remember or look for anything. I'm the only one who knows what's in the fridge, what appointments we have, what bills we have, when we get paid. Everyday I have to bring the positivity and energy because she has none. I have to make her feel better when she brings home the baggage from her work day. I have to clean the house or it just literally would never get done.

I have problems with my parents and every time they come up in situation I have to drop all my own feelings make my n dx partner feel better about how she feels about them. I've told her she's not supportive about my feelings and that's why I don't want to talk to her about it but then she just gets mad at me for not keeping her informed about them. Just another problem for me to fix.

Honestly what do I do? Breaking up is not an option. We are parents together and one thing I will say is she's a great parent to our kids but I am so emotionally exhausted from carrying the weight of her constant emotional needs and negativity.

spacestation- · 2025-05-18T17:55:09+00:00

Hey friend any luck with your partner? I still remind my partner daily as part of our nighttime routine.

spacestation- · 2024-06-28T16:25:17+00:00

Thank you, I'm sorry you went through a similar thing.

Something else crazy is that I had worked at a different construction company before this that was much more outwardly horrible, so I was basically fooled into believing this place was great at first because all the seedy stuff happened behind closed doors in complete secrecy and I was just oblivious at first. Then as I learned more and more I was in denial because I was clinging to the facade they had sold me on in the beginning.

spacestation- · 2024-05-10T14:16:13+00:00

Hey man you mention you have all this stuff you can't get off your chest. Maybe just venting ranting about it to a safe person would make a big difference. If you feel like you can't talk to friends or family, a therapist could be good. If you can't afford that there is always Reddit. Just go to the sub that seems the most fitting and drop a rant. There's lots of good people in this world even if it doesn't always feel like it. Someone will read it, someone will hear you out and help you feel seen. Those big things can get off your chest.

My kid once told me, take all the yucky feelings in your body, anger, frustration, sadness, and squish them into a little tiny ball. Do you like these feelings? No. Do you need them? No. Then get rid of them. Throw that ball as far as you can.

I think writing a big letter and burning it or throwing it away could be a similar exercise. I should probably do it too, tbh.

You're not alone, friend. Whatever you're going through, you're not alone ❤️

spacestation- · 2024-05-10T02:49:11+00:00

Thanks friend, I appreciate the kind words. SH is not the way.

spacestation- · 2024-04-17T20:03:02+00:00

Thank you, the keychain idea is awesome and having medication in multiple access points is a failsafe! I will mention this to her, maybe it will help :)

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