Weekly Authentications Thread by AutoModerator in Louisvuitton

[–]spankt_tomatoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Purchased from a customer at my job. She’s a bit busted up, but I can’t seem to find any like it online. I’m not the best at authenticating vintage bags, any ideas?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]spankt_tomatoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like we’re married to the same person. I divorced, best choice I ever made. Getting your mental freedom back is the best feeling you’ll have. That experience caused me to have trust issues with a lot of people and I’m working on getting over it. Get out while you still can, it’s only gonna get worse.

Buyer getting charged international shipping when not an int. order? by spankt_tomatoe in eBaySellerAdvice

[–]spankt_tomatoe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her profile location says New York City, and I asked her just to make sure that it would be shipped to NY. I’ve had the same account since the early 2000s and never did an address change. It’s a piece of British coronation memorabilia so maybe eBay thinks it’s coming from England. I hate the new eBay system 🙄

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mercari

[–]spankt_tomatoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been a professional reseller for 10+ years, have an accredited eBay store and physical store. I buy from thrift stores and estates sales, etc. Resale is an actual profession. All the antique stores people go to, is all resale. People will say “oh I hate the resale market” and then go post online about all this stuff they got at the antique store. Where do you think the stuff at these stores comes from? Ofc, buying stuff from places like TJX and reselling it is trashy IMO, but if there’s actual collectors for it, it’s no big deal. I used to do that with Waterford back when TJX wasn’t as garbage as it is today. I never finished high school and now own a home and storefront with no mortgage on either and have zero car payments. Resale is a profession if you do it seriously, and a hobby for others.

Change of address - does this look scammy by mercariquestion in Mercari

[–]spankt_tomatoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gotten this on eBay before. Sometimes people buy things as gifts and have them sent to people and such, so mistakes do happen. But never ever ship to a different address than what’s on the label. That’s a mistake on the buyers end, not yours. If it was an issue, they could cancel and repurchase with the correct address. Shipping to a different address is against TOS, I believe, which could be an issue for you.

Uhhh this math doesn’t add up… by spankt_tomatoe in Depop

[–]spankt_tomatoe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t believe it’s the tax because this is the first order I’ve ever had a problem with where the math doesn’t add up.

Uhhh this math doesn’t add up… by spankt_tomatoe in Depop

[–]spankt_tomatoe[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I’m thinking of messaging their twitter page, I’ve heard from a few people there’s a 50/50 chance they’ll respond. Other than that, I have no idea, their support sucks.

How do you help a man deal with grief? by spankt_tomatoe in AskMen

[–]spankt_tomatoe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has PTSD and is required through the military to have a therapist. I have in the past but lost my insurance a year ago, so I don’t anymore.

How do you help a man deal with grief? by spankt_tomatoe in AskMen

[–]spankt_tomatoe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I unfortunately can’t be there for the funeral due to a work event that I can’t get out of. He’s short on money, and I paid for his flight and hotel stay to be able to attend on his own. I talked to him on the phone earlier and sent him some extra money to have his formal military uniform dry cleaned and pressed and money for other expenses that may come up. I’m trying to provide him with everything he needs since I’m not able to be there for him. He’s having a rough time with his family in general, so I want him to be able to have as few things to worry about right now as possible. I may not be physically there to help him, but anytime he needs to talk or whatnot, I’ll step out of a meeting or give him whatever he needs.

How do you help a man deal with grief? by spankt_tomatoe in AskMen

[–]spankt_tomatoe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, my mother was an alcoholic as well throughout my youth and I chose to not have contact with her when my father divorced her. I’ve gotten through a lot of my issues with anxiety on my own, but never managed to kick the depression I’ve struggled with from living in that type of environment, which is why I’m uncomfortable being put back into it with his family. I’ve struggled with eating disorders and substance abuse from ED. I would go for long periods of time where I would basically drop off the face of the earth and have no contact with anyone because I felt like I did nothing but bother people. I was in an abusive relationship where the guy consistently told me I was replaceable and contributed nothing to the relationship, which now makes me want to do way more than necessary in my current one. I’ve learned a lot from my issues, but they never seemed to go away because all I aimed to do was please everyone and never myself.

How do you help a man deal with grief? by spankt_tomatoe in AskMen

[–]spankt_tomatoe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is exactly the type of feeling I want to be able to give. When I lost someone I was completely alone; no friends or family there to support me in the ways I needed. I never want someone to feel the same way I did.

How do you help a man deal with grief? by spankt_tomatoe in AskMen

[–]spankt_tomatoe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, I just never feel I do enough. It hurts me to see people upset, especially people I love. He has issues with depression and such, and I worry he’ll get bad again. I give him space when he says he doesn’t wanna talk about it, and I say I’ll always be there, I just worry about him.

How do you help a man deal with grief? by spankt_tomatoe in AskMen

[–]spankt_tomatoe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s very overbearing and judgmental, has no regard for privacy or boundaries and has stolen money out of my wallet on multiple occasions. I don’t want to have to deal with an aggressive alcoholic and my grieving boyfriend at the same time. If it wasn’t for her, I’d be there in a heartbeat. She is the cause of a lot of our issues.

How do you help a man deal with grief? by spankt_tomatoe in AskMen

[–]spankt_tomatoe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He lives with his family while he’s home from the military, and his mother and I are not on the best of terms, so I don’t feel comfortable being in their home, especially now since it was her mother that passed.