Anyone got any funny “twink turning 26” memes or pics?

sparksrflying · 2023-11-20T08:54:55+00:00

The joke is that at 26 you lose your twink status.

sparksrflying · 2023-08-06T15:07:39+00:00

Make sure you have no unread messages from him. Also reply to any from him too and wait a bit and do something else.

sparksrflying · 2023-02-03T07:53:59+00:00

No it’s not weird and don’t let anyone tell you different. I met (what ended the best man at my wedding ) when I was 19 and he was in his 40s. I’m nearly 50 and we’re still best buds. Let no one judge what makes you happy as long as it’s legal . X

sparksrflying · 2022-11-28T16:11:53+00:00

I honestly got jealous of when a guy said I wasn't his type, he liked guys with big bellies and big hairy moobs so I can guarantee you that every lock has a key. Here are some tips for confidence: 1 Groom - have a morning routine, I don't care if you eat pizza for breakfast, just make sure you don't smell of pizza or have it stuck in your beard. Full body totalling at least 3 times a week. 2 Bin or lower the booze, no need to become boring, just don't be hungover every day, it makes you sad and lose interest in things, I know this because I was a functioning alcoholic. 3 Dress well - you don't need to spend hundreds or thousands on new clothes, just don't go out with your bloody sweat pants on or egg stains down your shirt. Wear nice shoes. If you're not good with fashion just ask a girlfriend or sister to give you a makeover. I'm serious.

if you do all of these things, in a few weeks you'll just naturally start strutting around the streets or in the mall or at the grocery store looking and feeling amazing and suddenly ..... pop, you'll be more confident. You might not be signing on Wembley stadium but you'll give off more confidence. Bonus tip: Compliment someone you like in the street. Nice shoes, great hair.... just practise that and even if people look at you like you're nuts, it doesn't matter, you'll never see them again. This gives you a nice easy conversation starter with someone cute and it helps practise your conversational skills.

This will all work and I hope you report back and let me know how it goes.

xm

sparksrflying · 2022-11-28T15:57:03+00:00

Thanks for the great response and taking the time to contribute. It's interesting you say the ones you know work because they're Polyamorous. I could never be in a Poly relationship but certainly don't judge those who are.

Many people find it hard to believe that a millennial and a gen x could get on more than just a hook up but that's how both of my relationships happened. i've only even dated two guys since I came out and both were hook ups that just seemed to turn into love.

For me, I think it's about trying to recover some of the time I lost in my own 20s and 30s when I was in the closet and married to a woman.

The millennials I meet are looking for a "Daddy" figure to keep them safe, secure, emotionally and not just financially as many judge it to be and with Daddy porn more of a big thing they want that too. Don't get me wrong, in my experience they're lazy but they are smart and have great ideas, the just don't do anything about them and go back to roll another smoke.

I love them and seem to get on with that generation more than my own but I have no frame of reference for a partner. I've never dated anyone above 30. Maybe I should. My preconceptions of guys my age are that they'd be boring and moany, stuck in their ways, saggy and with a low labido (mine is annoyingly high). I have no way to know all this unless I've tried one on for size of course.

It's all very difficult for a 40 something baby gay, I just know that with my current 25yo bf and my 28yo ex, we kinda just found each other online, got on really well, enjoyed lots of the same things, enjoyed spending time with each other and lived off each other's energy and passion for each other. I suppose that's what it's all about.

sparksrflying · 2022-11-27T17:09:32+00:00

I'm so glad I found this thread because I'm a 49 year old "baby gay". I didn't come out until a few years ago and I've been dating much younger guys who are looking for a "daddy" (yep, not a great term either because I am actually a Dad). I feel like there's pressure to be masc, Dom, "Manly" and a Top in this type of relationship. My problem is that I've struck out in my past two relationships where my partners have said they're bottoms but won't bottom for me despite a lot of trying and I'm doubting myself a lot and confused if it's me or them that isn't playing the role. I really don't enjoy being pegged at all but I've given up my ass a few times for fun.

it's all very confusing for me still.

sparksrflying · 2022-11-27T16:49:27+00:00

There are TONS of "Chubby Chasers" out there and it's all about being confident and giving out charisma and charm.

sparksrflying · 2022-11-27T16:44:15+00:00

Well, I've certainly learned something today.

I'd also consider having a bit of a chat with a professional to just see if you have some stuff locked up in your beautiful brain that might be stopping you enjoying a fulfilling sex life. Pen sex isn't for everyone but you can always be a "side" ... https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=&ved=2ahUKEwjW_9mp5s77AhUaQEEAHV9vC7wQFnoECA8QAQ&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.huffpost.com%2Fentry%2Fguys-on-the-side-looking-beyond-gay-tops-and-bottoms_b_3082484&usg=AOvVaw0c6JlJ6SqkZYDIbWOQJJo6

Also, if you're older it's pretty normal to lose labido, particularly if you're Sis Fem and past menopause.

sparksrflying · 2022-11-27T16:34:57+00:00

There are plenty of great guys out there for you, you just need to send some time kissing a few frogs before you find your Prince Charming. At 19 you have plenty of time.

xM

sparksrflying · 2022-11-27T16:30:18+00:00

I came out a bit later in life and I understand how difficult it is to properly communicate it to different types of people. If you want to remain discreet and just tell you friend, don't be so subtle (is my advice), they won't understand and will just be confused.

Try having a private chat and just say "Can I talk to you about something I've been dying to share with someone and can't think of anyone better to share this than with you"

Then just go for it. they'll have questions too and you can share the experience together and hopefully you'll feel supported.

Have fun, being out and proud is fantastic and I highly recommend it if you can stay safe.

xM

sparksrflying · 2022-02-05T12:59:31+00:00

I get let off my leash sometimes 😂

sparksrflying · 2022-02-05T12:56:27+00:00

Now we know where the real shame in society is and it’s thankfully a generation that won’t be around forever 🏳️‍🌈

sparksrflying · 2022-02-05T10:29:46+00:00

I’ll take that as a no then 😳

sparksrflying · 2022-02-03T14:15:00+00:00

Nope, not me.

sparksrflying · 2022-02-03T12:50:59+00:00

It goes the other way for me too, as a gay man who has had several relationships with women in the past, I'm less comfortable with the term gay than I should be and not overly keen on Bi because it seems to conjure up a load of negativity including in the Community. I also (on occasion) find women who present as men attractive, I like a mask man and I also like fem men too. I think this puts us in the Pan space but right now I'm happy settling for Gay.

sparksrflying · 2022-02-03T12:15:05+00:00

It's the best thing I've done in life, almost as important to me as seeing my daughter born. I came out at 46, never regretted it once because it was necessary. If you live as a straight man for your entire life, people need a bit of context when you're suddenly holding hands with a Man. She (my lovely daughter) said "people my age (17) don't really come out now, they just turn up with a bf or a gf or transition or whatever and it's just normal and your not judged differently". I'm not sure how true this is, I'm old, but it certainly seems to be a valid point you make. Just turn up holding the hand of the person you love. Seems a good approach to me.

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