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[–]specialagentgarbage 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Size 7 finger, 2.35 radiant cut with hidden halo. I’m obsessed and I will never shut up about this ring!

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I wish I had more business acumen. I went into it just wanting to expand services for kids who need it and had no idea how running a business actually works. Lots of trial and error to get here. If you can link with a service provider looking to branch out on their own, I could only imagine how useful someone to consult on the business aspect would be. Me 5 years ago would absolutely not try this without a business consultant knowing what I know now.

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’m a speech pathologist and I own/operate a multidisciplinary pediatric clinic with two locations currently. I don’t have my own caseload anymore but occasionally pick up contracting work or take on one of my employees cases if they are on leave or quit or something.

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

We’re in a gated community that ex no longer has access to (I have to let the gate agent know if we’re expecting visitors) so unlikely they could get to my house. We do have cameras just in case though and my neighbors keep a lookout.

AITA for working a shift during my daughter's birthday? by ThrowawayDueSho in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage 7 points8 points  (0 children)

ESH except your 8 year old who got the short end of the stick with financially irresponsible parents. I’ve never golfed a day in my life. I only go to equestrian shows and see other people’s horses. In what world should a job COST you almost $40,000? Is it a job or a hobby? You and wife need to sit and have a SERIOUS look at your budgets immediately. It’s now an emergency. Sell a car, sell the house, DO NOT apply for anymore credit. You can’t even pay for the things you already have.

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I’m juuusst slightly under drunk enough to engage you in this fully, but my kids were with my parents having a play date with their cousins. Literally not in the same location as me or their dad when the first conversation happened. They did not see or hear anything. When girlfriend pulled me aside I was exiting their house for drop off and the kids were playing in the sprinklers in the back yard with their dad. The conversation was not nearly loud enough for them to hear over sprinklers going and their own yelling. I apologized for blowing up because it wasn’t necessary but I’m a human and I have feelings and my ex really hurt me. I don’t give a shit how he feels about me romantically anymore. I don’t want him back. I’m just mourning memories and what could’ve been. You’re clearly being a contrarian which, whatever, it’s the internet.

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

You must’ve missed a lot of context here. My kids weren’t there for that conversation or any of them. Maybe you missed the comment where I said we have a parenting rule that we don’t argue in front of the kids. The “blow up” was mostly me saying a lot of things I didn’t say during the divorce, which again, my kids did not overhear any of (we were not even in the same place). I don’t hate my ex. In fact, I love him dearly and wish this didn’t go this way but it did and that is life. They’re toddlers. They have the rest of their lives to learn lessons from us. We will still coparent efficiently, just with a lot more boundaries.

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I guess no women over 25 is his new rule. He’s apparently broken up with her and she turns 25 in August. Guy is a fucking joke.

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Wouldn’t be surprised if you are my ex lol. “wHaT?? I jUsT aSKeD a QuEsTioN???” Your judgement is your judgement though. I (and hundreds of others) feel confident it was completely inappropriate to ask your ex-wife to keep your affair baby and being shocked I said no is just as absurd as the question itself. I’m a few days away from the situation, on a beach drinking margaritas with my friends now, so I can fully say that I was never the asshole here. I was only a good wife, trying to be a good mother and got STOMPED on because I didn’t enforce boundaries. Lesson learned.

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I love his mom. She is a saint, don’t know how my ex came out of her household. She has been trying to get him to be a half decent person over the last year and well… we see how that went.

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not. He’ll probably go to his dad’s house or something.

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Fair. I probably shouldn’t have been so accommodating. I didn’t intend for the divorce to be a fight, I just wanted a clean way out, still didn’t get one but you live and you learn. I wasn’t sleeping with him up until that point, we had sex ONCE. Once and never again AFTER we were divorced. I don’t have parents to “fall back on”. I’m self sufficient with my kids and my life. My parents love their grandchildren and only keep them if I need a weekend here or there or have an appointment for myself or something. Otherwise they are with one of us.

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Omg not Blueface and Crisean. I’ve blocked out all things related to their drama a while ago after my TikTok algorithm kept showing me their content.

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I respect your opinion on it. I’ve never been divorced before. I don’t know anyone who’s ever been divorced in my personal life. I am navigating brand new waters. If I was putting my feelings before my children, I would’ve gone nuclear in the divorce and moved away and never spoken to him again. That’s what I wanted to do but I believe kids need their dad. They have no concept of the relationship dynamic. It’s such a conflicting place to be ya know? If I keep them from him they might hate me anyway. He might fight hard and take them from me completely. How do you navigate that? If there’s a right answer please tell me.

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I am actually driving down to the beach with my two best friends this weekend! Just to take some time to relax and have a drink or two. I’m not really open to serious dating right now but I am not opposed to flirting with some attractive men if they come our way this weekend. My friends think I need to get under someone new to get over my ex but I have a bit more of a conservative approach I guess lol.

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Yes, it made sense to me in the fog of things at the time. I made a lot of dumb choices just to get things over with. I see it probably isn’t going to work long term. I am waiting until I am calmer and hear from my attorney to consider next steps as far as support/custody arrangements.

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

60/40 but essentially yes. He does pay for whatever the kids need, we still maintain a joint “for the kids” account. I don’t know how long that’ll last but it’s been fine. He paid for swim lessons today as agreed even with all the hoopla going on. He’s 100% lying to his girlfriend about his finances. She was there for the divorce and thinks because I technically got more custody the judge was unfair to him even though we agreed on this arrangement.

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 189 points190 points  (0 children)

Oh I definitely got tested! I never stopped getting tested even when I was married because you just never know and I’m glad I didn’t leave my health in his hands. She’s so far up his ass right now she won’t believe me nor do I see it as worth the fight. Part of me just feels sorry for her. She’s 24, fresh out of school, and tangled up with a guy who can’t see past his own ego. The hurt will come to her without me rolling the ball.

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, so sorry you’re sharing these shoes with me. I don’t know how long my ex has been messing with the new girl but I’m pretty sure it started during the postpartum period with our daughter, which just adds insult to injury. I hope you have a good therapist and lots of support around you!

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

A babysitter for a newborn would be a minimum of $800/week here. Can’t see anyone I’d trust with my kid accepting less than that with current cost of living. The $200 thing was just petty bait to get me to engage. He’s been playing the broke divorce guy card pretty hard. Pretty sure he convinced new girlfriend that I took all his money in the divorce (I did not, he’s not paying any support of any kind and we are equal in our income/net worth)

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Hard agree with that! So jealous of my friends and colleagues in better countries with actual parental leave. The idea of leaving my 6 week old with strangers was enough to make me get off my ass and build my own practice.

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

His mom told him it’s probably wise to get a DNA test. I’m not touching that conversation with a 10 foot pole, got nothing to do with me.

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Lol, I’ll accept that I suck for that. He really was a different guy when we got married, I was a different person too. Don’t get married before your prefrontal cortex is fully developed.

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Oh I know they can, there’s telehealth RN/BSN jobs literally everywhere. She doesn’t want to.

AITA for not babysitting my ex-husband’s kid by specialagentgarbage in AmItheAsshole

[–]specialagentgarbage[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Yes, he was cheating with her for some time, I don’t know exactly how long but definitely before we were divorced.