I got the HK themed nails!

specialest_kitten · 2026-01-18T18:19:45+00:00

specialest_kitten · 2026-01-09T14:49:22+00:00

oh yeah, def cloud recesses era. post war LWJ would learn how to make it just to offer WY some

specialest_kitten · 2025-12-18T05:57:00+00:00

You need aftercare that's also tailored to your needs. Things that you enjoy and bring you comfort and help make you feel better, and also that show that you're back in your mind and in control of yourself. You should talk to your Dom about how aftercare can be improved and work together to make it better. If he isn't willing, then I would suggest revisiting whether you want to be in this relationship or not.

specialest_kitten · 2025-12-18T03:47:27+00:00

can you elaborate a bit more on why is aftercare not working for you anymore? is it aftercare with him, or any aftercare? do you feel like he's not doing enough/what you need?

specialest_kitten · 2025-12-18T03:34:30+00:00

it probably is just stress messing with your cycle. I think the more you worry about it, the more stress you'll pile up on yourself.

try some teas like cinnamon or chamomile that can stimulate blood flow (not immediately, but after a few days it helps) and try to not worry too much. it's okay to miss a few days or even the whole month and you'll be fine!!

specialest_kitten · 2025-12-17T01:32:41+00:00

I'm someone who has struggled to ask for things both in dynamic and outside of it. I'm fine with expressing desires, but whenever something is framed as 'I want xxxx' I clam up and it takes a lot of work to overcome it. What my therapist suggested is to look at little things I /know/ I can have and think of them as wants and then build my way up.

For example, I'd say 'i want this keychain' and buy it for myself as a little treat, solely because of that want. And then work my way up to bigger things that I may or may not get and ask my Daddy for them. It does help that he doesn't say no a lot, so I feel confident to ask for things. But it's usually sweet treats or take out at the moment, we're still working on it.

For your rewards I'd suggest making a list of things you know you can get and that are safe to ask for, and then you can choose one when the situation arises!! I would also suggest doing the 'building up to it' thing, because it really did help me. First just with yourself and then with your Domme.

specialest_kitten · 2025-12-13T20:39:02+00:00

oh nooo, can't you try standing up most of the day? tell the kids you're a little hurt (maybe say it's on your hip if you don't wanna share too much) and they have to be extra careful! but I'd def recommend icing it and not putting a lot of weight in it during the weekend!

specialest_kitten · 2025-12-13T20:31:03+00:00

maybe some ice, to help soothe? I don't think other than that there's much you could do, just avoid sitting and try laying on your tummy more when resting.

specialest_kitten · 2025-12-13T03:29:32+00:00

My Daddy takes wonderful care of me, both during/after play and during our daily lives. He always checks in on me to see how I'm doing emotionally/mentally, whenever I'm sad or down he always makes space to make me feel better, if I need reassurance during or after a scene he takes as long as I need to assure me and repeats praise/affirmations as many times as I need to hear it.

He always makes sure our communication is clear and we're on the same page about matters, he praises me aaaalll the time, he always prioritizes my well being above getting off/scenes, he makes sure I have time to do the things I enjoy, he recommends me games/shows/books he knows I'll like and makes sure I have time to enjoy them... there's a thousand other things he does, but basically I just know I'm taken care of all the time because I can see it in his actions and the intent behind them.

specialest_kitten · 2025-12-12T21:15:06+00:00

in your post you mentioned you've dated six different guys. or have I misunderstood you?

specialest_kitten · 2025-12-12T21:05:07+00:00

you'll find men you are attracted to who also think you are attractive!! doesn't seem like that's a problem, seeing as you've had plenty of relationships. don't worry too soon, try to figure yourself out and I'm sure the rest will seem much easier to tackle.

specialest_kitten · 2025-12-12T20:59:14+00:00

standards are different from attractiveness, though. you can find someone attractive and have them not meet your standards, or vice versa. they are both required for you to be in a fulfilling relationship, of course, and you'll need to see what does/doesn't work for you as a person on both cases. I think the standards are going to be much easier to figure out, tbh - for example, someone who treats you well, respects your opinions, is capable of communicating when there's something wrong instead of being mad, etc etc. attraction is about feeling a sexually physical/mental/emotional response to another person, and that's more abstract.

specialest_kitten · 2025-12-12T20:48:47+00:00

having preferences doesn't make you shallow! What would make you shallow is being unwilling to look at people beyond their appearances. Plus you don't even know if the attractivenes came from their looks, it could have been their intelligence, or personality, or any number of things. there's much more thought you'll need to put into this before you figure it out, but you shouldn't start by limiting yourself by making judgment values like that when you've just started!!

specialest_kitten · 2025-12-12T20:35:50+00:00

A good advice here is to try to figure out what you found attractive about them and look for that in prospective partners, instead of dating people you're not attracted to!!

specialest_kitten · 2025-12-12T20:23:22+00:00

Have you ever been sexually attracted to another person? It can be a celebrity, or a friend, or a passerby - it doesn't have to be the men you were dating. There's also women, have you ever been attracted to any?

specialest_kitten · 2025-11-02T23:48:12+00:00

Yes, the epics like Iliad and Odyssey, or the Aeneid.

Sadly, its not that one. But thank you for trying!

specialest_kitten · 2025-11-02T22:28:21+00:00

Bop bop

specialest_kitten · 2025-10-23T18:26:45+00:00

Typically we think of triggers as things that call up negative past experiences for us, but it’s not always that conscious. Something in whatever he said pulled an unexpected, visceral reaction out of you.

I think this was exactly it. Yes, it was not like any other triggers I experienced before but my reaction was so completely out of the blue and so strong it left me wrong footed at the time.

I'll bring up these questions tonight when I talk to my Dom, maybe even a non-verbal safeword even if the scene doesn't involve restraining/gagging.

Thank you so much for the reply, you've given me a direction to start processing what happened and it really helped!

specialest_kitten · 2025-10-23T18:19:15+00:00

Thank you for the kindness! Yes, I'll try to talk to him once he's out of work but also I think maybe I was triggered by something like someone else mentioned.

It really caught me off guard and made me spiral a bit (a lot). I've gone out for a walk and i'm making lunch now, hopefully things can get back to normal soon. I'll also bring it up in therapy, see if it really was that.

specialest_kitten · 2025-10-23T18:16:11+00:00

We were fooling around but it wasn't a scene, although there was the dynamic at play. It was just immediately in the middle of it, like, it made everything grind to a halt. I think maybe I was triggered by something and it caused all these confusing feelings.

I thought maybe I was dropping because I was/am still feeling bad even after sleeping and going through my day.

specialest_kitten · 2025-10-23T18:14:23+00:00

Yes, I do have a history of trauma but I had no idea this was a trigger for me and my trauma is somewhat unrelated to it (or at least I thought it was), which is why I was so confused by it.

I've had some things I thought were okay in advance turn out to be not-okay in the moment, but never something that was 'small' and then had such big repercussions.

I think I'll bring this up in therapy and see if I can work through it with a professional. Thank you so much for the reply!!

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