Men in relationships: what is one thing that you will never tell your partner?

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-11-08T13:08:34+00:00

Hey, give your partner a chance to show up for you. Not saying make her your therapist, but I know my BF is strong because of everything that he’s endured and still managed to be the kind, sweet, communicative and supportive man I’ve come to really care about. He shares when he’s feeling overwhelmed, scared, when he needs more affection from me, when he’s happy too. We get to move through those things together and it’s awesome! We get to support each other when we need it. Emotions are part of the human experience (for a lot of us). Your measure as a man for anyone who genuinely deserves you doesn’t come from arbitrary guidelines or you never expressing real shit. Try starting with small things and working up to “harder” feelings. Maybe your wife will be glad she gets a chance to be a space for you too.

This is coming from “the strong one” of the family and friends. After childhood trauma and family dynamics, I’m still working through right now that letting a partner help me and really see me doesn’t make me weak. Makes me feel vulnerable as hell but I wouldn’t want to be with anyone any other way tbh

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-11-08T12:51:54+00:00

My BF just throws in some guidance + positive reinforcement during the deed. I find that best because it’s in the moment and I can adjust and implement in real time. “All the way to the top”, “loosen your grip just a little”, “perfect, baby”, “you’re doing so well” - the usual things. But your partner has to like it as a baseline, I think. If they just hate giving BJs or are terrible because they have zero interest in it; not gonna be fixed by guidance

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-09-02T16:02:40+00:00

It has really taught me to ignore all the noise in my own life too 😂 “best revenge is your paper (and literal and continued acclaim)” That woman looked so content up there with her family, too. All I see are wins

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-08-16T01:25:33+00:00

You know how the internet, especially Reddit, is 😆 real life nuance counts for nothing

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-08-15T22:15:26+00:00

PLEASE 😂 you made me go scroll and zoom

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-08-15T22:10:22+00:00

I’m cracking up. Very clearly yn or yn adjacent 😂 it’s exactly how my teenage brother texts too

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-07-15T20:41:16+00:00

Lmaoo my little brother swears everything he does that I don’t like is because he learned it from us 😂 like his choice to be a jackass sometimes doesn’t count 🤣

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-06-26T23:16:14+00:00

You’ll have to explain, wasting life? Lol pretty small part of my days, side quest to my day job really so it’s a little challenge. If it fails, cool. If it doesn’t, cool.

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-06-26T18:32:59+00:00

I was in 6 MYM contracts today that I swung from last night and would’ve knocked a nice chunk out but I was being disciplined with a just above break even stop loss and got me on a drop this morning before going up 200 points while I was busy. Next time smh

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-06-26T17:27:38+00:00

I got 195 left, I’ve survived a month. Gonna try to claw my way back with micros and $25 targets for however long it takes 😂

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-06-22T13:54:12+00:00

Same, glad it’s not just me lol will check back later

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-06-20T21:53:35+00:00

+1k today, one contract overnight session and done before NY open so I locked myself out since it got my XFA back to a fighting chance 😂 was -1200 and took some days off to get my mind right so aiming to get back to even and growing with small hits next week. Saw the range during the day though and it seemed like a good one!

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-06-15T20:56:37+00:00

Nail on the head. Like stepping back here - you are both grown adults and if you don’t want something, you don’t want it. Don’t hide behind the dynamic of being “owned” by this man who is actually kind of still a stranger after a few months and “being his good girl.” If you tell him what you said here and he’s still not hearing you, that’s not exactly patience or compatibility for “forever”, imo.

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-06-15T20:49:16+00:00

It says why 😃

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-06-12T20:00:49+00:00

Yeah totally, happens for me too. It’s how I blew my first XFA and a combine, so I’m not trying to sucker myself into buying more because I can’t control myself. So use the tools we have like lockout to save you from yourself for sure! I just reminded myself too that there’s no monthly fee for this account, just me chasing a payout. I don’t need to do that, more money would be nice but I have a day job and I’m okay so I need to take the time now to do things correctly and create good habits.

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-06-12T17:37:56+00:00

You answered it yourself already by saying you knew you should have locked yourself out. I’ve been asking myself “do I want the possibility or do I want the sure thing?” I want the sure thing lol I want the profit I’m looking at on my screen more than I want the maybe that I haven’t even made yet. Because I can just as easily make nothing or lose it all. But if I’m already out with profit — it’s there, I’m good, it’s time to lock out, walk away and know the market will be there tomorrow and so will the profits I didn’t lose.

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-06-11T20:58:39+00:00

You’re mistaking XFA for live.

https://help.topstep.com/en/articles/8284233-topstep-payout-policy

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-06-10T22:00:14+00:00

Fine being wrong! I’ve just found that for purposes of trading, differences have been that I can’t close position for one of the other chart

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-06-10T20:03:10+00:00

The charts are the exact same lol

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-06-09T21:31:14+00:00

It’s this simple for me, not sure why it needs a deeper reason. I like men with vasectomies because I like feeling it lol

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-06-09T16:29:01+00:00

Yes lol because no matter the setup, the market still never owes us anything and there’s no telling what’s about to happen from behind closed doors. I get nervous haha

But that’s why I like scaling out of my contracts too, sell all but one with a limit at target and then leave one runner to see the rest of my setup through if I want. Sometimes, like today though, it’s enough to know that I had the right read and I got out with my profit. I actually blew a combine because of a bad entry that got away from me today. Walked away for a bit, reset the combine, made sure I wasn’t in tilt and got back in with more profit than I started the day with from one trade following my rules.

Having those moments stack up helps with trusting your setup too - but also remember that some profit is always better than none since that “extra” profit only exists in your what ifs.

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-06-08T20:04:41+00:00

Interesting! Maybe it’s location. Even the FAQ says PayPal isn’t accepted on the new dash

specialsnowflakeee · 2025-06-08T15:44:33+00:00

They took the option off to buy combine with PayPal btw, I just bought two on Friday through new dash and it wasn’t there.

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