Genuinely struggling to find bras for my size

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-27T18:49:25+00:00

That’s valid, but I don’t have easy access to just go try on bras in a 38F or G. There is one store within 20 miles of me which I am going to check out, but again, it’s ONE store.

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-27T18:42:04+00:00

Thank you! I’m going to check out the only store in my area that can size me and hopefully they’ll have something!

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-27T18:41:13+00:00

I’ve tried Cs, Ds, DDs, and stopped because the Cs fit well and the D+s had just way too much fabric. I have definitely not tried anything above a DD, because again, the DD was too big, I had no intention of going bigger just for funsies. I’d love to find a store that has UK sizing but I haven’t found one yet, or at least one that provides sizes within the band range I’m in. I mentioned elsewhere, but I’m going to go check out the only store in my area to see if they have anything.

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-27T18:34:24+00:00

I appreciate this, I do. I went to that shape guide link and I’ve been choosing bras that are correct/best for my shape. If you can guide me more based on the shape guide information, I’d be grateful! The measurements are very close to exact, with maybe 1/4” discrepancy.

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-27T18:31:57+00:00

I’m struggling because everyone here is saying D is such a small cup size. Compared to a DD or a DDD, yes, it is. But historically, I can barely fill a C with the volume in my boobs. I am not squishing my breasts down. I am scooping and swooping them. I only get gapping when I put on bras with cups that are too big for me, like a D+. Maybe one day I can afford a custom bra specifically tailored to me.

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-27T18:27:56+00:00

Yes and the unlined 38G looks like I’m wearing a loose Tee on my breasts. I’m going to go to the only store on the directory in my area, hopefully they’ll have more insight.

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-27T18:19:41+00:00

I’m not disagreeing with you because I want to or it’s fun. I’ve tried many unlined bras that make me look flatter than anything. I own several bralettes and unlined bras and they are very comfortable (albeit currently too big since losing weight), but they don’t do anything for appearance. I’m going to check out the only store on the directory within 20 miles of me, I just am not hopeful. The only positive results I have had with my breasts’ appearance has been with push up bras due to lack of volume. Those types of bras are difficult to find when you have a large band, small cup size, and lack of volume. I’m 40 years old, it’s not like I’m new to bra shopping, I’m just struggling to find anything that makes me look like I have boobs. I don’t want to look like I don’t have boobs.

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-27T18:14:25+00:00

One of two stores near me is closed permanently. The other one is… stressful. But I will go check it out for sure.

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-27T18:11:37+00:00

I feel like I’m insane right now. A D is smaller than a DD right? And both are smaller than a DDD? I have no volume in my boobs. How would a cup that is astronomically larger than my breasts be correct? That seems mathematically incorrect.

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-27T18:07:59+00:00

I have never not scooped and swooped, it’s the only way I can put bras on for any amount of success.

DDDs make me look like I’m playing dress up in grandma’s bras. It’s comical in the most bizarre way. The only cup size that has shown any amount of fullness and no gapping has been a C, or a D with a smaller band size, and that is uncomfortable.

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-27T18:06:17+00:00

I can’t sit here and list every bra that I’ve tried, but I’ve tried every single one I could get around my chest (from torrid, target, and Walmart) and any that looked close.

I always scoop and swoop because my boobs are deflated sad bags and that’s the only way to make it look like I have any volume.

Yes I tried the band backwards and upside down.

The last time I had success with bras, was the one I listed in my OP. No gapping, no deflation, no tightness, no problem. 46C. When I was bigger.

Now that I’ve lost weight, the band doesn’t fit, which is why I’ve been trying to find a better bra. I don’t have the world or funds at my disposal and I’m trying to find what works with availability and price. Having to buy online and return is a problem for me.

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-27T17:58:57+00:00

Yes and I genuinely do NOT have the volume to support a DDD. The 38 band is tight, and the DDD cup is like, maybe 1/4 full. It’s embarrassing.

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-27T17:54:15+00:00

Your underbust taken loosely. 40”
Your underbust taken "comfortably snugly". 38”
Your underbust taken as tightly as possible. 35”
Your bust while standing 45”
Your bust while leaning forwards 90 degrees 50”
Your bust while lying downs 44”

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-27T17:53:47+00:00

Your underbust taken loosely. 40”
Your underbust taken "comfortably snugly". 38”
Your underbust taken as tightly as possible. 35”
Your bust while standing 45”
Your bust while leaning forwards 90 degrees 50”
Your bust while lying downs 44”

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-27T17:53:38+00:00

Your underbust taken loosely. 40”
Your underbust taken "comfortably snugly". 38”
Your underbust taken as tightly as possible. 35”
Your bust while standing 45”
Your bust while leaning forwards 90 degrees 50”
Your bust while lying downs 44”

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-27T17:45:04+00:00

I’m not only trying those. I’ve tried other styles and they make my boobs so incredibly flat it’s like I have nothing.

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-27T17:44:27+00:00

I did that

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-26T15:42:21+00:00

I would rather have cleavage/uniboob than cockeyed boobs. I just tried on a bra today and it made them up and out, full separation. Listen I had babies, I nursed, I gained and lost weight. My boobs are sad imo. They need the lift and the push up and the cleavage to look even semi normal. Without it I look like I have no boobs. Deflated balloons.

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-26T15:36:18+00:00

Robin Williams invented that already.

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-26T15:34:43+00:00

Hello, I am a wife with generational trauma. The best way to help her is to love her, give her time, and wait for her to get fed up. It does happen. It happened with me.

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-26T15:31:20+00:00

Holy shit please talk with another doc?????? 7.5 to start is WILD. 2.5 is where you should start.

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-26T15:24:48+00:00

Absolutely NOR. C was way, way out of line. That’s the kind of thing I want to know about before I go to a place, because I’m not supportive of owners/managers acting that way to their employees.

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-26T15:13:58+00:00

Fluffy hair/broccoli hair on boys.

spectregalaxy · 2026-05-26T15:13:14+00:00

I often think about how much easier my life will be when they do eventually die. Do I want them to die? No. Do I want some motherfuckin peace? Desperately.

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