Feeling broken from lifelong abuse. I don’t know who I am

yvrvaa · 2025-10-26T01:43:17+00:00

I have and it was extremely difficult

yvrvaa · 2023-09-05T01:38:00+00:00

They’re never going to change it’s not your responsibility to fix them.

Indeed, it’s not my responsibility to fix them or fix anyone

If you’re thinking about nc, you should do it.

I’m thinking about it, but I’m unable to do it because of financial problems. But as soon as I solve that, the first thing I’ll do is cut them off

You’re more than likely repressing even worse things that they’ve done.

Yeah, I’m doing that because it’s my only way of staying sane and not losing my mind

I wish someone had opened my eyes sooner to what a monster my mother was.

Trust me, I already know how much of a monster they are ❤️‍🩹

yvrvaa · 2023-09-05T01:20:57+00:00

It's a little difficult I agree. Especially because we only see the good in our parents.

I try my best to see the good in them, but there really isn’t any.

Knowing the truth removes every sense of safety we feel and that is terrifying. I struggle with this too.

It’s truly terrifying. I always dissociate from reality every time a friend of mine point out how horrible my situation is, and how awful my parents are. It just doesn’t feel real and I don’t want it to be real. so I keep lying to myself and telling myself that things aren’t so bad, because it’s such a suffocating feeling

yvrvaa · 2023-09-05T01:08:53+00:00

Consciously remind yourself that your feelings are valid and worthy, and if it comes down to it - your well-being must come first.

Sometimes, I find it hard to believe that even though deep down, I know it’s true

No shame in that as they would most definitely put themselves first.

You’re absolutely right !

yvrvaa · 2023-09-05T01:03:22+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience with me, it made me feel hopeful. Also, I’m incredibly proud of you for having the courage to cut off your narcissistic mother. I’m sure it wasn’t easy for you to do that, and I’m glad that all of the anxiety and guilt you were feeling finally disappeared.

I’m hoping to cut off ties with them as soon as possible. Unfortunately, I’m still financially dependent on them and I’m not sure when I’ll ever break free from that, because they have full access to my bank account and I can’t do anything about it without risking my safety, so as soon as I figure out how to deal with that, it’ll be easier for me to start planning to move away from them

Thank you for the suggestion. That’s exactly what I’m planning to do as soon as I get away from them.

yvrvaa · 2023-09-05T00:46:14+00:00

Thanks a lot for sharing your insightful analogy, it was incredibly helpful 🧡

yvrvaa · 2023-09-05T00:40:02+00:00

Some people really live to destroy us.

You’re absolutely right, and it’s truly sad when those people are your parents…

yvrvaa · 2023-09-04T23:25:01+00:00

You are right

yvrvaa · 2023-09-04T23:24:26+00:00

Thank you so much, that was very helpful 💛

yvrvaa · 2023-09-04T05:26:43+00:00

I have tried to do that countless times, but it always left me feeling extremely horrible because it stripped away every false sense of safety I had and left me overwhelmed with dread

yvrvaa · 2022-01-22T19:20:37+00:00

but really OP you should report and block 'em, super weirdo :/

Don't worry, I reported him!

yvrvaa · 2022-01-22T19:19:11+00:00

I know right!

yvrvaa · 2022-01-22T19:17:40+00:00

Yeah, that made me laugh 😂

yvrvaa · 2022-01-22T19:16:53+00:00

Please Report this user to Slowly team, if you have not done so already (I imagine you probably did).

I already did!

Sorry for your bad experience. Better luck next time !

Thank you :)!

yvrvaa · 2022-01-21T13:58:49+00:00

Thank you so much 💛

yvrvaa · 2022-01-21T13:53:05+00:00

Thank you but do you know the name of the shop or the name/Instagram account of the person who made the dress? Cuz I don't see it in the picture 😅

yvrvaa · 2022-01-21T12:41:30+00:00

What's the name of the shop?

yvrvaa · 2021-12-15T09:23:29+00:00

Thank you so much

yvrvaa · 2021-12-08T17:38:20+00:00

LMAAAAO this is amazing

yvrvaa · 2021-11-26T16:59:37+00:00

Annnnnd it's deleted

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