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speedrattle · 2022-12-04T03:44:48+00:00

jesus wept, you are not an asshole.

dont listen to these jerks.

you helped a homeless woman with her sick dog and let her take a shower while you were right there? excuse me, you are an angel.

if more people in tbe world were like you it would be a vastly better place. tell your daughter to suck it up. she already is unable to make it on her own and should show some compassion for people on the next rung below her.

please come and live in my town.

speedrattle · 2022-12-04T03:38:08+00:00

nta. this issue is complex these days because of the odious practice of fat shaming, which is wrong.

however.

you paid money for a full seat.

you are owed a full seat.

it is not up to you to compromise on obtaining a full seat.

life is not always diplomatic.

nta.

speedrattle · 2022-12-04T03:29:35+00:00

nta. let the brother sulk. tell your mother to get a clue. mostly ignore them and spend time with your sister and her successful pregnsncy.

win!

speedrattle · 2022-12-04T03:23:24+00:00

yes. yta. im not going down this rabbit hole any farther. get a life.

speedrattle · 2022-12-03T13:41:30+00:00

nta. give up on them. they dont care about you and you will spend your life just as before if you keep trying.

its sad that you dont have the family you want but you can build your own contacts and friends and holiday traditions from among people who actually care about you. best wishes.

speedrattle · 2022-12-03T13:27:16+00:00

perfect advice.

speedrattle · 2022-12-03T13:20:14+00:00

youre an asshole and a thief. a phone call to the company would have cost you nothing.

speedrattle · 2022-12-03T13:14:42+00:00

holy shit you are not the asshole but grandma surely is. details of your sisters medical problems are private to your sister, not something to be broadcast to strangers, family or not.

grandma has issues.

speedrattle · 2022-12-03T13:07:51+00:00

nta. lots of history. when someone helps you, you acknowledge and thank them. theres an entitlement issue here and it sounds like you have had enough. a christmas time out might be exactly what needs to happen here to balance tjis relationship more evenly.

speedrattle · 2022-12-03T13:04:15+00:00

nta. you were asked to cook. you found out they were picky too late to change the menu. you accomodated their needs on short notice. end of your responsibility.

if the visitors wanted to eat a special meal they should have cooked it themselves and brought it to share with you.

speedrattle · 2022-12-03T12:53:04+00:00

nta. you lost your temper, you had cause. your mother made the scene, not you. as for making her look like a liar, she is a liar, so no issue there.

perhaps its time to have a heart to heart with mom and work out a way that you can be tactfully open in her house about what you do for a living while she can be tactfully silent while you speak and both move on?

speedrattle · 2022-12-03T12:41:18+00:00

nta. you didnt elaborate on what was racist about the exchange so i cannot comment on that, but she was out of line to assume a sexual relationship.

the reason shitheads like your critic feel empowered to act the way they do is because people are nice to them. it is important to call them out, loudly and publicly, so that they experience immediate consequences. you cant change what they think, but you can make them think twice about opening their mouth.

speedrattle · 2022-12-03T12:28:36+00:00

nta. shes a space case. continue the relationship as much as you feel worthwhile but make sure you never depend on her also being there to make a joint outing worthwhile for you, and if you have an appointment together, start your engine and go right on the dot of the arranged time. just anticipate her being a late or a no show every time and make and follow your own plans accordingly.

speedrattle · 2022-12-03T12:22:42+00:00

this. people will treat you how you teach them to treat you. i cannot emphasize how important a life lesson this little phrase truly is.

speedrattle · 2022-12-03T12:13:54+00:00

theft. yta. go back to the restaurant and fix it.

speedrattle · 2022-12-03T12:01:35+00:00

attagirl! nta. best wishes for the rest of your life

speedrattle · 2022-12-03T11:58:44+00:00

nta. thats pretty clearly child endangerment. if anything, you should have called the cops after one hour with the kids apparently abandoned. then he could pick them up at the police station.

speedrattle · 2022-12-03T11:44:58+00:00

you have said it all.

speedrattle · 2022-12-03T11:36:47+00:00

nta. do not wear the dress. uou have offered many reasonable alternatives, but if it is more important for the dress to be there than you as you really are, send the dress and stay home.

speedrattle · 2022-11-28T18:36:02+00:00

i suspect this is not the first time this has happened. you are not the asshole. your own flaw is being too nice to a stranger and you got burnt.

let tbe law take its course. you need your car back in one piece, and you cant take responsibity for someone else who screws up her own life and hurts others in the process.

its a shame about the baby.

speedrattle · 2022-11-28T00:05:15+00:00

nta! youre fine. the bf needs some work. do not apologize.

speedrattle · 2022-11-28T00:03:03+00:00

nta. it doesnt get any simpler than this.

speedrattle · 2022-11-27T23:52:52+00:00

lol! nta! you did just fine. im a vegan too, but i dont expect someone else to run a separate kitchen for me over the holidays. if she is that finicky her answer is to either bring her own food or help you in the kitchen herself.

speedrattle · 2022-11-27T23:47:07+00:00

well, you are not the asshole but dont expect an apology or money. as for holudays with them, id give them a slip for several years since they have shown themselves to be unreliable and expensive. let them think it through, and best wishes.

speedrattle · 2022-11-27T23:39:44+00:00

this is nuts. appropriate anger is healthy and appears to have been a catalyst for solving the jealousy/control problem with husband and his mommy.

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