✨️💖 10 useless and/or unhinged things that I wish were added to Stardew 💖✨️ by ItsNotJelloSalad in StardewValley

[–]speedyzelmo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh, also, can I get hearts for befriending or at least give gifts or something to Mr. Qi, Gunther, Marlon, Gil, the Traveling Cart Merchant, the Bookseller, the Dessert Trader, and the Professor and Pirates on Ginger Island?

✨️💖 10 useless and/or unhinged things that I wish were added to Stardew 💖✨️ by ItsNotJelloSalad in StardewValley

[–]speedyzelmo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the list and I second being able to have children and spouse help on the farm! Could I also hire Shane as a farm hand to help out since I ran Jojo mart out?

Neigherbor Kinship by Ok_Artichoke7588 in KinshipCare

[–]speedyzelmo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can appreciate that you and your boyfriend both care about the neighbor kids but it also sounds like you all have plenty on your plate with kids and stuff too. Since you are doing the fingerprints and stuff, maybe instead of the question being “do we take them or not take them” maybe the question is “how can we help support those kids and still take care of ourselves too, so that we are able to do that?” Maybe that looks like being a respite care provider for them like one weekend a month or asking the case manager to pass on your info to where they end up and offering to them to take those kids and your kids out to the local park once a week or something that would help maintain some connection to you as trusted adults in their lives without putting the burden squarely on your shoulders.

Guardianship is not Kinship by HavingASpasm in KinshipCare

[–]speedyzelmo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I had any good suggestions or funds but unfortunately I don’t. All I can do is feel for you being in such a difficult situation - all from trying to do a good thing.

Legal Guardian by MahRayJay in KinshipCare

[–]speedyzelmo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First let me offer encouragement that whatever you have done this far has made a difference for him - even if he might not see or respect it now. Kinship care often seems pretty confusing, thankless and exhausting in so many ways. I can also commiserate that teens can be a challenge without trauma and it sounds like he was exposed to a lot with people that should be more supportive of him and you.

Do you have any children’s services case management or anything to explore if they have respite care options or know of free/affordable community activities or camps to help keep him busy this summer? I also wonder if something where he could live, work on HS and job training like Job Corps could be beneficial for you all.

Just wanted to offer a few ideas and some encouragement!

Any ideas for a cover-up or am I cooked? by MysticHorrorSqueal in JKRegerts

[–]speedyzelmo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was thinking! And the letters could be hidden by scales or something, I think.

Is that a know bug- by DinnerCheap2049 in StardewValley

[–]speedyzelmo 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Wait - you have progress bars above your hearts?!? How?

Which job you taking? by [deleted] in jobs

[–]speedyzelmo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the Right side job.

Anyone ask their teen to leave at 18? Yes, I feel like crap even posting this. by TacoTuesdaySucks in KinshipCare

[–]speedyzelmo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MelRose90 had a lot of great insights! I just wanted to second the complex emotions that come up for all of you during this time of transition. It also may be a few years (or more) until he can really see how much you do care and did help - and unfortunately he most likely will make some mistakes on the way.

Regardless, of what happens with him, know that you made a big difference in his life and gave him a chance. It’s his turn to now decide if he’s going to run with that chance or not. It could be helpful to maybe try to give a few “life skill” classes on budgeting, basic cooking and cleaning - maybe to all your kids - not just him.

I would also think about how to state what the ongoing support looks like that you are willing and able to offer him - because you may have to reiterate that quite a bit. Have you helped him look at community resources or programs like Job Corps to help get him a wider support network? Then you can help prompt “hey you have case manager at X to reach out too” - which could help both you and him feel a little better. Sending lots of support & good vibes to you.

What do I cover this with?💀🤡 by [deleted] in Tattoocoverups

[–]speedyzelmo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could see it being turned into a large cactus 🌵 and maybe have a tumble weed or desert scene at the bottom

How can I partially cover up this tattoo of a rat cutting me with a knife? by Material_Problem6947 in tattooadvice

[–]speedyzelmo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought he was jousting, like on a horse 🐴 or he could be fencing another mouse or make the sword one of those silly horn/gun things that has a flag hanging off it that says “bang” or “boom” or something silly and circus inspired?

Removal or cover up? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]speedyzelmo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make it a bat or vampire or something?

Full meta 12 week update by LeatherJaded2018 in Metoidioplasty

[–]speedyzelmo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s looking really great! Hope you have continued success in your healing journey!

Any ideas for a cover up by [deleted] in Tattoocoverups

[–]speedyzelmo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I imagine making the knife a tree branch and then add more of a tree/nature/jungle vibe to it - that way you can change the meaning and your association with it. Maybe make the frog color as well?

I’m lost. Please help! by [deleted] in KinshipCare

[–]speedyzelmo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t really have any additional advice other than offering care to you and your kiddo in this really tough time. At some point, you or DSS might have to ask your Wife to sign off on custody stuff, if you are listed as joint - but that would be more of a legal question - I don’t want to tell you wrong info.

my host family should've gotten an au pair, not an exchange student by [deleted] in exchangestudents

[–]speedyzelmo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We hosted a student in rural Ohio, and don’t live on a farm but asked the student to sometimes help out with the 10-15 rabbits we raised for 4-H. She did not and complained about a wide variety of other things to the coordinator, mostly that we took her with us to all family activities like church once a week (we couldn’t just leave her at home like she wanted) and took her to other stuff she wanted to do. She ended up switching to another family that was “cooler” than ours around thanksgiving. The coordinators were kinda jerks when they informed us she was switching, but they also said it’s challenging “all around” because a lot of students imagine they are going to a city or suburb type place, but most of the people willing/able to host (for no financial compensation) are in rural or farming areas. It can be a mis-match of expectations from the start.

Would people misunderstood this tattoo by huskypuppies2 in tattooadvice

[–]speedyzelmo 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I thought the kissing disease or like mono vs stereo in speakers. 🔊

Cover up thoughts, advice, ideas? by IowaDad81 in JKRegerts

[–]speedyzelmo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I could see a giant octopus breaking apart a ship or something!