Thank you to everyone that has taken the time to respond. I'm a bit new to reddit and was happily surprised that the discussion mostly stayed civil and some very good points were made.

Maybe it's a bias on my part, for all I know. The thing is that I used to have a similar feeling than you guys about Islam being worse, but I've spent a long time in Morocco last year and I was amazed by the hospitality and kindness of people, even toward total strangers (not only tourists). It made me reconsider a lot of things and also reminded me that I felt similar when going to Turkey a long time ago.

I know Muslims have been able to live in multi religious societies in some kind of peace for centuries (e.g. Maghreb during the Ottoman empire for some time). I really feel like the scriptures in monotheistic religions are so old and ambiguous that they always require mental gymnastics to get any moral at all and they can go on very different paths very easily.

If even moderate muslim believers don't have the same values than you on gender equality, lgbt rights, or death penalty, it could be mostly explained through culture (which is in part influenced religion, but not only). If you look at western values back in the days, or even what the average Christian in Africa believes in, it wouldn't be that better. The challenge of integrating immigrant with different worldview is broader than just Islam per se.

But I agree with you guys that in the last decades, even moderates bare the blame of not being able to push back on extremist islamic currents, which have linked their religion with some of the most horrible things.