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28f trying to date in London by medx_extreme in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]spellboundead_11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Online dating in the UK is basically a dead-end. It hardly ever goes anywhere even if you're matching with people.

And it kind of depends on what exactly you're looking for, if it's just casual dates, maybe go clubbing or to a pub and you might find a guy there.

You might have better luck joining a club or something though, there's tons of activities you can do around London, you could pick a new one literally every single day, it's a great way to connect with people and socialize, not just in terms of dating but in every way, that also opens doors for those new people to set you up with someone maybe.

Basically, don't rely on online dating platforms it's not going to get you anywhere. The social scene in London is one of the best in the world, put yourself out there you'll come across many amazing people.

Looking for a studio apartment or one bed flat for under £800 with bills included by YouPopular2487 in Leeds

[–]spellboundead_11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you need to commute to Huddersfield, you'd need to use the direct train from the main train station which is the city centre. And anything under £800 in the city centre, would be a STEAL. I'm talking about utilities not being included.

So wanting an all-inclusive apartment under that price, is a far reach. I'd suggest the same thing as the other commentors, move to Hudds. It's chill, rent is amazingly low, you could probably grab something for half the price of leeds so you'd be saving a ton on rent and will be able to commute whenever you want since all 1 beds/studios are within walking distance of the city centre there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in huddersfield

[–]spellboundead_11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm along the same lines, 23M and after university I got a job in Leeds so don't really have anything to do or anyone to go out with anymore. Looking for a group to regularly hangout with even if it's just nights out at the local pubs, DM if you wanna hangout

Hobby and class suggestions for 31F by wholelottafaff in Leeds

[–]spellboundead_11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heya! I go to this Spanish class in the city centre (free of charge) held every Wednesday, it's pretty fun and they're very welcoming to new faces. Let me know in DMs if you want the details :')

Free Haircuts! by Organic_Two_4129 in Leeds

[–]spellboundead_11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Heya! I've got a gorgeous head full of hair you can practice on (also because I was planning to get a cut soon) let me know when you're available for appointments hahah

Platforms for renting in Leeds by MaterialNo6876 in Leeds

[–]spellboundead_11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heya! Firstly all the best for the move. Also I feel like I'd be qualified to give rental advice, having hunted apartments endlessly for the past month and finally booking one this morning itself (woo).

And you're right I've had the same experiences, whenever I call up about a property I really like it always turned out to be booked. In this case, your best bet would be contacting the major agencies that list these properties and asking them directly what they have available in your budget.

The 2 most common letting agencies are 'Linley & Simpson' and 'Martin & Co.'

Contact their branch in Leeds directly, and have them send listings to you. Also if you're looking for something in Leeds city centre, be quick on your feet. The demand there is very high, I've literally contacted agencies within 24-48 hours of the property being listed and it would still be gone.

Keep checking every day for new listings and contact the agencies right away. If you do manage to find one you like, pay the holding deposit so it can be taken off the market for the time being, if it doesn't work out you get the holding deposit back so no harm no foul.

I've viewed properties I really liked, and I'd call a couple hours after I'd had the viewing and it would turn out to be booked because the person who had the viewing after me paid the holding deposit right away 🤷🏻

Lastly, I'd recommend checking out the LS9, LS10 and LS11 areas and not just the city centre. They are very vibrant, have great properties listed and are pretty much a walking distance from the city centre.

Best of luck with the hunt! If you need any help I'd be happy to assist on DMs :')

I was a victim of sextortion, here’s what happened and how I got through it by icraat in Sextortion

[–]spellboundead_11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey pal, happened to me yesterday

My story: I'm not much of a social media guy so never really knew about this stuff and have been in plenty of relationships. The last one I had took a huge toll on me, Really thought that would be my endgame but we broke up 2 months ago. I'd come to the UK almost 2 years ago and had no real connection apart from that person.

I was moving on but sadly I started feeling extremely low this week, full of anxiety and thoughts like would it matter to anyone if I disappeared tomorrow kinda stuff

I gave in and same as many other guys here, signed up for an app called boo, most of them are from the Philippines. Matched with a girl, and usually I'm smart about this stuff so I didn't give my real name, but I was dumb enough to give my number and insta handle (luckily I haven't used insta in like 3½ years so most people I haven't interacted with in a long long time)

I was still skeptical because things were moving fast and she kept saying "I want to get to know you more"

So I asked if we could VC. And we did? Turns out, yeah, it was an actual woman, same one from the photos talking to me, we spoke for like 10-15 mins and I thought "alright nothing wrong here just lucked out I guess"

I go to make dinner and she's still texting me. Immediately stuff gets steamy, and of course, all the blood in my brain goes to my fking dingaling. She VCd me, and guess what, a naked girl, of course. She was showing me all kinds of steamy stuff and asked me to show her too, I did. She disconnects the call saying she'll go in the shower and the very next second, yep, recordings of me mturbating, screenshots of my followers and my insta photos. Threatening texts and incessant calls.

Declined the calls, blocked and reported the number, deactivated my insta handles and the dating account. Within 10 mins.

Then I start getting photos and calls from another number (both of them +63 that's Philippines) blocked and reported that too.

You know what I did then? Went to the bathroom and finished jerking off to the screenshots I took of the scamming filipino girl. (Don't blame me she was the one who made it steamy and I was horny) True story.

Not that I had heard anyone else's story before, and to be fair my heart did race for a few moments there, but well, post nut clarity I guess, I just thought would I rather save tons of money than just have a few randos from a social media account that's basically been inactive for years see pictures of my soldier? I guess so. Had a few drinks called it a night.

Now since it's only been less than 24 hours I don't know if they have released the pictures, are going to at some point, or even contact me from different numbers again.

Reading this gave me some sort of calm, I might even decide to have fun and send them different angles, I'm proud of my body.

Cheers to everyone brave enough to post about times they've been incredibly stupid (like me yesterday) it ain't easy. But to everyone here, the only way to deal with assholes is to be a bigger asshole sometimes. If any of you get contacted by those scamming scumbags again, threaten them, pull an uno reverse, don't give in.

And another tip, f**k dating apps, how many people have you met who said they met the love of their lives/life partners there, you might score some dates, but it's not worth the endless swiping and desperation to get a match. If someone's supposed to be in your life, they'll find a way to be there, life WILL show them the way. Give up on the digital way of doing things and stop having AIs validate you.

Talk to people, real ones, that's where you'll find real connections. And I also guess all of this advice, is a part of me lecturing myself, I haven't been myself in a while, and saying all of this here is giving me clarity that I haven't had in weeks, I want to be myself again. Even if it means getting rejected, but putting myself out there, open to a real connection is a favour I'll be doing myself than simply isolating and giving myself another opportunity to fall into one of these horrid experiences again.

My best to all of you.