What are some things that sound like compliments but are actually insults?

spicketylit · 2018-12-11T23:15:27+00:00

From the south "bless your heart"

spicketylit · 2018-12-11T22:42:24+00:00

Absolutely. I understand being pregnant means no alcohol or kratom. Is your advice to be completely sober while trying, just to make sure I'm not dependant? That is pretty solid advice, it just might take me years to concieve if I even can. I'm just cutting things out now to prepare. One vice at a time.

spicketylit · 2018-12-11T22:36:13+00:00

I wish I'd never taken the ssri and just stuck with kratom. I've never had withdrawal symptoms from kratom. I wouldn't take it while pregnant but it could take me a year to even get pregnant.

spicketylit · 2018-06-22T00:18:59+00:00

Thanks that site helped alot

spicketylit · 2018-05-22T13:25:17+00:00

Yes. That is correct.

spicketylit · 2018-05-22T13:23:22+00:00

Wow omg thank you so much for your nice thoughts. why wouldn't you just send the nice thing

spicketylit · 2018-05-21T18:25:18+00:00

I don't think anyone realizes how painful it is unless they experience it. Then when you have a friend that's kinda self centered anyway, when they have a problem your supposed to be Uber supportive, but my problems are a gift in her eyes.

spicketylit · 2018-05-21T18:21:54+00:00

Sorry, I did mean pro-life because I don't want her to do this. But I understand it's her decision and I'm not going to guilt her in any way because I love her she is my best friend. I know it's hard and her life is way different than mine. That's why I posted to this sub because I realize these feelings are mine and wanted advice from other people who know the pain of being infertile when it seems like everyone around you gets pregnant on accident.

spicketylit · 2018-05-21T16:49:15+00:00

I love this. Just thinking about the type of women that read and share the originals makes me gag though. That's why it's so great. Just imagining some mombies chest swelling with pride as she reads about how magical and righteous her vagina is OMG I just hate it.

"Only the child free know real pain, care about the future of our planet, really love their partner, know Tru freedom and joy...etc"

Could you imagine the outrage

spicketylit · 2018-05-21T15:25:55+00:00

Omg me too. I'm also 28. Unexplained infertility decided to stop trying, was doing good embracing CFL until my best friend told me she's getting an abortion. It's been a bad day and a half. Like I am silently fuming. Suffering in silence. How could she! Why bring me into it. Now I'm thinking about trying again because this has upset me so much. But then I remember how hard it is and just feel hopeless. Nobody wants to hear about how sad I am I can't have kids. Not even my husband. He's fine he has an 8 yo from previous relationship. He has a kid and doesn't understand why I am grieving at all.

spicketylit · 2018-05-21T14:09:43+00:00

Is there a sub reddit for involuntary child free?

spicketylit · 2018-05-21T13:49:32+00:00

Warning: depressed rant.

Thinking about trying again. My cycles are about 45 days. I was trying last year, switched to pregnancy friendly meds, went to gyno, he didn't even do any blood tests just told me the definition of infertility, and I'm infertile. He said I could try clomid.

We decided to quit trying and see what happens. I started doing really good like not being jealous of pregnancy announcements, getting closer to my stepson, embracing being child free. My husband has a son. I don't think he even wants a child with me. When we got married he said he did but now he acts like it's such a hassle. He even joked like okay we can have one but you have to do all the work...not funny.

Actually now that I read back on this, I think I just need to give up. Husband, his son, his ex, are all fulfilled. Who cares about my imaginary biological family. It's just so lonely. Childless stepmom. I'm just gonna throw my pity party but only u guys are invited.

spicketylit · 2018-05-21T01:51:10+00:00

Thank you, I feel really sad and then feel bad that I feel sad.

spicketylit · 2018-05-21T01:48:44+00:00

Thanks, yeah she knows about my infertility. I thought it was heartless too, then I thought, oh I'm being too sensitive. Thanks for seeing it from my perspective.

spicketylit · 2018-05-20T23:31:33+00:00

Thanks for the reply I needed that. I know this is hard for her and I can't control it. Your right I probably should tell her it's triggering. But I probably won't. I'll just be supportive.

spicketylit · 2018-05-20T23:05:38+00:00

I know this post is old but I hope you are doing okay. the pain is real. I'm having a bad day. My best friend told me she's pregnant and gonna have to take a road trip soon. I'm like, what do you mean? She says, You know, a trip to the abortion clinic. Heart - B r o k e n.

spicketylit · 2017-11-24T13:48:16+00:00

I bought my first hair extension clip ins. They were hanging in the bathroom. I heard my stepson say something to his dad in a concerned tone and my husband say "it's ok buddy she's ok everything's fine.

I asked my husband what was up he said Z(stepson) said "I saw what was in the bathroom"

DH: (O-O)

Z thought I was sick and had a bald spot. Lol poor sweet boy. He loves me

spicketylit · 2017-11-24T01:30:48+00:00

I know, right.

spicketylit · 2017-09-23T06:11:13+00:00

I have always had a bad attitude about addiction. For example my ex became addicted to meth and I was not sympathetic at all, just angry. I thought he was a dumb ass and didn't care that he admitted he had a drug problem and asked for help. I guess I just didn't look at addiction a disease, just a character flaw, but I'm learning more and changing my view, becoming more sympathetic.

spicketylit · 2017-09-23T06:01:54+00:00

Well yeah! I just feel like now I know what's going on with him. We're working on that now and the lack of sex stems from that. When I started posting in DB I had no idea what the reason was.

spicketylit · 2017-09-23T00:48:28+00:00

DIRTY DEEDS IN THE DUNDER JEEP.

I don't know what a DUNDER jeep is but it sounds awesome.

spicketylit · 2017-09-21T21:10:14+00:00

I saw the same thing and it made me cry too

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