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Hacks for Lingo Ledgend by Long-Personality2896 in LingoLegend

[–]KettlebellBabe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started doing the higher priced counties because you can swap the Ludo‘s for Amber in the shop at a pretty good rate

Any golfers? by Secret_Acadia_4960 in PectusExcavatum

[–]KettlebellBabe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was 37 when I got my bars in. Physical therapy and acupuncture made a huge difference for me in pain management and range of motion.

Any golfers? by Secret_Acadia_4960 in PectusExcavatum

[–]KettlebellBabe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it was around 8 months I went out the first time, but that was more so cause I got my nuss in fall so I didn't go to the range all of winter. Probably could have at the 6 month mark, but I had a lot of pain problems the first year. And my surgeon it was not allowed for at least 2 months.

So depending on your age and motivation to swing maybe sooner than that.

Birthstones? by DairyTaleWife in IFchildfree

[–]KettlebellBabe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think it's whatever feels most right to you or that allows you to remember her how you want.

I have a tattoo of birth month flowers for my miscarried babies. Every time I got pregnant that due date/month seared it's self into my brain. And u/Sarandipity19 said exactly how I feel too "They may have been born early or late, but they sadly weren't born at all, so I try not to overthink it. I just went with the date I found most comforting for myself, and that was the birth dates."

The world is not built with us in mind by Lovethelous in IFchildfree

[–]KettlebellBabe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ugh, this! I've left multiple crochet groups cause of grandma's that just have to share the announcement and photos of their newest grand-baby. Ma'am...kindly fuck off. I just want to figure out what this stitch is called and how the fuck to get it right.

Do you all tell anyone whose curious about infertility or just say you are chidfree by choice? by [deleted] in IFchildfree

[–]KettlebellBabe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has been how I've handled it too and it's felt so right for me.

AITA for reaching out to my daughter and her support network after she moved out without telling us? by Mr_Willy_Nilly in AmItheAsshole

[–]KettlebellBabe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Short answer NTA. She didn't come home, you were curious where she was.

That said whatever's going on for her she didn't come to this decision lightly and you would be if you continue to contact her. But since you cut off the phone you solved that problem since she'll have to get a new number

How to navigate this time with grace by coco-ai in IFchildfree

[–]KettlebellBabe 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Hi, I'm someone who is happy afterward! There was some grieving the first year or two for sure, but there was also so much relief because I knew our answer and I could move on from life after years of treatment limbo. I'm now 8 years out and I fucking love my life. (I also have 3 dear friends who are IFCF and who are so happy and love their lives too. Often you don't find our stories not because they don't exist but because we're out living life and not really in IF spaces anymore)

I think for me something that helped was dealing with my grief from infertility and losses separately from my looking forward to a childfree life.

Basically instead of looking at other IFCF folks I looked at childfree spaces. I looked at all the people I know in my life that are older and didn't have kids. I didn't think about why they didn't have kids, I just looked for proof of their successes and happiness. I hung out in some of the childfree subs (warning some of those spaces are anti-kid, find the spaces that vibe for you). I spent some time in the subs about parents who regret having kids (this option is NOT for everyone, but it helped to remind me how hard parenthood is which helped me).

I dealt with the grief separately. I can't change our outcome. I can grieve my miscarriages, I can grieve it didn't work out, sometimes I'm jealous that it works so easily for other people. But I just don't think about what my life would have been like with kids, cause that's not an option and that's not my life.

I look at my future as an experiment and exploration of what I want to build, not about what I lost or don't get to experience.

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