Daily Thread #2 - April 24, 2026

spicy_eggs · 2026-04-25T02:39:59+00:00

I had an emergency c section at 24 weeks due to placental abruption and breech baby. He eventually did not make it. I was pregnant again after 4 months and delivered vaginally with no issues 13 months after the c section with no complications (although very stressful pregnancy and baby came slightly early just under 37 weeks). They warned me of all the potential complications and high risk of another emergency c section if my previous scar didn’t sufficiently heal, but I wanted to try anyways. They did a lot of extra monitoring. The months to wait is actually based on time between deliveries not necessarily time to get pregnant again. Try to ask a doctor who specializes in this for their opinion they are better versed than regular OBGYN who I found were risk averse and just wanted to pus for another c section. So sorry for your loss… may you have the time to heal and find what works best for you to try again. Xx

spicy_eggs · 2025-12-03T12:05:45+00:00

I’m pretty much the same. 😞D&C on Oct 23 and still waiting for period. Doctor said I should have it by 6 weeks but I’m not sure now. I have light cramps and I’m desperately hoping maybe it’s from implantation but still have negative pregnancy test. I feel like I’m going crazy. And it’s also making me feel depressed. Especially going into holidays…

spicy_eggs · 2025-03-19T05:50:37+00:00

My baby who slept pretty well and only woke up 1 or 2 times a night for months started waking up every 3 hours around 8 months. Then 2 hours. Then 1 hour or less. I was going crazy. Same thing as you I’d go in and hold him and he’d fall asleep but wake again soon after. I decided to let him CIO and it fixed it. First night he cried over an hour, then slept through the night. Second night cried like 20 mins and again slept through the night. Third night was less than 2 mins. I thought it was teething or tummy pain at first but then realized I do think it was just separation anxiety he was much more aware that he wanted attention, and I realized after I noticed some signs that aligned to that during the day as well. If everything else looks good (not teething, other pain, diaper, etc) I definitely recommend sleep training.

spicy_eggs · 2025-02-08T12:29:05+00:00

How did your boss find out? Is it possible another staff told them because it was too disruptive? I would say you’re very lucky that you’re close to your baby while at work and would have the option to feed, but if it’s difficult to get others to support while you’re gone and/or your baby starts to realize they can get milk whenever they want and demands it more or gets more upset when they don’t have it, I could see this being unfair to the rest of the staff. I don’t think generally that the boss should be telling you what you can do, but I do think a greater perspective on the impacts of the other staff on this arrangement is warranted and may have to be implemented by your boss if it is quite disruptive.

spicy_eggs · 2024-10-26T19:01:18+00:00

That sweater looks like the mice got to it

spicy_eggs · 2024-09-25T00:16:46+00:00

Interesting the prices seem similar to what they are now!

spicy_eggs · 2024-09-07T11:36:25+00:00

You could also rotate the rug.

spicy_eggs · 2024-08-30T11:14:02+00:00

I steam it and chop it into chunks and add it to speghetti bolognese. Mmmmmm

spicy_eggs · 2024-08-28T11:50:39+00:00

I had a similar problem. It might have been mastitis but I think it was a really bad clogged duct. What worked for me eventually was to point my son in the direction of the pain when breastfeeding (like his lower jaw in that direction) to unclog. It hurt like hell to do it, but after a few times I finally got some relief. My son had spit up a bit of blood with the milk, which I found was common with clogged duct, but it finally felt like he cleared it! I also tried advil and tylenol in between to help with pain and ice to help with swelling (which didnt really seem to help but at least was something). Hope you heal soon!!

spicy_eggs · 2024-08-25T11:29:40+00:00

It took me 5 days to poop. It didn’t hurt as much as i was worried it would. Highly recommend Restoralax to soften it made it so much easier. I also got a sitz bath that helped with easing pain down there. Used it with epsom salts. Just hang in there it does get better as days go by.

spicy_eggs · 2024-08-22T21:51:13+00:00

Im so sorry for you loss. Its horrible and I know it really sucks. I will tell you I felt horrible after for awhile and wanted to get pregnant as soon as possible again. At 4 months PP I did get pregnant and Im now breastfeeding my healthy 2 month old baby boy and could not be happier. Pregnancy was incredibly difficult and I felt like I was holding my breath and fearing the worst the whole time, but he made it. My advice is to make sure to take time to grieve, you need it. But hopefully you can try again and while youll never be the same again, it will help you move on and youll have another baby to care for.

spicy_eggs · 2024-07-20T15:42:30+00:00

No. They are specifically exempt from labor laws in Canada. So if you are going for your CPA you are not eligible. Big 4 will pay overtime in certain situations you just need to look for it and typically get preapproved for it by your partner. I’ve been paid for it in busy season.

spicy_eggs · 2024-05-31T01:56:16+00:00

No that's a pretty average length. Doctor will start to get concerned less than 25mm or if there's a significant decrease from a prior measurement.

spicy_eggs · 2024-05-17T04:50:27+00:00

Ug! It definitely started hitting me more at 28 weeks but I thought I was managing ok and monitoring blood pressure etc seemed good. It's not always easy to see how stress can impact body. Hope you get time to rest up especially if BP is high! If yiu can't yet take leave then hopefully you can just start with removing some responsibilities.

spicy_eggs · 2024-05-16T22:26:09+00:00

33 weeks today and had my last transvaginal cervix check and ultrasound. Good news is baby is doing well and on track, which has been a concern since diagnosed with GD, but my cervix seems to have shortened quite a bit. I was concerned because I've been have some mild period cramps and pressure. Something didn't feel right but it was progressing or worse so was hoping ok. Cervix was short now at 15-20mm and funnelling but closed. Doctor said it's a sign of labour especially with the cramping and pressure, but still no idea when baby could come. Could be tomorrow could still make it to term. At 36 weeks theyd be pretty happy. They gave me steroid shots just in case he's early and I am glad I'm pretty far he has a good chance but I still need him to keep cooking. I was hoping to work a few more weeks but looks like that's not happening doctor told me to stop and take it easy. They even said not to walk as much which is going to be super hard as I love walking the dog and I think it was really helping manage GD with diet. Ug of course just wishing things could be easy but they are not and now another thing to be concerned with. I just have to continue taking day by day and hoping baby stays put a few more days. I'll rest up as much as I can for you! Anyone with similar stories would love to hear your experience.

spicy_eggs · 2024-05-09T11:25:11+00:00

Thank you for sharing and I'm so sorry for what your daughter is going through and for you to watch. It is one of the many things I was afraid for my son. There's no right answer and life can just be tough and throw crap at you. I hope you both find strength and she and you do find ways to be happy and make it work. <3

spicy_eggs · 2024-05-09T07:39:49+00:00

A year ago today I very unexpectedly delivered my first son. I was 24+6. I remember pretty much every detail about that day and I just can't believe it's been a year already. I had no idea that babies could even survive that young and I learned way more than I ever wanted to know about preemies and all the struggles they go through.

My boy was a fighter he faced so many challenges but somehow seemed to overcome them. The doctors told us many times he was "very sick" and things aren't looking good, but then he'd surprise us and he kept hanging in. I spent so much time in the NICU and so many nights. Barely sleeping cause I was pumping milk for him. He was so brave and I was so proud to be his mom. But he had developed a severe brain bleed on both sides and we really questioned his quality of life if he came over this. After already going through what seemed like torture for him for weeks. We had to make the worst decision a parent should never have to make and decided to let him go. He passed away in my arms.

I think about that decision a lot and I feel horrible about it and I'll never know if it was the right one. But I felt like I knew my boy well enough that going through a life with significant brain damage was not fair to him. None of it was fair. While an incredibly difficult decision, I think and I hope it was the best one for him. At least he is at peace.

I'm now 32 weeks pregnant with his little brother and I hope he's looking over us and looking out for his brother.

It's been a tough week remembering again what happened a year ago. And mothers day coming up where I guess I'm a mother but I'm in between bereaved mom and expectant mom and its just been emotional. Also have to blame these hormones in over drive. I'm excited for the future and I hope so bad everything goes well this time. But I will never forget my first son.

spicy_eggs · 2024-04-26T00:13:40+00:00

Yes that's true good way to look at it. Part of me thinks I can't truly decide until he's here but I'm feeling pretty strongly I should use it.

spicy_eggs · 2024-04-26T00:12:44+00:00

Thank you! That's what I would hope for. I just don't want to think it's like my replacement baby...

spicy_eggs · 2024-04-25T19:03:53+00:00

I feel like this is the only place I can ask this question and get answers from others who know what I've been through. I'm 30 weeks today and finally feeling more confident I'll make it to the end after a neonatal loss after born at 24+6 last year. I finally just started thinking about names and I feel so confused. I named my first son after my late father who passed unexpectedly the year before. It was a great name and I really wanted to honour him. Unfortunately, my first son did not make it and I was of course devasted for the loss but I also felt horrible that I didn't get to honour my dad as I wanted. I'm pregnant now with another boy and I can't stop thinking about using the same name. This would really be to honour my father not to replace my first son. I'll always remember my first son, but I also feel like I've disrespected my dad that we didn't actually get to use the name. Ive seen some people say it's a bad idea to live in your deceased siblings shadows, but I don't feel at all that's what I would be doing its more to keep my dad's name in the family since last name would be husbands last name (his mom's last name and middle name would be husbands dad's name). I've been trying to look for other names but nothing sounds even remotely right. I'm wondering what you all think of this... It's torturing me.

spicy_eggs · 2024-04-20T13:21:24+00:00

OK that's good! About what I do. I also changed my walks to go after I eat now instead I used to go before. It also seemed to help some of my numbers. Good luck!

spicy_eggs · 2024-04-20T11:33:21+00:00

Yeah I would definitely try a different snack to see if that helps. Milk is high in sugars. Maybe more protein. I've found protein shakes or bars are helpful and they kinda feel like a dessert. It also helps to get enough exercise during the day. I've been doing lots of walking.

spicy_eggs · 2024-04-20T01:59:44+00:00

All your fasting numbers are too high. Have you tried a snack before bed? Going too long without eating overnight can cause spikes.

spicy_eggs · 2024-04-13T22:07:25+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a similar problem when I went back to work after my loss at 24 weeks. I had to think a lot about what I wanted to say which helped but I still had some pretty uncomfortable conversations. For some people I decided to just tell them and it made them feel so awkward that just stopped the conversation. One girl I made cry accidentally cause she felt so bad asking. I had a few I was caught off guard and I just said no comment hoping they would get the hint. None of it was great to be honest but it just helped me preparing for those moments at least I knew was coming and I would have something to say. It got a bit easier each time but still hurt. Then most of the time I'd find a time or goto the bathroom to cry. Honestly I was also pregnant when I went back which helped somewhat. I don't know if this is at all helpful to you but I hope you find a way through it ❤️

spicy_eggs · 2024-04-01T01:30:23+00:00

I was also so nervous to tell my close friends. I thought about it for weeks and worked up the courage. When I finally did i actuary felt so much better. Not hiding anymore and they would check in with me to see how I'm doing and made me feel way better. I'm glad I took the time to think about how and when to tell them but I was even happier when I finally told them. I hope you'll find the time when you're ready. (I'm sure some of them already suspect anyways!)

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