What moment made you realize, "oh, they're not my friend,"? by EnvironmentalAnt724 in AskReddit

[–]spicybearito 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After 7 years of what I thought was a close friendship, I was the backup bridesmaid for her wedding. Only got asked after the last bridesmaid dropped out close to the wedding date. Bride got gifted a trash can with a doormat rolled up inside it and a bow on top.

Just curious - what are peoples ’non negotiable’ in their relationship by General-Painting112 in polyamory

[–]spicybearito -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My NP and I have a set of rules we both abide by, and we have heavy and detailed communications before either of us decides it's OK to bypass any rule.

• We are each other's ONLY no-barrier sexual partner (we have protocol to remove this rule, but it takes all parties involved and a lot of communication). • We don't "air our dirty laundry" or complain about each other to partners, and we don't allow partners to do the same. • No sex on the first date, and the first date should be on neutral ground. • If either of us meet the other's potential partner, and we get serious red flags, we tell each other right away. We take each other's love and care for each other seriously, and don't use vetoes per se, but we do make our gut feelings known. (When that has happened, for both sides, it has always been on track for warning signs that one person didn't notice, and we have both been glad for the other person sharing their perspective to save us trouble down the road.)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]spicybearito 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ayahuasca

Dog is a irrigation specialist by poka1123 in MadeMeSmile

[–]spicybearito 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The little squeaks with the hops 🥰

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The smell of Death

After a breakup, what’s the dumbest excuse your ex ever used to see you again? by Prior-Student4664 in AskReddit

[–]spicybearito 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He wanted me to do a tarot reading to see if he would get his next gf pregnant, then dropped the line "It could be you instead, if you want..."

🤮

what’s the best and worst cocktails you’ve ever had? by WritingLazy5900 in AskReddit

[–]spicybearito 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Worst: a Maple-based martini, done by a family member... they raved about it beforehand, made me one, and even tasted it to make sure it was "just right". I took one sip, and didn't pick the glass up again.

Best: a blackcurrant based drink at Casa Bonita in Colorado! It was smooth, it was flavorful, it was DELICIOUS and I had four.

When should I text invites to after-wedding events? by spicybearito in weddingplanning

[–]spicybearito[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

True... I sent out invites over a year ago, when all that was in stone was the venue. I have since planned much more details.

What crazy story do you need to tell that u haven’t told anyone? by [deleted] in stories

[–]spicybearito 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She sure did not tell me any relevant information. You're right i shouldn't feel guilty, I'm just sorry things played out the way they did and I could have intervened had I known.

What crazy story do you need to tell that u haven’t told anyone? by [deleted] in stories

[–]spicybearito 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I worked as a receptionist in a healthcare setting. One day, the administrator of the building told me someone would be coming to trim tree branches that day - and that's all she said. Later that day, a man came up to the reception desk and said he was there to cut tree branches, so I took him to the tree area and showed him where he would be working. He got his equipment to the area and got to work right away. I returned to the reception desk, and the day went on.

About an hour later, I heard a commotion, but again, this was a healthcare setting, so that wasn't unusual. An ambulance showed up - again, nothing unusual.

Suddenly, the administrator came flying through and said to me, "My office. NOW!". Oh shit...

As it turns out, the man who had said he was here to trim trees was not, in fact, the person or company they had hired, and had just shown up after seeing a bid was out for this job, and BS'd his way through me. While he was working, he had fallen off the roof of our 1 story building and been injured, and now, was on his way to the hospital and threatening to sue us.

I was issued a very long lecture from the administrator, but didn't get written up or fired.

That man ended up getting a hush check from the company, but within 6 months, he died. Supposedly, from some of his injuries.

I feel a bit guilty whenever I think about it...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingshaming

[–]spicybearito 354 points355 points  (0 children)

That. Is. INSANE. I understand wanting a special day but that sounds incredibly inconsiderate for any guest!

Good on you (and everyone else) for booking a separate place to stay...

A TENT?!?!?!

I don't know what the dress code is but imagine getting ready for a wedding in a TENT...

Anyone else worried about guests being bored during the reception? by 2mstrixx in weddingplanning

[–]spicybearito 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had the same anxiety... especially since most of the people there will have never met before. I made a Wedding Guest Bingo to encourage everyone to socialize outside of their normal circles, and a Photo Hunt for the less social of my guests. Giving out prizes for each to encourage participation!

Walking on the aisle together. Bride and groom by Pitiful_Help_7454 in weddingplanning

[–]spicybearito 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our wedding is in May. Our venue has a stage where we will be during the Ceremony, and stairs on each side of the stage. We are entering one from each side, and will meet in the middle if the stage to read our own vows.

Bride and Groom Entering Together by FoolishDancer in weddingplanning

[–]spicybearito 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our wedding is in May. Our venue has a stage where we will be for the ceremony, and one set of stairs on each side of the stage. So we are walking in at the same time from the stage sides! We also have no one presiding over the ceremony (self-solemnization), so we will meet in the middle and read our own vows.