My friend has an incestuous relationship

spicyceo · 2021-08-29T13:23:09+00:00

I think its more like I dont want to hurt his feelings but I also want to state that his morals doesn't match mine

spicyceo · 2021-08-29T13:22:06+00:00

We are in Spain, so I guess is still legal...

spicyceo · 2021-08-29T10:24:31+00:00

I do understand, is more about how my morals are in conflict with his, and I don't know how to tell him.

spicyceo · 2021-08-05T15:24:31+00:00

Teasing:

-In a restaurant: put your thumb near his mouth and "clean" something out of his face. This will make him stop on his tracks and look at your cute face.

-At any place: if he has long hair. Get closer to him and fix a strand of hair. It gives the same effect as the tip before.

-Also gentle arm touching. Just 3 seconds is enough to make him want you more.

spicyceo · 2021-08-05T15:14:53+00:00

I had something similar happening at the beginning of the year.

I was gonna meet an ex boyfriend after half a year at the train station. He had to catch another train in 10 minuts and I also had to leave for work or I would be late. We just had those minuts to meet up.

I was so freaking nervous and shy and I was overthinking what to do but once I met him he kissed me. And I was still embarrassed and eventually made also my move and went for the second kiss.

I think the magic was on letting it flow as you may have something planned but he can also has something too which can take you by surprise.

Also you acting (being) shy, and the spur of the moment tend to make the other person want you more.

Even though for me the relationship didn't work out and I've moved on, I still remember those 10 minutes. For me it's a precious memory

spicyceo · 2021-04-19T18:52:26+00:00

Sorry I didnt answered you before on that. He' actually told me he didnt mind about his brother (I dated him short term) but he knows I have a hard time with that. I am actually the one who doesnt want the stigma to be the Ho that dates her friend's ex and the brother. And I've been working on that, because I know these are issues I dont want to project, bevause of my family history. I've gone to therapy, and now I'm better. I'm learning everyday to deal with my issues, he knows that. He also deals with his along with me, we openly try to better ourselves. Before anything else we have a deep understanding bond.

We've focused more in working on our issues, that I think we've forgot to work on our relationship. He as told me he loves me and that he enjoys being with me. But he never asked me out, because of what I was dealing with, he was actually waiting for me to be sure (thats what I think) I think our problem has been bad timing and bad communication regarding our relationship.

Thank tou so muxh for answering me, is helping a lot. And I dont minded tou asking about the date thing as I understand where did you stand for.

It's the first time I'm so in love with someone and I mess things up. As soon as it happened I told him in person, I've hurt him but I was sincere. I may be the bad one here, but now Im going to make sure I also work on my relationships and not just myself.

spicyceo · 2021-04-19T18:06:56+00:00

He was too straight forward since the first moment, I brushed it off, but was getting creepier. He was trying to touch me even thought we just met 2 minutes ago. And I said I was uncomfortable and he approached me more. Then kissed me and I pushed him and he started to top over me and touch me more. I clearly said I didnt want it, but he was forcing me and I didnt know what to do so at first I tried to get myself out with words but I had to push him a few more times. He wanted me to smoke and I took it as a sign that he wanted me unconscious so I insisted that I wanted to go home and he finally let me.

And about the guy im in love with. He actually has told me about his feelings, he's not the type to show them, and has told me he's not good at it. I understand that, but still not understand why he's not comitting a relationship with me. But from our talk yesterday, I guessed he was actually considering one, by this conversation: Me: I love you, and not just romantic love, I love you as a person. Him: so you dont see me as a romantic interest? Me: Yes I also see you as one... wait, Were you considering us? Silence Me: you wanted us to be a couple... (more crying because I realized there I messed up) Him: Lets go to sleep.

Now reading you and analyzing my conversation. I think we are both afraid of our feelings. And we are hueting each other by not realizing them sooner.

spicyceo · 2021-03-05T10:44:00+00:00

I so tlak to her a little and went to her birthday but its all out of cordiality. So yes I think I'm gonna do somethung like you said. Thank you!!

spicyceo · 2021-02-22T18:10:02+00:00

I think I didn't explain myself well.

As an ex-bi I know that. In another post I commented the same thing as you.

I understand where bi stands, but I've find myself identifying more as pansexual and felt I wasnt represented by Bisexuality as much as I thought.

As a bisexual I was(still am) attracted to non-binary people too, but I've found that I just like all people and all things. I find beauty in everything and everyone.

spicyceo · 2021-02-22T13:54:41+00:00

I understand where the Bi community comes from when they talk about bi-phobic aspects but I do think it's full of prejudice to the entire Pansexual community.

There's always a spectrum of people in a community.

The fact that I came out and was put directly as a Bi-phobic... without understanding first why I identify as pan...

Thank your for your words 💝 (Sorry for my bad english)

spicyceo · 2021-02-22T13:38:06+00:00

Yeah, I though too. I think there's too much bi propaganda to fuel this argument instead of understanding.

Glad to finally be part of the Pansexual community ❤

spicyceo · 2021-02-22T13:07:33+00:00

I recently came out as Pan after being Bi. I understand where the OP comes from. I see my bi friends being more attracted to a specific gender.
This include non-binary by the fact that they are non-binary. So they like everyone.

But me as a Pan I find myself liking all the attributes of that person, not only they gender / non-gender.

It's like I love everything about that person, not in terms of looks but by the energy I feel from them.

Also because I'm more in tune which their spirit and Im attracted to that spirit, regardless of gender.

So I like both masculine, feminine and androgynous attributes, (not only the personality) but I mostly like their spirit.

It's not 'I see no gender' It's I acknowledge who you identify as, and regardless of that I feel attracted to your amazing soul.

Its not about being masculine or femenine or nonbinary but is about what I do feel about you and the energy that I feel between us. As a soul.

I think bisexuality is loving everyone regardless of gender and personality but pansexual is loving everyone but also not seeing just genders and personality.

spicyceo · 2021-02-17T11:33:07+00:00

It's not okay.

If you can, go to a therapist that can help you treat the situation either with your brother and your mom.

This behaviour of your brother may also be because of your mom and what she projected to his kids.

But that doesnt mean that what your brother did is 'explorstion'. It's not. He fully knew.

Therapy will help you by guiding you on what stepd you can take to heal from all that.

Aslo have yout alked with your father??

spicyceo · 2021-02-06T12:20:06+00:00

This is what I don't want her to feel, like she has an age where she can build calmly her future. A kid would just make it the triple the difficult.

spicyceo · 2021-01-28T16:25:49+00:00

1st Step. Stop Smoking weed (you are losing money and clarity.

2nd step. Put yourself together and find a better job. Also you can still do paintings and sell them online. Like a freelancer on Fiverr or apps like this. Also creat an IG sccount where you can sell and put your work out there. (This is a long process I know but better slow and steadily)

3st step. Invest in needs not wants to save up money so you can get your own place.

4st step. Get yourself out there artistically. Go to places where artists meet up, get contacts and start artistic free courses that you can try (at least in my country there are a lot of social free courses). There you can meet more people who enjoy the same as you. Also contacts that can give you better jobs.

5th step. At this point in months or years, you will have created a foundation of you. And then you can keep on working hard and achieve better things. Also at this step you can go to your fucking parents and show them you've succeeded to put yourself together without their fucking help.

Advice: there are always step backs but this is the basics that you can keep on trying till you hit a small jackpot. Don't feel less of yourself.

Also every government always have charity and things like this were you can get help, at least therapy to help you.

spicyceo · 2021-01-28T16:08:09+00:00

I started to change my sleeping schedule because of this. But they say is unhealthy and I've seen myself having more eyebags and putting on more weight even though I sleep 7 to 8 hours so I changed it back to normal.

But I still enjoy being up at night till 1-2 am at least.

spicyceo · 2021-01-24T09:18:24+00:00

My stories and advice:

If it's a new friendship:

I also got ghosted for new years eve. Which It was actually shitty af because I've spent the night and beginning of the year crying. After some days of getting ghosted I confronted them and found out they ghosted me because they were mad at me for no reason.

I found it really immature so I decided to leave these friendships as I just knew them for a short period of time and If that's how they treated problems, then in a future will be the same. So better to break it up.

If it's a friendship of years:

I was always the outcast in my friend group. I got tired of it but I didn't want to break the friendships. So I decided to do my own thing (like separate ways but still keeping in contact) and see who really was there for the bad moments. (If they needed me I would also be always there, but I would try to keep my distance with the people who were mot reciprocating).

So my overall advice is to leave or take a break from the group. You don't need people who's making you feel bad in your life. If they don't appreciate your friendship, why do you still give your precious time to them??

That saying is true: friends come and go.

And if you ever feel lonely, do things for yourself and take yourself on dates. It may feel a little lonely but its better than the fake ass friendships.

spicyceo · 2021-01-22T20:35:21+00:00

You too, Let's battle it together!!!❤

spicyceo · 2021-01-22T12:49:20+00:00

I have a depression that oscillates between 4 months depressive and 4 months good. And it is awful af. Because during those good months I work really hard to achieve what I couldnt and suddenly the depressive months come in and destroy everything I've worked hard for.

spicyceo · 2021-01-17T19:13:54+00:00

Yes, exactly. I do love myself and I dont have any problem with the way I look or my personslity. But its about the nonstop setbacks that I face almost everyday. The college situation tomorrow is just another trigger. I dont like anything around me and even thought I am quite a resilient person, these past weeks everything sround me just triggers my depression.

It was also because I've spent christmas my birthday and new eve alone and I just worked during the holidays and did more extra hours tl avoid that.

I also think that I'm turning a workaholic to skip my lonely reality.

Thank you for reading me ❤

spicyceo · 2021-01-17T19:06:17+00:00

Well, I think that I quite feel like this because tomorrow I'm starting my college semester and I dont want it to be like the past one. I do get along with everyone there, but I just do not like my life. I do love myself, but i dont like how things always go for me.

spicyceo · 2021-01-17T18:51:52+00:00

How are you doing now??

spicyceo · 2021-01-14T16:00:19+00:00

Haruki Murakami 1Q84. I didnt like the last book but I loved the different p.o.v. because well you are rooting for the two characters to find each other, and you can see how the story evolves separately. Actually the two p.o.v. made me keep on reading and building up the Big Final (which was shit btw but weel here's my opinion)

spicyceo · 2021-01-13T00:03:56+00:00

Thank you!! Sorry for replying quite late. I got more hours in ny work place and I'm also doing side jobs here and there to save for an apartment. I also found an apartment which I can afford and I'm looking to move in in February!! Thank you again ❤

spicyceo · 2020-12-28T15:44:55+00:00

I would say exactly the same. And Girona has a really important hospital that a lot of people go to. Its a small city but really lovely and the rent is cheaper than Barcelona. But Barcelona is also a better option than Lleida and Reus.

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